General Chat

I expect it depends how big the house is, how much was spent adapting it for a disabled person etc and whether there is another disabled person badly in need of an adapted house. But as it has been your home for a long time I hope they take that into consideration.

As to the money, as nameless one says, you gave us Fred and all his adventures, life has not been easy for you, I know the normal thing is to give to charity in remembrance of the deceased person but we chose to give to you instead for all your caring. Truly what you do with the money is up to you. I suggest you wait until after the funeral and after you know the housing situation, then spend it on something that gives you pleasure :-)

Sharron, people just wanted to let you know we were thinking of you and as l said once to you a while ago l wished l knew you when my dad had a series of strokes as l could have learnt a lot from you.
Just take a day at a time and take care, x

Wend, :-) Big Drawers? as in like Chest of? :-D :-D

Don't worry Jude - she's already had my waggy finger ;-) :-D

Sharron...you're not being selfish!!
and as Kay says get through the coming weeks first and then decide when you are ready.

Take care
jude

winter drawers off??

Oh no, not big drawers :-0

;-) :-D

Sharron its a case of when the time is right,,,,,,,,just now you have this weeks heartache to attend to.

When it pleases you to do what you wish,what ever that maybe,it will please everyone else.

You may decide you want a few new pair of drawers,,,,,,fine, as long as they, fit and are becoming for a person of your age, ;-) :-D :-D :-D :-D.

Morning Sharron,

You can get as embarrassed as you like,

Wend and a few of us thought you would need a little break away which will do you the world of good.

You shared Fred with all the people on GR with the stories about the antics he got up to ,which I must admit kept me and a lot of others amused.

Please save the money for when you do want to get away and have a break.



Re The Housing Association they should let you keep the house especially as you looked after Fred all the years.

Fight them as Fred would expect you to do...

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Well we are all thinking of you Sharron, especially next week.

I have my sausages already for Mondays tea.

Take a bit of time to yourself and get away for a few days if you can.

Leaving any home is difficult, whether you want to or not, especially hard if you have lived somewhere for a long time.

Thanks for all your stories, we all so enjoyed hearing them.

Take care, M. x

I understand the situation completely.

The paperwork is in , I know what I can do to make my case a little stronger.

I am fairly sure they will house me but I want to stay HERE.It is something I will need to gather my strength and adapt to if they need the house for a family.

It is quite selfish of me not to want to leave this house really and I understand this but it doesn't stop me does it?

Ok, l can see why you are worrying...are they deliberating on the situation now? Have you spoken to CAB??

It is housing association. The decision is theirs.

Was the house your fathers or is it rented??

The way its done in your area is lovely by the sounds of it, families looking after each other:)...wish more people did it.

jude

We all so enjoyed your stories of Fred, he was such a character and so are you, you have a way of telling those stories. You obviously spent alot of time looking after him and got him to do so much, you encouraged him to look after himself and get out and about....so maybe its now time for you. Take care

jude

The REALLY pressing problem, which , I might tell you, is causing me a lot of stress at the moment, is whether I can stay here.

I have only ever lived here and a house down the road where I was born and so was my grandfather, eighty years before me. They lived there as well as us, that is how we did it round here.

Fred's mate looked after his mother until she died. He lived with her three doors away from us until he chose to move from the three bedroomed house to a flat. Next to that house, in another three bedroomed house, is another man of our age with his mother. There is a woman, whose daughter has grown up, who lives with her mother round the corner. Plenty more locally. We just do it that way here.

Once that awful trauma is over I can start thinking ahead.

The alternative suggestion was, that if you couldn't make the 'meet' you should use the gift to pay for a break away. That is a good idea as it would be a stepping stone into what could be regarded as a 'new life' for you.

You gave us Fred who we all took into our hearts. We loved your tales and I think we all miss him already.

I just can't understand why it should be mine.

As Paula says "enjoy it what ever you do with it"....its yours:)

jude

Sharron although most of us will never meet, and are unable to pay our respects at the funeral. This is a token of our recognition of all you have done for Fred. Enjoy it, whatever you decide to do.

Thank you for sharing the stories, your memories will keep him alive.