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Hi Nell, Thats what I noticed too, loads of people have done lookups and nobody has checked them to find out the reply. Ok maybe they did send pm but not all of the could have. Thanks for the message you added Nell. Betty

Hi All, , I got a P M today off somebody( Will not mention name) asking for me to help them as i had helped them before. Asking for 2 census look ups i done them and sent them this morning. Still not had a reply but they said it was urgent now do you understand why people get fed up doing looks ups. June x

I can understand how frustrating it must be when people don't check or reply when you have done a lookup. In my defence I am in Australia and I sometimes post a request before going to bed and then check early morning my time. I always make a point of thanking the person who has done the lookup. I have never been offended by someone asking for more info. especially when I was new to this game and wasn't always sure about what was needed. I think most people would agree that some of the people who do lookups go beyond what you have asked for and supply information that has added greatly to what you are researching. I am most grateful to all the people who have taken the time to help me. Susan

Betty, I first had a moan about this back in July last year ! The thread was generally OK ... but sure enough, the thread started getting quite argumentative and eventually I deleted and then added my 'advice' to the Newbie thread that Lovely Laura started. (I've just nudged that) ...On first page ! I think a lot of newbies, just don't expect an instant response and therefore go about doing what they would do normally. I have to add, that personally, I never go back to see if anyone has acknowledged info I have left. I only return to a thread 1) whilst I'm still adding info to it, 2) if I need to change something or 3) if I'VE asked a question. If the poster doesn't come back then tough ! they are loosing out not me ! I never want or expect thanks .... my reward is finding the correct info thats been requested. Lets hope more people keep the 'Newbie' thread available - especially on Wednesday/Thursdays (after that stupid programme has been on TV !) Elaine ;-)

Hi everyone, Thanks for all you messages in reply to my thread, it has been interesting reading, everyone has different points of view. Betty

Hi Betty As you can see from the Durham Lookups thread.... There are some people who... when you request more information..as where to find a Baptism or marriage...etc ..took place... they dont even bother and look back at the thread until after the visit and wonder why their request has not been looked at.... Last year I spent a lot of time looking up the info finding the families on census or whatever before I even got to the point of going to the records Office.. I was having to private message people to get more information... Now if people dont read what I put on my first thread board.. If no extra info comes... I leave the request.. people should post what they they know about the families..where they were etc..which would save me loads of time in looking for the information especially when people already have that info at hand Simple as that... I dont stress over it.. I just get on with the ones who supply the information that is needed.. Mo Everyone is new on these boards at one point or another... I was once and I had to go make tea and I was really hurt by what was said to me.. I was only away from the comp for 10 mins.. I took it in my stride and got on with it.. People cannot sit at their computers 24 - 7 and these boards are very daunting when you first become a member..so a lot of people allow for that... But there is no need for people to be rude and not say Thanks.. THANKS COST YOU NOTHING but MEANS EVERYTHING TO THE PERSON WHO HAS DONE THE REQUIRED LOOKUP.. which makes it all worthwhile Mo

I just think it would be so easy for the poster to post their request and then add something like 'will check for replies tomorrow, next week, next month, or whatever' if they don't have time to hang around for a reply. At least we would know not to expect a response from them straight away. And if they do only come back to the boards after a week or a month or some such, then there is no need to put 'desperate' or 'urgent' in the title. Kath. x

I feel a bit guilty sometimes when I have asked for a look up on someones very long thread such as bvri and having checked it a few times to see if they have got round to me, the thread goes off the page and sometimes I forget to recheck again until days later and see that they have checked but found nothing. I always thank them, but I wonder if they feel badly that I havent seen it quicker. I apologise if I have upset anyone, but its me age Im afraid. I have to say some people are dreadfully rude, you flog yourself to death looking up stuff and you dont get a word of acknowledgement. I think this is such a wonderful site, I dont know what I would have done without the experienced people who have not only found me info I would never even know how to get (i.e. going to LMA) but also have saved me a great deal of money. I am always very aware that I owe them so very much and I do hope Ive always shown that appreciation.

I will echo Heather here. I've had some great help, look-ups and advice, from people on here, that's saved me loads of money too. I have rellies all over the country & it would be really expensive & time consuming visiting all the different records offices. I'm still quite new to all this (but like to think I'm a quick learner LOL) I know there's still loads of stuff I don't know. Reading these threads shows that people have expertise in different areas, I think those who have been doing it a lifetime will acknowledge even they can't know EVERYTHING. I wonder if the Internet has made it all seem too easy, so that some of the people asking for help genuinely don't realise how time-consuming and/or expensive it is?

I think it is rude if people don't respond with a thankyou, manners costs nothing, although I am someone who is responsible for not replying straight away as I am also usually studying when I use this site. I am sure if anyone who reads this and knows they are gulity will know never to repeat the offence. Maybe they should don't realise that it does take time and money. Sorry, I am always the mediator! x