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For some time now I've been intending to visit an old neighbour of mine - he lived in a bungalow opposite ours on a new estate and we got quite friendly - had the usual Christmas card and thought - "must pop in and see Alan"

This evening his sister-in-law rang to tell me he died on Friday - he hanged himself - oh how I wish I had gone to visit him

That is very sad Ann.

We're all the same about doing something and keep putting it off.

Ann thats so so sad :-(

Oh dear AnnC, that must have been such a shock to you.
I will learn from your experience and not put things off that could be done today.
My thoughts now are with Alan's family and his friends at such a tragic time.

That is very sad Ann. I appreciate not putting things off, it's just so easy to delay phoning, writing to or visiting someone :-(

xx

How sad Ann my thoughts are with his family and friends,

I agree Ann...a similar thing happened to me.
I had a musician friend from way back who lived 80miles away and we agreed to meet up a few years ago ..and then my Oh got very ill and it was postponed.
After my husband died I casually met a musician who had played in the same area as me ....and we didn't know each other,but had quite a few mutual musician friends,including this special one,,,and he had been a special friend to him too.
I tried to contact him again last year,and got in touch with his lady friend as I tried to phone him on the number I had to no avail.
I eventually got through,only to find he'd died 3 weeks before...and he had died on my birthday....if only I hadn't waited so long.

Oh Ann - that is so tragic. Love and hugs xxx

Sad stories, and I have done the same thing, missed talking to my late Mum's friend and bridesmaid cos I never got round to arranging a visit ( 25 miles away but should have done it). I also neglected to contact another elderly friend who had been in hospital and had one foot amputated and then the other, and she died before I made the effort to visit. Last year I lost another elderly friend and ex neighbour and hadn't visited her for a while because she lived several miles away, and it's happened with other people too.

Each time I tell myself I must try harder to visit folk and still I get it wrong. Must make it my resolution this year. At least I did eventually get to visit my cousin last autumn, she will be 76 soon.


Ann, I am so sorry that your old neighbour was in such a bad place that he took his own life, my heart goes out to his family and friends. Try to remember him as he was when you lived nearby and he was stronger. May he and all those we miss, rest in peace.

Lizx

We all do it Ann, an uncle of mine did the same thing even though he was surrounded by a loving family all the time, his was driven by horrible experiences during WW2 and a lifetime battling his memories and wounds.

He worked hard, married and had a wonderful family, but the inner torment just got too much to bear and he took the only option he could see to get away from his pain

:-( :-(

So very sad Ann sadly we can all be guilty of putting things off. May your friend rest in the peace he was searching for <3

So very sad Ann, May he rest in peace <3

his wife died about ten years or so ago, no children, lonely I suppose - at least he is at peace now and free of loneliness

<3 <3