Genealogy Chat

This reminds me a couple of years ago I found someone hunting one of the names that I was, she was in Australia and studying to be a nurse. She didn't have must to go on, so I offered to help, found the details in the indexing which in those days was in London. I order 3 certificates for her, even after I told her I could not buy them for her and the cost would be £21.00 no charge for posting, so I sent them on. I didn't get a reply either and I am still waiting for the money. I know she received them because I did email and say I hadn't rec'ed the cheque and she replied she had received them but not posted the cheque yet. So now I will never never buy for anyone else, or send copies unless its to family sorry folks once bitten twice shy I think the saying is. But I don't mind spending the odd .10p for you lovely people, and the time well I do enjoy the hunting so thats not wasted. Irene

It's so crushing when people run away the moment they get the information they want. I say name and shame 'em - they might remember their Ps and Qs after a bit of adverse publicity.

Linda What a really rude bugger. Truly glad that not all family historians are of the same nature and are only to willing to help people out GIVING info out rather than requiring it! Hope you reach a happy outcome with the one name guild Linda. Much Happiness Debi

I agree with your sentiments! I too sent info and photos to someone a few months ago and then sent another e-mail to see if they had received everything. No reply to either e-mail,which makes me wonder are they then incorporating your info into their tree. Grrr! Sue

He did mention The Guild of the One Name Studies as being an associate of theirs - could mean anything. Sounds like a ruse like dangling the bait. I might drop the Guild a line and ask them a few questions in general. Linda

Hi Linda Was he a member of The Guild of One Name Studies? Because to register as a member he would have agreed to answer any enquiries. Heather

Thanks guys The most angry part of this is that this person has a web site asking people researching the same name to submit their info and offering his services what ever that is. Anyway I feel better now after reading your sentiments. Carry on Macbeth as they say ttfn Linda

So sorry to hear that - it really puts you on a downer after all the hard work, time, effort and expense you've gone to not even to get an acknowledgement never mind a thank you. It puts you off sharing but hopefully the next person interested in your research will offer profuse thanks and share the information they have with you and then make it all worth while. Good Luck

Linda I do sympathise with you. It is very annoying and down right rude not to even say thank you. I too have learnt the hard way so now only give small amounts of info at first until I have established good contact and then if they do the same I give a little bit more info later on. It is very sad that things have to be done this way and I am more than happy to share any info I have come across in my research but I am more wary now on who I give it too. Keep you chin up, not everyone is like that rude person and one day he will get what he deserves. Karen

A little while back I posted a message on this board asking if I should send copies of all my certs to a fellow researcher researching the same surname on a one name study. After taking time out to think about it I sent this guy in Canada a fair bunch via wells fargo hoping that he would be able to help me in my findings as I had come to a rather ugly question mark. I expected an email from him to say thank you at least, but no not even to say that he had received them. Yesterday I sent this person an email asking if he had received them with further information that I had found in the meantime, to which he replied that yes he had received them a months ago and thanks you for the information but sorry he would not help, bearing in mind that he has been researching this surname for many many years you would think that he would have had the slightess bit of information. What did I expect from this chance meeting with this expert and professional researcher? at least a thank you, what does it take to type these small but adequate words even an abbreviated Ta would have done. I don't know why I am putting this message on this board, perhaps to just air my frustration and someone to cry to sob! and to warn you to beware that unfortunatley there are leeches in our most humble of hobblies - thank god GC is a civilised and courteous domain. ttfn Linda