Genealogy Chat

My head is officially spinning..... just a tic....

So there I am going back through census' to attach the records to my family tree. My Gr.Gr.Grandfather Harry Richards married Mary Ann Goble and I've already dealt with the goble side so I head up the Richards side, Quite by accident as I'm working on Harry, he's living with his step sister Annie and her family so I wander off on a tangent and follow the Pullen line that she married into. Now these aren't blood relatives.... Annie was from Harry's Mothers first marriage, and she married into the Pullens so I figure I'll just trace them through the census and leave it at that. Well.... I THOUGHT they weren't blood relatives...... I look at Annies husband Harry Pullen, go back till I find his parents and siblings. Quite by chance look for one of the siblings Charles after he leaves home and find him with a wife and child. Figure while I'm at it i'll check BMD for a marriage, sure enough it's there. And it's the only possible match. What's his wifes maiden name I hear you cry..... It's Goble! Now wait just one cotton picking minute.... that's supposed to be on the OTHER side of this part of the tree. So I dig deeper and sure enough it looks like she comes from my other Goble family. I know I've got to get certs to double check but still. Ever had the feeling you're going round in circles?? Helen --x--

You'll probably find that you are your own Grandfather if you go around often enough!

Sue, that was so funny! Helen....who maried into which family then and what is their relationship to each other?

lol Sue I do hope not.... both my grandfathers are dead ;)

Oh, Helen, how well I know the feeling. I suppose that the further back we go, the greater is the chance of people marrying people to whom they were in some way related. The smaller the area they came from, the greater the possibility (smaller pool to choose from). I have a brother and sister marrying an aunt and nephew (that took a bit of working out!). And I am convinced that my grandfather's step-father (my great grandmother's second husband) was in fact a distant cousin of hers, although I have yet to track down the connection. But I will get it in the end - if it kills me! Tina

Mandy I'm trying to figure that out.... Harry Richards was married to a Goble that I've traced back to my 5xGr Grandparents Gobles. Harry's Step sisters Husbands Brother married a goble that appears to be decended from a Different son of the 5x Gr Grandparents than the one Harry's wife is decended from. So if it's any clearer Harry's step brother in laws great grandfather was the brother of Harry's wifes great grandfather. Ugh! It's 4.30 am I should NOT be trying to get my head around this! Helen

This doesnt seem at all strange to me! I am so used to my ancestors marrying people they were related to in some way, that if I find someone marrying a random stranger I desperately search for the family link. If I cannot find one, I wonder what was wrong with them - why did none of their relations want to marry them?! OC

Lol @ OC! Helen, as you suggest, that is all as clear as mud to me too! It literally is a circle! And I really think you ought to go to bed...it's 12.40pm here....but i guess you have no work to go to tomorrow?

Lol, OC, Were they keeping the money in the family? Helen, I thought I was going around in a circle then two sides joined and it looked like a figure-of-eight, then found more connections and now it's just a tangle, lol. Heather

I have one particular line that lived and died in the Brixton, London area. Inter marrying was the norm rather than the exception and when one did, eventually, marry 'out' to someone from a small Suffolk village who was a servant in Brixton then the rest of the family used this new gene pool to their advantage......They brought young female 'relations' from the village to marry the older unmarried or widowed men!!! Like OC I am now very wary if I find a strange surname marrying in to this line :))) Chris

Heather You have hit the nail on the head - they were farmers and were obviously interested in keeping it all in the family! This branch of the family is so complicated that I have been forced to do a tree for the whole village, lol, and am reduced to showing individuals who share the same name, in coloured stickmen and ladies to distinguish one Mary Green from another. OC