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Taking care of your parent/s
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Von | Report | 8 Jul 2014 19:40 |
I do think a lot depends on circumstance and the relationship you have with your parents. |
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DIZZI | Report | 8 Jul 2014 19:19 |
I'M SCARED OF THE FUTURE IN A SELFISH WAY |
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SheilaSomerset | Report | 8 Jul 2014 19:19 |
My parents looked after my Gran - she lived with them from about the age of 65 when Granddad committed suicide. At first she was able to help with looking after my sisters, and me when I came along late as usual :-D, but a series of strokes took her speech and much of her mobility. At the time I was a young child and didn't realise how much of a burden it was for Mum and Dad, I'm sure it contributed to Dad's untimely death. Mum is still going strong at 90, on no medication and still quite mobile. She has recently moved into a flat nearby so that's less of a worry - hopefully she can retain her independence for some time yet. |
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Sirius | Report | 8 Jul 2014 19:03 |
I wouldn't say it was "lucky" or "fortunate" to give up a well paid job which offered the chance of later financial security to look after a parent. |
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BrendafromWales | Report | 8 Jul 2014 18:59 |
DC....my story is very similar to yours. |
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~Lynda~ | Report | 8 Jul 2014 18:58 |
I didn't get carers allowance Jax, I didn't ask for it, didn't know I could get it, until after my Mum had died. As for getting it when my Dad was abroad, I 'm sure the powers that be would have laughed if I had of asked for it :-) |
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~Lynda~ | Report | 8 Jul 2014 18:53 |
Isn't it odd how a thread about caring for parents, where someone who doesn't know you, but thinks they do, tells you how fortunate you are, and how things were different years ago? How do they know it was years ago, was it? I haven't said when it was, I haven't said I was getting older. |
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jax | Report | 8 Jul 2014 18:38 |
How is anyone expected to live on £61.35 carers allowance? |
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eRRolSheep | Report | 8 Jul 2014 18:28 |
Of course each to their own but I do think anyone who can give up their own job as they get older is very fortunate. |
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~Lynda~ | Report | 8 Jul 2014 18:22 |
Looks like I'm a one off then because I DID give up work, no job comes before my family. Each to there own, as I said before. |
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eRRolSheep | Report | 8 Jul 2014 17:55 |
I think anyone who is fortunate enough to be able to give up work, even when they are older, is very lucky indeed. |
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Sirius | Report | 8 Jul 2014 16:22 |
why not seriously? I don't think I have said anything re looking after, or not looking after, parents that could be taken as a joke or flippant in some way. |
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Island | Report | 8 Jul 2014 16:19 |
I can assure you I am not taking anything you have said personally Sirius or indeed, seriously. |
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Sirius | Report | 8 Jul 2014 16:15 |
Island you seem determined to take everything I say personally ? Don't know why, you asked me the question, I answered. |
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Island | Report | 8 Jul 2014 16:08 |
Sirius, I did have parents myself. I would comment further but think Lyndas thread is going way off track. |
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Sirius | Report | 8 Jul 2014 15:59 |
You don't have to feel guilty or think that any one is suggesting you should Island, no one mentioned guilt. |
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Sirius | Report | 8 Jul 2014 15:55 |
Carer's allowance Island ? |
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Island | Report | 8 Jul 2014 15:50 |
I would have loved to have looked after mine in their later years but geography, my own health situation and mother made it a no go. Not necceassarily in that order :-D |
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~Lynda~ | Report | 8 Jul 2014 15:33 |
We all have to do what we think best, and we all cope in different ways. |
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Island | Report | 8 Jul 2014 15:18 |
and live on what Sirius? |
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