Genealogy Chat

Linda This has happened to me a couple of times and it's soooo maddening,but i don't put all my tree on GR now,and don't automatically give permission to veiw my tree until i'm sure.

Incidentally - that ''hide living'' option isn't absolutely effective. If one of the living folks on your tree shares a name with one of the earlier ones (hardly unusual) then if someone searches for the name, that living one will come up as ''Living Living''! - A bit of a giveaway, I'd say! Christine

Hi There It could be possible that he has added your info to his personal file.. and rather than update two tree's he has imported his Gedcom file...to GR... Which could be a reason why he has come up in your new hotmaches... Mo

Hi I've just found that someone I sent info to for use in their private records have entered them on their tree here and Ancestry one world tree. (Sent by email not via my tree here. I sent the stuff when I first joined GR, before I realised it was better not to!) These are not living people but include my aunts, uncles and father. I've asked her to remove the dates, but haven't heard back from her yet and I realise there's not much else I can do. I feel a bit let down as we seemed to be on the same wave length and she'd given me lots of info about her side of the family. I just want to say, as others have, keep the details very brief for more recent ancestors, you don't know where they're going to end up. Heather

Good idea, done that, though I better now go in and 'kill off' a few people with an estimated dod. Mavis

If you go to account details you now have an option to hide living people. Even if you want to share I think that is a sensible precaution especially if you have details of children on your tree. It hides people born in the last 120 years unless you have added a death date which is more generous than most other programmes. My contacts is where you withdraw tree permission.

Think the answer has to be, don't used GR as your main tree, just put the very basic info on it, enough to identify a possible match, and hopefully stop too many wild enquiries. Then share by pm what you are prepared to share, and don't put anyone alive on, even with their permission, keep them for your main tree. There are other ways to contact the cousin you haven't seen since you were 14 if you really want to. Mavis

Didn't even realize I could do that. He's added 34 of my rellies up to the present day. Just looked back at my contacts and this person said if I ever find out anything else I'll contact you. Hmmm Thanks Linda

Before even sending a message to them or GR i would withdraw the tree access,often that will give them a jolt. Glen

Send a polite request/rollicking to the contact,asking them to either remove the details or face being reported to GR for abuse. After all did they seek your permission for your name to be on their tree,and the permission of each living person in your family? Granting access is different to granting permission,and it's about time some people realised that they can look but shouldn't always touch. Glen

Some months ago someone contacted me with reference to one of my relatives back in 1850.............................. We shared trees and found that is was a fairly tenuous link and that was that.....Today I received the whole of MY side of the family in my Hot Matches including me...Went back to look at his tree and we are all on it. To be asked would have been nice, I am just going back for a proper look and see how he's linked it all up. Calming down with a cuppa. Linda