General Chat

Hello Diane - how dare your boy use his laptop when you want to. Have you explained that you have to be here:-))

I had contact from someone on here who said that my great uncle was related to him - right name, right year and place of birth. Sent the 1901 census record which told me straight away he was wrong. I sent him proof of who my great uncle was - certificates etc. but he still insisted that he had the right one. He told me the uncle had died in South Africa after his wife had been killed by a rampant tram and that he had a son called Ernest who returned to England as an adult. Not so. My great uncle had died in Leeds and had two daughters - I had proof. He still allowed me access to his tree and he had such a mixed bag of people most of whom were inaccurate. He had just copied down most people from Leeds that had the same surname - it's a very common surname in Yorkshire. It was very frustrating because I worry about who they're going to pass the info onto to.

Sue xx

I've just read your post Tec. Do you find that as the eldest most of the family responsibility seems to lie on your shoulders? At the moment I'm finding that rather tiring.

Sue xx

Hello Sue

I have been saying to myself mirror mirror on the wall - where is Sue and there you are again. (^_^)

I as eldest find it very frustrating and I as youngest get very cross with the older me for not getting on with finishing my tree - does it ever finish. I have a massive great book of one of mine (the Villain's Lot). A lot of the research was done before the advent of computers and so there are names without dates and it is very time consuming. Some names will be nick names or shortened versions so it can be quite a battle eg Kate - Got to search for Kathleen, Katherine etc with surname. And when you find half a dozen it is sextupley difficult.

Pxx

I have a plethora - do you like that word - of Williams, Thomas's, Isaacs, Sarahs and Elizabeths from one family who insisted on calling all the cousins by these names - and a lot of them were born around the same time:-(

Sue xx

Sue,
When my parents were alive, but elderly, I found my siblings looked to me when ever there were problems or decisions to be made.
I didn't mind this, and assumed that being the eldest, it was my responsibility. However, they would then argue with me about any decision I made. Seemed anything I decided was wrong.
When my father developed dementia they all ran away and left me to it.
When my mother died, everything was left to me, and I do mean everything.
When my mothers estate was shared between them according to her wishes, they all hastily disappeared, and except for one, I have no contact, save for a Christmas card from two of them.

There is something to be said for being an only child.

Tec

I was an only child until I was twelve and a half. My Mum was the second of ten and was not one to be 'rushed'. Dad's job moving him around, plus the war years had a lot to do with it too. Consequently, I was working before my little brother commenced school; then I had two years overseas, and only had the next two years at home before I was married. He, therefore, was also reared like he was an only child. Neither of us was spoiled - we got what they could afford, but understood why we couldn't have more than that.

I'm fine thank's Perse, how's you hun

Sue I did tell him that, to think when he left me last week he left his lappy with me, now he want's to hog it all the time lol.

Morning Allan how's you hun.

Tec I am 1 of 6 children and I too am only in contact with one of my sibling's ( my eldest sister ) the rest don't keep in regular contact with each other they just get on with their own live's.

Diane

Hi Diane,
You must learn to wrestle that laptop off your son - get him in a headlock - is he bigger than you?
Tec

Yes I like that word - it covers quite a lot if not more ... VG Sue.

Am away to make some lunch.

Yesterday we had lunch so so late - we had been to the quarry unloading rocks and concrete and then we rewarded ourselves - I had smoked salmon fettucine with a caper sauce it was delishimo - and it was 4pm by the time we left the café with take away coffees. Mind you we didn't half look scruffy.

I won't be in tomorrow morning - going to work - I worked on Monday and I was given a small Australian Crayfish with a cheesey sauce/mornay for my lunch. We are not allowed to net crayfish that size our fisheries issue fines - they have to be large ones.


Persey xx

Bye Perse, Enjoy your day - Montgomery say Hi,
Tec

Well I'm off to bed now,
So have a great day Aussies,
and a good night Poms,

Goodnight my friends

Tec

Thought I would add this - I was taunted at school that an only child was spoilt. As a kid I could never fathom that out. I had to do the dishes - vacuum and dust etc and there was no one to share it with. I am close to my first cousins on my father's side and a lot of my second cousins on my mother's side (as she was an only child as well and was brought up by her rellies).
My best friend lived across the road from me and we are still friends 56 years later.

