General Chat

John I think some of us recognise when you are speaking tongue in cheek, you will have to devise a way of saying that you are 'joking' so others get the joke. As in life, some people are willing to 'forgive' transgressions, others will always remember them so you are on a hiding to nothing there.

Just persevere and hope that eventually things die down. :-)

John, it wasn't aivlyS who posted the sympathy thread you referred to earlier, but another 'S' - and it was a jocular thread anyway. Sigh.

M - give up? With just 33 posts to go to get SueC to 1,000 !!!! Surely not ! :-0

Many thanks for those comments. I am truly sorry if anyone will not post on any thread where I post.

I did get a lot of stick over my views about the new layout when I first posted. Then I wrote some insensitive things about chat being a waste of time and banale, said I lived in Castell Coch (a beautiful castle at J32 M4) and was a baronet. Also I commented on child abuse (no never been abused) and feral & feckless people living on council estates (think I know quite a bit about that). And I also caused a row on Shaun's Welsh thread.

Some of that was, I would have thought, fairly obvious tongue in cheek. The rest I am sorry for and have apologised. And, yes, it was in August and I was a newbie.

But almost everything since has been true. I was brought up in Wolverhampton (Finchfield - posh) and Walsall (Leamore -largest council estate in W Midlands). I was in senior retail jobs after Bangor University. I am Welsh, so is wife and 2 children. None of us have ever though of ourselves as English, even when we lived in England. I did have major health problems 11 years ago and we live a very different life now. And I am a very keen churchgoer and have been for 30 years. And I have been a member of Plaid Cymru since 1966 (on and off) - but my beliefs are not that extreme.

I would want to spend a week in Eifionydd (Pwllheli) speaking 100% Welsh and no English at all. I used to do it for a week in Harlech every Coleg Harlech summer school in early and mid-1970's - there was a Welsh only rule that week. I try to do it if I attend the Eisteddfod. So I understand why Dr Lewis was upset that a Welsh speaking cashier and a Welsh speaking store manager refused to continue their Welsh discourse to the end of the transaction. Yes, I do sympathise quite a lot with his frustration. I wish all 3 had stood back and had a chuckle about it, but they didn't. Hence the article from the Cambrian News as OP which was a very poor precis of Dr Lewis's letter in Welsh to Y Cymro.

Perhaps its well past its sell by date and should be left to die the death.Lots of people no longer post on here because of it,so meybe its best to let it go.**M**

True Kay????...very true.

I presume you'll be putting a similar post for aivlyS & AnnC & John & anyone else who's "responded" in a way you see unfit because its not just me-is it.

Utter rubbish has and will continue to be posted on GR. It greatly depends on how one deals with it. But long drawn out vendettas are truly boring on what should, in essence, be an entertaining Chat board. My humble opinion, of course.

BK,

If someone imo continually posted rubbish then my instincts would tell me they arent worth my time.,,,,,,giving an opinion shouldnt result in insults,that just is a lost cause from the start,,,,,,

I remember it well Kay????
I also know you are not aware of 100% of the facts at that time so bringing it up in relation to John is totally irrelavant.

I tend to agree with Guinevere...

"I don't think anyone is ganging up. I think he's annoyed a lot of different people. Do you think we (as individuals) should let utter rubbish pass unchallenged?"

That too is my opinion & to be fair to John he is quite a skilled "button pusher", he gets a rise out of people & says himself he enjoys it.

So are you saying that it would be better if no one with a differing opinion spoke to him because it "turns" threads-I'm inclined to think John wouldnt like that, I'm sure he'll state quite clearly what he wants.

If the OP has a problem with any of my posts I am sure she will contact me. In the meantime I'm about on & off today so will continue to read & post when I want to.

I did like this thread before it got so critical...
Living as an English woman here for all these years it made me laugh at the thoughts of some of the Welsh....the minority..... who are so unfriendly to the English...not as much as it used to be in and around Gwynedd in the 60s.
Why can't we all live in peace,and stop the backbiting.
At least this has brought a bit of life back to the boards and introduced a debatable subject.
I don't often take part in these when it gets nasty...but can't we all be friends with differences of opinion?It would be a dull world if we all thought the same. :-)

Thanks, Ann.

Remember BK,

when everytime you posted or showed up,,,,,,,,,

you was pelted with rotten apples,,,,,,,,,,no matter what you put it was twisted out of all context, till you had the guts knocked out you till you stopped posting for a while and felt run off the boards.It even resulted you laying down a challenge to have a fist fight..........!

If any feel so angered or at logger heads with John,,,,,,,,,,do what you would do with a bad next door neighbour and totally ignore.....its not hard.It can only aggrivate if you let it,,,,,,,,,,,,

But constant stabbing is ruining many good threads and thats not fair on the thread originator.in this case Sue who I'm sure we all hold respect for.

Many belive their opinion the actions of the DR were stupid,arrogant,bullying and dammed right rude and much stronger.........another opinion didnt condem his actions with any force.,,,,,,,,,Just accept it.........agree to disagree but dont keep prodding on something that happened and has passed.

That is my opinion and it stands for anyone who I belive is being treated unfairly.

Sorry missed you Gwynne, I am not sure I saw that thread so it was not one I was commenting on, and no you do not gang up on anyone.

And I too agree with you Rose, I have tried to put my point of you but am not as good as putting my thoughts down on here as you are. Yes John can be aggravating and sometimes patronising but I have never seen him actually nasty unless goaded by some who will not let their bad feelings go. For goodness sake this is a chat board so, if you don't like what somebody says, ignore it and move on. I have only ever seen John be personal (once he learnt how the boards worked) when he has been pushed by the same people who are 'at' him again and again. Most of the time he puts up good threads only to have the same people turn them.

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Rose, I couldn't agree more. I have tried to voice the same views (in less words, of course. lol...you know how indolent I am!) .). but lack your concise way of putting your views forward. You are right in saying that the boards have been busier since John's arrival, but I, for one, have felt very uncomfortable at some of the comments directed his way. BC XX

Then I am right about you, what you say about others being bullys, unfair, untruthful, nasty & predictable it's just you looking in the mirror. The only person that can't see it is you.

BK. You made your feelings clear last night. I have tried to answer all those questions many times. Not fertile ground to keep on answering them :-)

JohnLovesCocoa Report 10 Jan 2013 08:58
And BK, I have no real idea if some posters are ladies, gentlemen or whatever. If someone thinks they are important, more important or more worthy to post than others, I might just say something. And do I care if their friends come in to defend them - not a lot. Not a bit actually.


I think you have issues that need sorting out with a doctor of some kind. You have a pattern that goes Cause trouble for many people then put up a thread to be nice on & go for a sympathy vote so you can do it all again. You have been told about this before. The chat site part of this site is a life line to the outside world for some more vulnerable members of the site. If you are here to cause trouble you are not needed. You clearly don’t care about anybody other then you’re self. You have stated you like to wind others up but don’t like it if another person try’s to wind you up,
so why do it to others or it you think they are not as important as you are?
Why go looking for people just to upset?
What is the something you might or are longing to say?
Why do you feel you decide who needs to be wound up?
Why put all your own life story’s & details on a public chat board & then get angry when people remind you or some of the things you have written on the internet?

Five simple questions but I’m thinking you won’t answer them all & if you try to they won’t be honest answers.

Sue I hope you are feeling less pain today, take care ((((hugs))))

Emma

Sue - I too hope you feel much better soon <3