General Chat

Hi Janey

Sorry to hear about your problems, I think a 4x4 would be a good idea! (not a 2x4)

I'm a type II diabetic, I'm pretty good but I am struggling to keep my readings below 8, if mine go over 10, I'm into worry level!

I'm now lactose intollerent as well, my diet is so restrictive, I can understand why some can't be bothered. There's not much left to eat, OH is so fed up with me he says he won't take me out for meals anymore.

You've got to make your OH see sense, with diabeties with poor management the nerve endings go on the extremities, ie hands, feet and in men, somewhere else!

He's got to realise this is his life he's messing with!

(((((Hugs)))))) for you, I hope you both get through this

Dee x

glad to hear himself is home

..... and hope that the lump in his head goes down soon, and the flea in his ear flits away as well!


shall I keep the cedar 2x4 in case you need it in future??


Although, like Daff, I'm the one with problems in our house and I really would not like to have a 2x4 within easy reach of my OH for times when he gets mad at me!!!


sylvia ~~~~

Lump on his head? I'd give him lump on his head for the scare he has given you!!

When will people realise that their health is their responsibility.... and that they have a responsibility to others as well... believe me, I know... I am the one with a bit of a problem in our household, and I know how badly my problem has affected my OH.... so if he wants me to wrap up in cotton wool and eat a very restricted diet, I will do so... just so I don't worry him too much more than necessary (late and brain not engaged, think I have spelt that incorrectly!) Least I can do!!

I have a spare piece of 2x4 if you need it... I was keeping it for marauding teenage lads when my 3 year old Princess reaches *THAT* age in about 10 years.... British oak and as sturdy as it comes..... your need is greater!!

Love and loads of (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

Daff xxxx

Janey - have sent you a PM.

Oh, you bully, you! :-))))

Glad he's better, and hope this is the wake-up call he may need. You just don't mess around with diabetes.

Give him our regards, won't you. Ta!
x

And he's home! He improved steadily overnight, he was back to much his regular self this morning, and they decided it would be less hassle to evict him than to set him up in an infectious disease room on the wards (he probably does have a virus that was the trigger). But not before a lengthy harangue from the diabetes nurse. It really is pretty annoying to keep being told to do things you know you're supposed to do. Diabetes nurses have to be a special kind of annoying people, I think, to do the job.

As for the sister-in-law whose response last night when I was trying to get her not to be calling the hospital or sending her sister who lives in town here up to visit him, and who then wondered aloud as to whether he was really in the hospital (and this wasn't just a ploy to get out of helping to move a bunch of stuff out of his mother's condo in the city where they live this weekend) ... hmm, anybody got a spare 2x4?

Gotta go home and make him cheesy eggs. His poor throat is all sore from the virus + all the panting and gasping for dry hospital air. No carbs in cheesy eggs, anyhow.

Thanks to all again for well wishes, and I'll let you know when the lump on his head goes down. ;)

Good grief woman what a trauma!

(((((((((((((small hug))))))))))))))

This is so typical of men though. Your approach of using timber therapy sounds like it may get the severity of this illness through his thick skull..I mean that in the nicest way :-))

I hope he gets his meds sorted and you can stop worrying.

Sue x

Good lord Janey!

You really really didn't need that ........ and I guess a hug is still out of order isn't it? lol

I'll drop off a special West Coast 2x4 as the train goes by your part of the country if he hasn't paid attention to you by then! I bet a good hunk of West Coast cedar would do the trick!


