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Adoptees, Adopters, Birth Parents

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Kay????

Kay???? Report 28 Sep 2007 22:45

Not at all Janet....feel free...

to each party the best of luck for happy reunion and a lasting one,,,

Janet 693215

Janet 693215 Report 28 Sep 2007 22:28

I hope you don't mind but I am going to send your comments to both parties as I really want them to have the best experience possible.

Kay????

Kay???? Report 28 Sep 2007 22:21


Hi Janet,

I think it takes time to work on anything in these situations to take it a level higher,,,if that is what wanted from both parties,,,,,,,,,often the child is just satisfied to see ,have answers to questions they may have,but not want a full commitment or it can be in reverse,,,,,,but each situation is different as is both individuals,,,,but to have someone in the background for each party is a good thing aswell,if they want it,,,,,,,,

Victoria

Victoria Report 28 Sep 2007 22:14

I would say take it very slowly and take each day as it comes. I am not adopted myself but I have been helping several cousins of mine that are.

It can be a time full of great excitement but can also be a time of rejection.

Don't expect too much of each other. become friends first.

Good luck

Best wishes

Jane

Janet 693215

Janet 693215 Report 28 Sep 2007 22:13

Thank you Kay.

The people concerned are soon to contact each other and I want it to go as well as possible for them

Kay????

Kay???? Report 28 Sep 2007 22:08

Be as honest as you can to any questions,,show care, respect each other,and dont place any pressure,on each other,,,,,

Janet 693215

Janet 693215 Report 28 Sep 2007 22:04

What advice would you offer to an adoptee or Birth Mother who was just about to have first contact. I have heard that once the initial excitement has worn off they may feel very deflated but do you have your own pearls of wisdom?