Genealogy Chat

How comes people dont answer your messages in the hot matches? :( I have this hot match and im almost 100% sure the person in the match is my uncle (makes me think this cus same name same year of birth same town of birth only person of that name in that year in that town) ive messaged the lady whom owns this name 2 in case she didnt get the first message but no reply :( im sure if it is the same person as mine that big massive brick wall would come crashing down for me :) sorry for maoning lol as said im impatient sometimes lol Angie x

Hi Angela... A bit of a positive thought for you.... maybe she is just on holiday or hasn't checked her e-mails as yet!!! Hope she gets in contact with you & this is your uncle!! GoodLuck Sui

1) they are non fee paying members and don't realise they can reply to your messages. 2) they have left the site and not removed their tree. 3) they are nolonger able to access the site for some reason - illness, death, etc 4) They have forgotten that they registed with the site and sice changed their email 5) They are rude Take you pick of the above

Angela, I suppose you can't force people to answer, and sometimes they may be away or ill. But it is a pain, when they've put the names there, knowing that's where others will look. I've still got my hot match with 40 of my names, on all sides, and she won't answer. I'm getting a bit scared about putting names on my tree here, because if this person is for real, she is a very close relative, and I really have no idea who she is.

it is so frustrating I feel as though this lady may well have the piece of dynamite to blow up this wall i have in front of me :( since getting the marriage certificate 2 days ago ive managed to track down my great grandad and great great grandad so well pleased with that, but its this one thats really bugging me cus cant find any birth at all for my nan tho Monty the star x did give me an idea earlier (im a little dim sometimes lol) I hope you all get replies to your hot matches im hoping the lady hasnt checked her emails (im hoping she hasnt left the site lol) Angie xx

I'm leaning towards Lunar's number 5. Unfortunatly I've had a lot of people never get back to me. I now add at the end please let me know either way. It's not that hard to hit reply and say soryy not a match, best of luck. }:-( Gypsyjoe

She may not know she has a message. I am not getting any emails from GR to tell me I have a message. If she doesn't frequently check the site she may not know you're trying to contact her. Hope you get your message soon and I get the one I sent too. Waiting is not something that I, and I suspect you, are good at. Toni

Know how you feel. I've sent messages toa few people that I know are very good matches, (same name, age, place of birth etc) and get no reply, I email them a 2nd time, and still the same. It's very frustrating Good luck Kath

I'm sure that none of these reasons apply to YOU, but the reason I dont answer some Hotmatch enquiries is this: Hi, can I see your tree, I think we are related. Hi, mine was born in Wales and we must be related (Who????) Hi, can you tell me who she married please? Hi, Ive only been doing my tree for a month and have already managed to put 1500 people on it, and one of them is your Mary Green, born in 1698. So - I dont answer anything which doesnt have details of the NAME (LOL, do they think I only have one person in my tree and automatically know who they mean) and the supposed linking point. Ditto for requests out of the blue about an individual without a bit more detail. And I NEVER EVER open my tree to ANYONE, certainly not to idle browsers! Olde Crone

Olde Crone, Do they really send you mails without a name? I thought the name was always put in automatically as the mail 'subject'. It's useful when they add dob & pob . Sarah :-)