I hope that he is doing better by now ........... and that you got some sleep.


~~~~

sylvia

Hope you manage to make No,1 tow the line in future
Men !!!!!!!!!!
How typical is that
lol

There's something else he might like to consider too Janey. I don't know whether you have children or not, but because my mum dies at a relatively young age (61) I have had an awful struggle to get life insurance for myself.

My husband and I have just taken out a joint life policy, but what a performance it has been. I have had to go through stringent medicals, probing questions etc because of my mum's early death, which was entirely preventable.

My husband hasn't had to go through any of that rigmarole.

So, he might like to consider the awkward position he may be leaving his children in at sometime in the future. I bet he hasn't thought of that aspect.

Dianne xx

Hi Janey, mine had a sort of wake up call when his driving licence was taken away cos of poss epilepsy,last August. The 5 months of cycling to work etc helped hugely to rub it in but his illness wasn't quite so lifethreatening as your No 1's illness. My o.h's turned out to be bleeds on the brain so had to be stricter with himself over tablets for blood pressure, daily soluble aspirin and now cholesterol medication and diet - yeah ok, so why do you eat several eggs a week for your food to take to work etc and still eat the wrong things, even tho I do my best to arrange suitable meals here. He has also cut back on the secret drinking, stopped altogether most of the time in fact. If he hadn't been a bit sensible I would have resorted to the 2x4 as well, believe you me! He is actually still cycling to work most days through choice altho the weight loss isn't happening as quickly as he thought it would, a difference to begin with but nothing happening now, I can't understand why not unless he is eating even more forbidden foods at work than I know about!

I am sorry you have had this to cope with, he is acting more like a dependent than ever - not a significant other you can have an equal partnership with or even a respectful one. I do hope he finds his brain and starts using it and takes every bit of advice and instruction the doctors and anyone else gives him to make things better for you both by playing the game.

Lots of luck,hon, you don't need this!

Lizxx

OMG Janey, I'm so sorry - not to mention horrified - that this happened.

You can give him a friendly "whack upside" from me and my OH too, lol.
(Sorry, I know "lol" isn't appropriate at this time, but Janey will understand).

Hope No. 1 continues to improve - and sticks to the health regime!
x

Yes, Daff, the right moment for the 2x4 must be carefully chosen, I think.

Unfortunately, Manchester United is finished playing for the season, I believe. ;)

Janey, I do hope he continues to make progress... the 2x4 has far more effect when they are awake and fully compos mentis, I find!! You take care of yourself and get some rest...

Love

Daff xxxxx

DET - thanks, info is always welcome. We did look into them -- not covered by Canadian health plan and me being self-employed we don't have supplemental, but it could be got just for cash. (They're a few $000.) But the thing is that what they don't do is monitor blood sugar - they just administer the insulin once you've tested and set the dosage.

One that monitored blood sugar and administered the dosage would be the beam-me-up-scottie of diabetes. As it is, this means you're wearing a device with a tube in your body around, all just so you don't have to stick yourself with the needles, and No.1 didn't think that sounded too attractive.

Stem cell research and another breakthrough or two on the possible horizon are looking good, though.

-- edit -- DET - I just paid more attention and it seems your s-i-l may have something that does monitor? In that case -- I'll do some googling, and thanks!


Dianne, I'm so sorry to hear it. Funny (well, not) how with cancer, it's the tales of survival that you hear most of when it rears its head in your family -- with diabetes, yours is the second lost mother I've been told of tonight. The hospital cafeteria guy I was chatting with lost his mum at 55. No.1 is 55. He'll be hearing that too.


Berona, I shall add yours to the list of admonishments and serve them up with one of my scrumptious low-carb dinners. ;)


Guinevere, ta; you hope I get some sleep -- smack me and make me go home! Who is it whose job it is to do that when I'm seen here at silly o'clock? ;)

God, Janey, how awful.

It must have been a very long night for you. I hope you get some sleep.

The 2X4 idea is a good one.

Gwynne

Hi Janey

I don't have a significant other with it - but I did have a significant mother with it.

She wouldn't behave herself either and look where it got her.

Note I said DID have, not DO have. Unfortunately my mother is no longer with us.

Show this to your OH. Maybe he will take notice then.

Take care Janey

Dianne xx

You sure don't need this and I hope it has the necessary effect on him to wake up to himself and do what he is told to do from now on.

Lindy -- print it off, wrap it around a brick, and throw it through the window at him!


Annie -- it must be horribly frightening with children. No.1 was diagnosed (wrongly, as it turned out) with Type II when he was in his late 40s, never having had a single indication before a sudden two-week sickening. Two years of deterioration later, they decided he was Type I and he went on insulin.

So you know the dangers an ordinary infection present for diabetics -- and so do I, *now*! But with a grown-up, it's his danged job to know it. Your grandson likely knows what's good for him now, but feel free to give him a gentle whack just as a reminder. ;)

Susan### -- this year isn't as bad as last, so far ... But hey, it's working on it!

And thanks Rosalind, and you bet he is. Bestest carb-counting-est cook on the continent, me! Fat lot of good it does if he doesn't get the insulin right though.

Very frightening for you Janey and don't blame yourself, he is lucky to have you.

Positive thoughts for you.

Rosalind