Genealogy Chat

I feel bad coming on here as the phrase “Teaching your gran to suck eggs” springs to mind! However, if this can be of any help I would like to tell you my experience re Irish records. I have searched for the past four years for my G. Grandparents grave. The only thing I had was a marriage cert (1870) which gave his age as 20years and hers 19years. I knew they had moved and lived in Dublin. I then found them on the 1911 Dublin census. They would have then been aged 62 and 61 respectively. Mary, my G.Gran was listed as aged 40years and her husband 56!! They were then living with their daughter (my nana) whose age was given as 30years (correct) Yeah! So Mary gave birth at ten years of age.LOL Going by what I knew to be their correct ages I have searched records even taken into consideration one of them could have died the day after the census was taken. Unlikely, I admit but I was taken no chances! As I did not know what age they died at I searched the records until they would have reached one hundred years of age without success. I had tried Emailing the cemetery where I was almost sure they were buried but they informed me without date/dates of death they could not help. I should mention it is a huge cemetery. Last week I returned to Dublin and again spent days in the records office looking for William and Mary L=== from North Dublin and again, no luck. The following day I was driving by the cemetery and decided to got into their records office and try yet again!. I informed a very nice young man I only had my G.Grandparents names and the street where they had lived. He went into a back computer room and returned five minutes later saying, “Sorry, I can only find Mary but can’t find William her husband” I could have kissed him! The sad news was, Mary was buried in a pauper’s grave. This grave/space was later purchased by a family named Clarke. They had erected a headstone and I was informed I could not lay anything on that grave. He gave us a very good plan on where to find the grave, ironically, just inside the cemetery railings I had passed so many times on my visits back to Dublin, close enough to almost reach out and touch! I had found her at last. Her age was given on the burial sheet as 65years, she was in fact 73. Now, here is where I had gone wrong! I was looking for an older Mary from NORTH Dublin but she had died in the workhouse in SOUTH Dublin and her death was registered there. I had seen so many records with the correct name, but not the correct age and ignored them because they were registered in the South of the City. I have so much to learn about genealogy! My poor G.Gran, I had to respect the wishes of the young man in the records office and not place even a bunch of flowers on the grave. Can I just whisper I said a prayer and placed the flowers to the SIDE of the grave the following day. I am now a bit wiser and will continue to look for William taking everything into consideration. I am sad to know that despite family objections these young lovers married and from stories passed down were happy but very poor. How sad they could not be together in death.