Genealogy Chat

My dad died 40 years ago on 24th August, the same day as my brother's 9th birthday. Imagine how painful that was each year. On the up side, my 5 children form a pattern of their own - eldest born Leicester Royal, next Ashby Cottage Hospital, then one at home, then Ashby again and the youngest at Leicester. The first two were born on the 5th (July/Oct); the middle three are all in October, two years apart (1980/82/84) - no planning! The eldest and youngest were both due 15th July, both arrived early - the eldest 5th July and youngest 15th June. Jan

My Mum passed away the day before their 51st wedding anniversary. Although it was good that they reached their Golden last year, Dad was very upset that she didn't quite make it one more day, bless him. Her cremation was on my inlaws' Golden Wedding anniversary (also FIL's birthday) and her ashes were interred the day after my husband's birthday (we were offered his birthday but fortunately they also had a slot the following day. Mandy x

What is the difference between public and private graves? A public grave (or common grave) is where the right to burial cannot be purchased and the grave remains in the total control of the Council. The Council decides who is to be buried in the grave and this might not be members of the same family. No memorial rights exist on public graves and so no headstone or other memorial can be erected. This form of burial requires only the payment of the interment fee, saving the cost of making the grave private. A private grave is where the Exclusive Right of Burial can be purchased for a period of 100 years or 50 years (25 years for the Cremated Remains Garden). The owner of the Right of Burial can decide who will be buried in the grave and memorials are permitted.

I've got so many coincidental dates I'm going to start a chart. There's a particularly strange one whereby a lot of people have been born or died on the 6th of a month. Very weird. I heard of people being buried in communal graves if they were really, really poor - maybe that is what the 'public' graves refer to.

My Mum died on the 7th July 2002 which was my sisters 60th birthday Margaret

on the buriel record page i had printed out, some buriels were--private/public/1st class/2nd class/3rd class/ what does all that mean? i presume private ment just family attended, but what was public and 1st 2nd & 3rd class? G.Granddad had a 3rd class buriel. Chris.

my nan died on her 45th wedding anniversary :( michelle

very sad that. Our Pops died on the 19th Dec 1975 and cos it was so near to Xmas his funeral couldn't be held till after Xmas. We rejected the 28th Dec cos that was his birthday!! ,( Pops held off passing from the 17th to the 19th Dec cos bros birthday was the 18th and 'he couldnt do THAT to my boy' bless him!! We had his funeral/cremation on the 30th Dec 1975. Memories!!! still miss him & mum who joined him in 1980 Shirley

Hi Chris, It`s funny how coincidence follows families......whilst I have been researching my family tree I have come across dates that relate to family members now some 100-150 years later. Birth dates and marriage seem to crop up, and it makes you think if they could envisage a similar link date so far in their future!!! kathlyn

That's sad. :(

her birthday!! how sad!! i went to the liberary today and had a look at the buriel register were my G.Gran is buried, i wanted to see if she was buried with her husband,and yes she was,and he was buried on her birthday!! oh poor Gran:( Chris.