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Narcissistic personality disorder.
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PollyinBrum | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:12 |
Do you know anyone like this? Oh yes I most certainly do. |
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Mersey | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:14 |
I certainly do!!! did !! |
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Sharron | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:18 |
Have you read the article about NPD mothers Paula? |
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**Stella ~by~ Starlight**★..★..★ | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:19 |
My mother was like it, of course i just thought she didn't like me ..it was years before i heard of this disorder and then it all fell into place, she was a horrible woman i tried for many years to make her happy but apparently i was never as good as other people's daughters so i gave up in the end.. her dying words to me were "I'm sorry".. that said it all, she knew what she was doing all along... i t wasn't until she died that i actually was allowed to be myself and i felt so free.. |
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Sharron | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:22 |
With you there Stella. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:24 |
I have read it before Sharron. I am referring to my sons ex wife (soon to be ex business partner). She is bang on the button with each of these characteristics. |
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Sharron | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:26 |
Out of interest Paula, because I always wondered, and so did others, how Fred got landed with it, did your son have any inkling of what she was like before they married? |
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wisechild | Report | 6 Mar 2014 12:55 |
Paula. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 6 Mar 2014 13:06 |
I don't think my son realised before they were married, but if he did he never let on to me that there was anything wrong. On the surface they seemed like the perfect couple. She is an only child, having said that so is my son so that's not an excuse., but she was also very spoiled by her parents and still is to this day. When he first met her we welcomed her into our home and treated like out own daughter. He absolutely adored her and I guess it was a case of love is blind. I paid for almost all of their (very expensive wedding) and gave them the deposit to buy their home. I did this willingly as I thought that they would be together forever. When on reflection I realised that she never actually thanked me for anything I ever did. Two years after they got married my husband passed away, it was then that she totally cut me out of their lives, and made it difficult for my son to come to see me, eg: phoning within minutes of him arriving at my house demanding for him to go back. Deleting my phone messages on their home phone before he had a chance to pick them up. They brought an holiday home in Wales where they would go with her parents almost every weekend, I was not allowed to go there, when my son said he was going to ask me she said “Why would your Mother want to come here”.She could be extremely demanding of my son, only wanting to do what she wanted to do and only wanted her own parents. She was controlling and would be very spiteful for no reason. She became verbally and physically abusive towards him, so much so that her father told him he thought she needed some anger management counselling. At this stage son never once criticised her to me. He left her after they had been together for seven years, she met someone else and had a child from this relationship, this man also left her, she is making it almost impossible for the man to see his child. She has had several relationships all resulting in the man walking away from her. Her behaviour only started to come out bit by bit, my son said he did not want to worry or upset me. At the moment she and my son are still business partners but this is about to be dissolved. I honestly could write a book about her, but most of the time I choose to ignore her, all I know is we all want her out of her lives. As I said before I worry about her little boy he will be four this year, what sort of a role model she is going to be? My son is married again and my new DIL is absolutely beautiful, and loves him, that’s all I care about. |
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**Stella ~by~ Starlight**★..★..★ | Report | 6 Mar 2014 13:24 |
i would just like to add that my youngest daughter follows this trait with her daughter.. my granddaughter was so unhappy that she came to live with me for a few months but was then bribed back home.. my punishment for taking her in was that i have not been allowed to see my grandson for 4 years now and also my granddaughter has been banned along with her baby..my great grandson. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 6 Mar 2014 13:58 |
Wisechild You must be going through a rough time at the moment, just focus on the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you do what's right for you. |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 6 Mar 2014 14:07 |
Mother Dear ! |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 6 Mar 2014 14:10 |
Uzzi having read quite a lot about Narcissistic Personality disorder I thank God for my lovely Mother. |
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**Stella ~by~ Starlight**★..★..★ | Report | 6 Mar 2014 14:40 |
you may or may not know that i am a poet and i wrote this a few years ago..it is a true account .. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 6 Mar 2014 14:53 |
Stella that's so truly moving and clearly heart felt. Your Mother missed so much. |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 6 Mar 2014 15:29 |
Stella very moving. I can and have written in the past but find no words as yet can relay what I feel for the passing of Mother Dear. Sadly I discovered at the end that I loved her as much as I disliked her. Knowing that sends another set of feelings of remorse for what could have been, of remorse knowing that I didn´t break down and cry, of remorse for not celebrating as I thought I would have. Strange world of feelings that we live in. |
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Sharron | Report | 6 Mar 2014 16:05 |
I have never made any bones about the way I felt about my mother but, when she was alive, I always wondered if I would feel huge remorse after she died. |
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**Stella ~by~ Starlight**★..★..★ | Report | 6 Mar 2014 16:14 |
i used to pray that i would find out i was adopted and that one day i would find my real mother, also i asked if i could go to boarding school but they wouldn't let me... |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 6 Mar 2014 16:22 |
I thought I would be relieved at Mothers passing yes I was surprised that I felt upset but that could be put down to the chance no longer there to have a mother, daughter relationship. Was not going to happen any way. What did surprise me was the guilt I felt. |
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Sharron | Report | 6 Mar 2014 16:23 |
It runs through my family like egg through a Gala pie. |