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Madmeg

Madmeg Report 13 Apr 2009 01:43

Hi Romany Star

Of course your past is important, it shapes the present and the future in lots of ways. So long as you don't dwell on the "bad" bits and use your findings in a positive manner, I think it is important to know where you came from. It adds to your overall feeling of identity. We all need that.

I always knew who my immediate family were, so I didn't commence with your situation. I thought they were all lovely people, and researching family history has shown me that they weren't always so lovely, they were like most families, with some good and some not-so-good, more illegitimate births than I care to mention, in a way that has made me feel less smug that I used to feel, and more understanding about how people work today.

I think you will get a lot out of it.

Good luck

Maggie

RStar

RStar Report 12 Apr 2009 20:02

Thanks Maggie and Carol, lovely to hear from you.
People who have never been interested in genealogy often say 'but why trace the past, live for the present'. They have a point in some ways, but I think we can be happier or at least more stable in our lives if we at least understand the past - even if the past wasn't a great one, or if we don't like what we discover, its the not-knowing and the uncertainity of 'Who am I, do I look like my relations?' that can upset the balance in life, and can affect bonding with peoples own families. I'll leave it at that anyway, hope everyone has had a relaxing Easter. x

Madmeg

Madmeg Report 12 Apr 2009 19:47

Hello Romany Star

That is all said with meaning. So glad you have found your "roots".

Love

Maggie

RStar

RStar Report 12 Apr 2009 17:51

missing family. Im posting on here because it's my favourite board, but just wanted to say it's exactly 10 years since I found my family, I had nothing to go on (initially) except my fathers first name. From the day I discovered I had a father, 6 half siblings, stacks of aunties and cousins and even nieces and nephews, my life changed. I knew who I was, where I had come from, and nothing was 'missing' anymore. Have now traced my fathers family tree, to gain more knowledge of my ancestry. If you are searching for a living relation, please don't give up. Have a long break if its needed, but there is so much info out there waiting to be discovered and you'll find peace within yourself. Good luck. xx