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i always go on my first instincts and only once i was completely wrong......and i was wrong big time :o


Karen x

I don't ignore my first instincts Uggers as they're usually pretty accurate.

People sometimes say that I only see the good in people, I don't think that's the case at all - I do see people's faults but just tend to focus on the good points. After-all we are all human and we have our faults :)

It doesn't mean that I ignore people's faults either.

Fi, isn't it funny that sometimes we really want to like someone lol

I prefer dead ancestors on the whole, Sheila - they don't need walking.

Lol Uggers......thats a nice impression for me to give then : )) but strictly speaking it's not right . If I don't like someone I simply ignore them completely ( such as the neighbours both side of my house ....lol ) . I can't be bothered with feelings of hate etc , it's just a waste of time and energy .

Joy, yeah you can find mates in odd places:)

Stray, there's a girl I was out with on Friday night who I didn't like when I first met her - then my oh pointed out it was the same attitude I come across with and I saw her differently - we're really good mates now. So there are exceptions:))

In general, people 'pee me off' anyway Uggers, lol!! Prefer dogs.

Maybe Uggers but I tend to be more unsure about that person because of that..

I have overridden my first instincts when I've wanted to like someone, but I've usually ended up wishing I'd listened to myself in the first place!

Janet, I sometimes find not making eye contact is a lack of confidence thing and the person takes a bit more getting to know.

Rose, that's a much less black and white version of what I am saying and probably what I mean if I were to think about it more:)

Amanda, I get the impression that you like most people;)

i always give in, and sometimes my instinct has been wrong, and iv become great friends will people, that at first i disliked,
othertimes, iv liked people n been totally wrong lol

so bit of a mix and match x

i often change my mind
when i get to know somebody better
it depends on how people are with me

you can often find a friends in the strangest places

but sometimes i let others sway me to much

maybe its best to listen with my own ears
rather than somebody elses

But do you ever get swayed, Sylvia?

I have very rarely found that my first instinct was wrong on someone ... I have on occassion modified that opinion over a period of time ( usually thought they were nicer than I first thought based on what other people have said of them ) but it always comes back to bite me that I was right the first time!

I'm a bit reserved when it comes to " new " people but I do trust my instinct about first impressions generally . I have had to have a re-think on occasion but on the whole I normally find my first impression was the correct one .

There are a few things that i go on ....People that do not make eye contact with me when speaking.....grrrr that just annoys me...

No, I agree Sheila - but I'm thinking more of whether other people are my sort of person in terms of personality and behaviour. And whether they just pee me off:)

I must be too optimistic about people cos I'm always giving in and ignoring my instincts:)

Sometimes, but not always, but then sometimes you never get to know someone well enough to judge whether your impressions were correct ;-)) - we rarely know everything about a person.

Yes seems to be the case with me. I always have a feeling about a particular person and like you put it aside then to discover that I should have gone with first impressions.

I've learnt many times, a long long time ago - to always trust my first instincts - they've never let me down yet :O)