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My son was married to a Narsasistic women with a volatile aggressive personality. She verbally attacked him and eventually started to physically abuse him, (several times in front of her parents) My son never lifted his hand towards her, but thank God he divorced her. I knew nothing of this until he walked out on her. He is now happily married.

I agree with Newby, it took a great deal of courage to walk away from her as they also worked together, he stopped working with her in January this year, and he has gone from strength. Life is too short to be a human punchbag.

Just watching the drama susan wiv mentioned, its aweful :-(

Women in violent relationships have often been mentally broken first. Their self esteem is low and they just don't have the energy to get out.

once/if you resort to violence you've lost the fight

Yes Det far to many men are afraid to come forward and admit its happening to them,

I dont no why so many people stay in volitile relationships, especially when young children are witnessing it, and then growing up thinking its the norm. But it seems to be a lot more common

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It is definately not black and white or easy to walk away indeed. I was in a very violent relationship for 13 years so I do know. I will not go into details but I finally walked out and have never looked back.

the survivors club .... ( I am a member from the 1980s) .it takes one hell off a lot of courage to finally say enough is enough and walk away from everything you have but you never regret it
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Det .. I have seen men/ boyfriends attacked by drunk screaming women/ girlfriends .. not nice , but most males will just hang onto their wrists to avoid being injured then walk away.Probably getting thumped in the process
This is in the street , not domestic violence in the home but if I was in that position I don't think I could be so patient

There have been suggestions that are far more male victims of domestic violence than have been reported to the authorities. They are ashamed to admit that they aren't 'Manly' enough to protect themselves.

It certainly isn't right to instigate violence but understandable, as long as its controlled, if that's the only way to stop yourself from being hurt.

Edit......if the instigator has completely 'lost it'.

So true newby, altho physicsl abuse is somtimes easier to deal with, than mental an emotional abuse :-(

I realise it is not that easy Stray......That drama shows how hard it is to get way.....for myself though......The first signs of aggression .....even a raised voice....and I am off.


Many years ago when I was just 17, I agreed to go out with a lad who worked with me. He seemed nice enough and although his choice of venue for our date wasn't much to my liking ( White City Dog track ) ......I met him at the agreed time.......When we got there he asked me to get the tickets, which I did. The Racing started but just before, he looked at the tickets, I had got the numbers in the wrong order........He went berserk and called me all the names under the sun.....The race finished and as it happened he had won with said numbers.....Then he apologised.......I told him I was going to the loo....walked out of the stadium and went home.....Saw him next day and ignored him........His behaviour was enough to tell me that if he was like that when I first went out with him....goodness knows what it would be like after a few more times......I wasn't going to take the chance and never did.

Hi Stray
Lots of times .. male or female ,the person on the receiving end think that they are in some way to blame by failing their partners in some way..
their friends don't get treated in this way , so it has to be something they are doing wrong in the relationship..they don't leave because they think in some way it is their fault

Without going into too much detail, when some people begin to slap it progresses to maiming someone or even manslaughter.

So no, there is no excuse for people who cannot contain their temper shown through physical violence.

Sue x

It is definately not black and white or easy to walk away indeed. I was in a very violent relationship for 13 years so I do know. I will not go into details but I finally walked out and have never looked back.

Hitting a man or women is not right, domestic violence effects 1 in 4,

So many say oh if they ever hit me, first time id be gone, if only it was that black n white and that easy,

Any blokes on here like to comment?
There are times when women do attack their husbands /boyfriends.
I have seen this happen and TBH how some of them resist giving it back I do not know ..it takes a very self controlled man not to lash out when he has a drunk , scratching , spitting female attacking him..

I am 71 and have never hit a woman - however I will admit there have been a couple who I felt like hitting :-(

Ironically , I do hope the same person who reported me has seen the other thread just posted?

"Feeling" like slapping someone is NOT the same as doing so....

Your instinct says no way But some folks can be such a holes that it winds folks up so much that the instinct is to give em one

NO way do I ever think domestic violence is justified but its not black and white in my view
I would cheerfully have bopped daughters second hubby but I knew he would play the system . he did later but we got him !! and I would have been had up not him for what he had done

Glad I kept my composure and outdid him ,he thought he was so clever but we were more with it

huh? missed your comment Sirius :-S.....seems like rr is out to make trouble again :-|

can't say Sirius :-D

Oh mate .. it's becoming an interesting thread and people are replying..
Of course things will start to be reported..
Keep replying peeps and thank you
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