Genealogy Chat

It seems very likely that I have found a half sister - how do I go about contacting her without causing any anguish, as she probably knows nothing about my existance?

Anyone have any tips please?
Ann

Do you have an address for her that you could send a letter

Good Luck x

Hi Karan,

I would suggest that you tread very carefully.

Someone else asked a similar question a while back and got some very good advice, I just wish I could find it so that you could read it. If I remember correctly, it was suggested that sending a letter saying you are researching your family history, giving a few details. Just don't give too much away so that she realises you are her half sister, could be too much of a shock. You could then ask if they have any knowledge of the people you have come across. I think it was also suggested that a sae should be included.

Good luck, don't rush into sending the letter, think very carefully about your wording first.

Chris

I agree with Chris. Think carefully about what you say at first.

I'd suggest that you just say you are researching your family tree and think you may be related in some way. You could mention a grandparent or great-grandparent that you have in common (rather than mentioning that you think you have a parent in common). Give a few dates and places and enclose a stamped addressed envelope. Keep your letter quite informal and don't push for too much detail until you get the first reply and take it from there.

Kath. x

Well explained Kath.

Chris

There's this thread that might be helpful, could be the one Chris meant:

www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards.asp?wci=thread&tk=815114

Very best of luck anyway