General Chat

School/Sunday School. When I was young - in the 50s, I belonged to School and Sunday School choirs. One or two days a year were looked forward to as we entered the school or Sunday School musical Festival. We loved the performing and the competition with other schools/Sunday schools and individuals. I used to sing solos (until I was about 12), recite poetry and at the Sunday school Festival, read a Bible reading. I still have certificates somewhere, mainly for the Bible Reading performances. But I never did come first, every year the same girl from the same church (these were all free churches) used to win all her classes. (Wonder if she had a friend in the judges??) she was very talented.

I was watching The Voice last night and the tears of disappointment of those not chosen. And I thought back to those festivals and I can't remember any of us (ages about 9 to 16) crying when not winning. But then we went through school having winners and losers, none of this everyone gets a medal for entering stuff.

I am in agreement with you Ann, I am agog at some of these TV talent programmes .

I also remember entering competitions as a child - either with the school (dancing, music, fancy dress, county sports day) or with the Brownies (crafts, handwriting and such), or just me under my own steam entering some local competition or other.

1st, 2nd or 3rd, the winners received a certificate, or if they were lucky, a gift.
I was very seldom one of the top 3. But it was all about the entering and taking part.....that's what we were taught at school and at home, and we readily accepted that.
I do remember being disappointed at times, on a few occasions I can remember being very disappointed, as must many of the other children, but I don't remember anyone crying over it.
We had to learn to accept that there are winners and losers, and you all get your turn one day :-)

Sadly it is often the parents these days that tell the child what greatness they can have because they are so good. The elder children have seen what can be obtain and who can blame them for being disappointed if they are not as good as the parents say they are. It´s a cruel world out there and it has never been a nice world to child stars

Here's me thinking you were going to be talking about the likes of Glastonbury :-) I think the Wombles might get a bit muddy if they turn up there this year ;-)

I agree with Uzzi - there are so many pushy parents around these days, the poor kids don't stand a chance. Children need to be taught from an early age that winning isn't the be all and end all, but taking part is, even if they don't win.

I know my 6-yr old granddaughter gets furious if she doesn't win when we're playing a board game, but her parents won't have it and I'm sure she will eventually learn to accept losing gracefully, because they're making the effort to teach her to.

Who was it that used to sing "Don't put your daughter on the stage?"
He must have known something?

Lots of music festivals where I live.......... definitely NOT Christian :-D

The next one will be at Easter..... we won't be leaving town.

One year was the Blues & Mud festival lol

Off on a slight tangent, I'm afraid, but vaguely along the lines of the original post....
I seem to remember reading that Driving Examiners in certain areas no longer tell the candidate, at the end of the test, whether or not they have passed. The result is sent out in the post the following day.
The reason?
The percentage of assaults on examiners, when the candidate was told they had NOT passed, is on the increase in recent years.
The reason? Too many youngsters today just cannot handle it when they are told NO. They are not used to failing.

Wish I could remember where I had seen this article.

Fred has never attempted much in his life through fear of failure. He has always known the best way to do things but would never actually get on and do them in case he didn't achieve perfection every time.

This stroke has been a bit of a bonus in some ways in that it has made him have to try things and accept that it is fine if he gets it wrong.

There are a lot of people I think, who are wasting their lives by devoting them to some sort of pose that they know things they don't.

If you want to know something, there are places to learn almost everything. It is easier go there and learn it than keeping up the pose that you know it already.

Lady Scozz, different type of festival but yes I'd stay home too. Ithink in this area there is actually a Christian festival of the type you mean though.

But on the stage festivals/competitions. With the talent typ shows, have you noticed how pushy the parents of adult children are. there was one this week when the parents were really shouting and making a huge fuss about their daughter, they were sooo disappointed when she didn't get chosen especially when she didn't get chosen as a 'steal', but my thought was that nobody wanted to take on those parents. :-)