Genealogy Chat

HI When I started this family tree building I was interested in finding out where I came from and who my relatives were. Now I think I may have come across a sister I didn't even know I had!! Has anyone experienced anything like this while they've been searching for their relations? I have no idea what to do next so any tips anyone can give me would be gratefully received. Regards

Difficult to say without knowing more - and it may not be best to disclose too much but some things that may need to be considered before anyone can give advice...are both parents the same.......are your parents still alive.......who else would be affected if you tried to make contact?? There was a similar theme not that long ago so maybe see if you can find it, if I can I'll nudge it for you but can't remember which board it was on Helena

Debbie did you see message I nudged from 'Pam always stressed'? Its different but may give you some ideas Helena

Yes both parents are the same, my dad is gone but my mum is still alive, she was the one that told me about her. I don't think she would have told me if I hadn't been doing family history work. I've checked out the birth certificate and I understand that she is actually registered on GR but I haven't been able to confirm that

Thanks for that Helena, there are some very relative points in that post. I believe she's been trying to trace my mother but that was a number of years ago so not sure if she's interested anymore. Just have to cross my fingers and hope for the best at this stage

Debbie You have to consider what your Mum wants to do. I'd chat to her about it and between you try and decide. Was your sibling adopted? It may be that they'd like to be found and reunited with your mother butits difficult to know. Does your Mum have the birth certificate? Helena

We had a chat when my mum was down a couple of weeks ago and she emailed me to tell me that she has contacted the adoption agency to try to trace her. I think I'm still reeling from the shock of finding out about her. I got her birth certificate from the GRO

I would take some time to think about it, let Christmas pass and maybe in the New Year try and make contact. But if you take your time to make a decision then its more likely to be the right decision, as you say your still reeling from the news so best not to have a knee jerk reaction. I wish you the best of luck with this and get back if you want to 'bounce ' any ideas around Helena

Thanks Helena for the great advice Regards Debby

Your welcome Maybe others will add their views later and give you some other ideas. Remember your Mum (and Dad) are still the same people they were and while it will take some time to accept this news your Mum was very brave telling you, she must love and trust you very much to disclose the info, she could have hoped you'd never find out. Just remember to consider her feelings what ever you do Helena

Hi Debby, Was your sister adopted? I ask because if she does belong to this site, some of our adoptees have added posts about who they would like to contact on one of the adoption threads started by Jess. Unfortunately I don't recall the exact title of that specific thread. Jay

Not that close a family member,we may have been lucky cos skeletons wern't kept,but, i have made contact with others who are related way back in both sides of the family,and, with my cousin who was from the only one of my mums siblings who got divorced,# What a joy to have got all the family back cos it wasnt the childrens fault that their parents got divorced