Persey xx

Tec I can sympathise - when my father had dementia it was left to me and my youngest brother to cope with it all. Even our OH's did more than my other two siblings. It's now happening again with my mum who at times can be quite confused. My sister has even moved away making it more difficult to ask her to help out. My mother is getting some work done in her house and furniture needs to be moved out on the weekend. My OH and son together with my brother and his boy are doing it as my sister has told me that her OH has been working all week and can't be expected to help out. So has my son and nephew.

Sue xx

Are you all going then?

Yes Tec he is bigger than me, but I only have to tickle him and he is in pieces, I will do that next time. I have just called him in to see what you all have said and he was laughing, ( not at you I may add ) just think's it is funny us discussing him on here.

See you later Perse, enjoy your lunch hun.

Well as quick as I appear I now have to disappear and get off to bed, if I don't my( new Adopted mum Berona ) will be on my case again telling me to get to bed lol

Goodnight all brit's, stay warm

Enjoy your day the rest of you

Diane

Sue - I understand your situation. My Oh was one of seven and his ancestors had very large families and they all called their children after each other. In my own tree, one line named their children after the grandfather - so in order, they are John, Thomas, John, Thomas,John...etc. and to complicate it further, they all had daughters, wives, sisters and nieces named Elizabeth! Very frustrating!!

Yes Diane - it's midnight where you are. Go to bed!!!!
Stay warm and sleep well.

I must away now. Enjoy your day in the southern hemisphere. Sleep well on the northern side.

Hello everyone!

I'm at bit annoyed about a couple of people with my Great Grandparents in their tree, one tree has my G grandmother marrying someone completely different - when I tried to explain to her her tree was wrong, she got all stroppy and said "she got her info from the censuses, good information that " What about certificates??? The mind boggles why anyone would not want to verify their research.
I'm now not sure whether to point out to others with incorrect people, what would you do????
Ok rant over:-))

We are having another nice day down here weather wise, not too hot - with a bit of smoke haze. The CFA must be doing a bit of clearing.

Enjoy your day/night:-))

Carole xx

I think a good piece of four by two would come in handy for dealing with some Carole.

I am grateful when someone point out that there is something wrong - I go back to the drawing board - on a couple of occasions old nimble fingers here has transposed figures.
I've even gone back through something and corrected my own stupid mistake... and thought why on earth did I put that.

I have one ever so distant family member who is a love - a lot younger than me, met her on genes - and I am forever trying to keep her in line. She hazards a guess at birthdates and she had one of my closer relatives who is a year older than me - as born in the late 1800s. She is such a good sort and puts up with me saying no that's not right. I am waiting for her to get back to her tree - she is working on a cruise ship at present and does not go on the puta much.

I love a good rant as well Carole as you can see. Then you should see me rave - woweee.
Persey xx

Hi Perse

I reckon the fourbetwo may be useful, Perse:-)) If the person were close enough for me to use it. I would be happier than a pig in mud if someone pointed out an error in my tree:-))
Ive only been doing my tree for just over a year. I have 269 people in my Ancestry tree, and I'm sure there are mistakes in it, but I fix them as I go along.

How has your day been, anyway?

Carole xx

We have been promised rain for several days now - even thunderstorms - and finally it came down this afternoon and it cooled the air - I didn't stand in it - my icing might've run - I stood on the porch and thought oh lovely all that humidity gone. It lasted less than an hour - the sun came out and we went back to being sticky all over again.
Apparently there were thousands of bolts of lightning here in NZ - but not in Auckland.
Other than that I have been fairly quiet catching up with HW etc and a bit of BMD with my tree.

Your youngsters - do they go back to school next week ? - I think the grandies go back on Tuesday - Monday is Auckand Anniversary day here and they hold a big yachting regatta - everyone goes mad tomorrow and take off to the beach etc and the motorways become carparks from early afternoon onwards and then the same thing on Monday afternoon when they all come back. Madness!!!!

Perse **