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Congratulations Nicola, I am pleased this site enabled you to find your family and that the meeting with your mum goes really well, we can only imagine the choices women had to make in the past with all the predjudices etc that were around at the time.

Best wishes

Linda

My very best wishes too!!!!!!!! - to all of you! - those who have 'connected' and those of you who are still longing to 'connect'.

I hope one day you will all get what you wish for.

Dea x

Oh Nicola - I am so happy for you - I do hope your meeting with your mother is a good one - I'm sure it will be - she must be both nervous and excited too - I know I would be!!

Ann XXX

Hi
I waited 40+ years to begin my search & thanks to this site made contact with my sister within a week!!
In 1965 I was adopted out, being a secret baby of unwed teenager, how low were my expectations???

Instead I am there in black & white on my birth family tree!! Having purchased 50 search credits I've found everyone & still have 43 credits remaining!! I hope to speak with my birth mother soon, she is in a state of shock at the moment, not least because she's just discovered, aged 63 she has two great grandchildren!

My advice to you all is stick with this site, keep your email address current. If you do that your loved ones will find you within days of commencing the search.

Good luck & best wishes.

Hi Nicola,

Thanks for the suggestions, We are already doing some of the things you have mentioned, and with the price of driving lessons, car, insurance etc I would expect it to come very useful.

Thanks again for your input as always it is very much appreciated. x

Hi

Another thought, put something in the box anytime you think of the child. I'd be amazed if I wasn't in my mothers thoughts on my birthday & at Christmas. What would be really special would be to know you thought of us on random days just because we are important. Hope that makes sense?
On a more parctical level rather than buying birthday / christmas cards & or presents, I'd suggest you save the cash somewhere, money box or jar or even a bank account. Call it the "reunion celebration fund" hopefully you will only have enough for a Macdonalds as the reunion will be soon, if however, your lost children are like me & wait 40 odd years before looking, imagine how great it'd be.
I hope that doesn't come across as mercenary. We who start to search do so with very low expectations, it's certainly not for material gain. I just think if I find my family a box of presents would be very much appreciated for the thoughts, but a glass of champagne for us all......hopefully you understand my point.

Good luck

Hi Christine,

I am really pleased for you, hope everything goes well and you manage to sort out a regular visits with your little grandson.

If only everyone could put aside the adults feelings and do what is right for the children !!

best wishes
Linda

Hi all

have had some brilliant news this morning -
managed to locate my d-in-l's mum!
spoken on the phone - she is going to meet me in a couple of weeks - with the little one!
she thinks it's disgraceful that my d-in-l hasn't let us see him.
so stick with it! hope we all have happy endings

Love Christine x

Hi msk,

Nicola Jane hs given some VERY useful advice - from the other side!!

Let's hope you connect one day and it will prove worthwhile!!

Dea x

Hi Nicola Jane,

Thankyou for the post, it has been nice to hear from someone who is on the other side of the coin and your suggestions are very much welcomed as I had not thought of all the things Aaliyah might want to know.

I hope that anyone else who reads this thread, that may be in the same position will find it useful.
I wish you all the very best of luck in your search Nicola and a great big Thankyou to you and everyone X

Let's hope Linda comes back to this thread and reads Nicola Jane's post!!

Nicola Jane,

That is SUCH good advice!!

Looked at from the other point of view it is very helpful.

I have saved newspapers from the day my grand-daughter was born, and made notes of her progress BUT, I never thought to put in details of what WE were doing !

Looking at it now, that is exactly what she would want - details of us, NOT her !!

Put this in your box or diary !!
Thank you for the tip.

Dea x

Hi
I was adopted at birth, I had a great upbringing with all the love & stability anyone could be expected to give. However, my birth family were never far from my thoughts even though I never knew them (I was only 6 weeks old when I went to my adopted family).

I'm certain Aaliyah will return one day, it's taken me 43 years to begin my search but now I've started I can't stop. I just want you all to know the children are thinking of you too. Don't give up hope.

The box is a great idea, I'd suggest you include things about yourselves, not just thoughts of the missing child, I want to know what my family have been doing and what my connections are, where do I get my talents from? etc.

Best wishes to you all.

Me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have one 'lovely' grand-daughter and a very new grandson - They are 'my world' - I can't imagine my life without contact with them.

I wish you all good wishes and hope that sometime in the future you will be re-united.

NEVER give up hope!

Life can be SO sad sometimes but you can't give up - One day they may need you and come looking.

Thinking of you all

Dea Xxx

well I for one am very glad I was able to be of some help to you - and I do hope that one day your dreams and hopes are realised

Ann X

Hi Cathy,

We have started our box today, and I have to say it is very theraputic.
Its about Aaliyah and our feelings for her and if we are lucky one day she will have this box and know that she was never forgotten and very much loved and missed, only circumstances beyond our control prevented us from having contact.
I hope other people who read these posts and perhaps find themselves in this position will also find it helpful.

Thankyou to everyone who took the time to reply X

Hi all of you
I have read and shed tears too...for you and also for myself and my husband..we too are living with the pain of not having any contact with our grandaughter,and I just wanted to say the box idea is wonderful and I too will be putting it into practice. Thankyou all of you cause by sharing something of yourselves you have given me a great deal tonight.
cathy x

thankyou everyone for your kind words
My grandson was the reason I started my family tree research.
I only knew one grandmother and one grandfather (very breifly).
I have started a diary for Leo in which I record all my thoughts about him and how much I love and miss him.
Hopefully one day he will get to read it.
Think the box is a great idea too.
Christine

I think we can involve the whole family and then her cousins can be involved too, as they grow older they will know who she is and feel some connection not just a name ( Aaliya's box ) we shall start tomorrow when my 4yr old grandson comes to visit.

Thanks again X

So glad I thought of it - it is something I would do myself!! I think it will be a great comfort for you to do it

Ann XX