Genealogy Chat

Do you know when your mum was born?? If you do, then surely you can find the marriage of your grandparents? And you would know when your mum's conception took place? Then there is the tricky bit of finding the brother's death (either before or after the conception).....Even if his name was John Smith, you are presumably going to know how old he was at the time and if he was a young man, there will not be so many deaths in that age group as in other age groups. Plus I imagine the funeral, and place of death, were somewhere around the same area your nan was living?....... Keep trying...... Merry

just remeber in 'them days' they didn;t induce labour - a woman was pregnant until she gave birth. My Grandma was pregnant 10/11 months with my uncle - they'd never let it go that far today.

Hi Olde Crone, Some dates would be so very helpful, but so far I do not have any or I would have done my own research. I am talking here of legend and old peoples memories. However, I shall will not give up just yet. There is still a little (very long shot) digging I can do before I give up totally. regards TGx

Sorry if I am being a bit thick, but how do the dates pan out? When did the poor man die? How long after the funeral did your Nan and his brother marry, or more to the point, how long after the death of the fiance was the child born? Even if the name was dead common such as John Smith, you can only have a limited window in which to search for his death - any John Smith who died more than ten months before the subsequent birth cannot be the father. The ones who are left might be! I hope that all makes sense! Olde Crone

Your welcome :) xx

Thank you Ann TGxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Tiger Lily I guess we ALL share a need to know who we are. This, however, is not always possible:( It's good to share your feelings on GR with folks who understand the emotions of it all. I have had GREAT support+ advice from folks on here + am sure you will have too. Regards Ann

I have posted no details here for obvious reasons. My nan was engaged and sadly her fiance died (no details available). His brother returned to England from abroad to attend the funeral. He and nan clicked and married, producing a baby girl (my mum) less than three months later. Just an ordinary 'shotgun wedding'. But I have grown up with the ledgend that my mothers real father was the dead brother. Colouring and temperament were further details which reinforced this thought. Now I have found my granddad in the 1901 census as a child with one brother with such a commom name as to make research the needle in a haystack variety. I know he had another brother after 1901 but he lived to a ripe old age. There are three relatives left behind who have some knowledge of events, but none can remember the dead brothers name, or know exactly when he died. So that's it! If there was a third brother there is no way of researching him and the ledgend can now not be proved or disproved. Perhaps one day a aged relative will say something...give some clue.. and if I can still reach a computer I will be there like a shot. Why do I want to know the truth? I just do. Regards TGx

16 minutes later i wonder if you have gone POP with frustration!

Give me a mo please.