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Over the last few years my daughter had her ups and down but yesterday left her lost for words, Both grandsons have special needs the health visitor when to see the boys at home and told her to stop being a good mother because there not a lot thay can do for her while she and us are copeing with the boys,but we are doing the best for her the boys and the family it is beyond words that you get told not to do right by your family

That is terrible. Cause you are all coping because you have too. It doesn't mean you don't want any help to make life a little easier.

Anne

Could it be that the health visitor was trying to say tactfully but unofficially that you were all doing too much, and that it was necessary for your daughter to say out loud she just couldn't cope any more without outside help? The health visitor must have guide lines which she has to follow.

Dear Sandra

Hello

As your daughter is a carer, you have a legal right to a carers assessment to establish exactly
what practical support you need.


Does she have a support group/disability group in your local area that can advise further?

There are many groups and advice helplines that can help with all kinds of things.

Your daughter is doing a GREAT job bringing her children up and she has every right to get any help she needs to continue doing so.


Take gentle care
Lots of good wishes to you and your family
Elizabeth,
xx

thank you She also has a job so she can pay her way. She has a office job in a school and they are a great help to her and so is the boys school. She works school hours so she can be there for them.As my OH said last night they are family they are his grandchildren and we will do right by them,he also said they make his day his children and grandchildren and my other daughter OH they put a smile on your face and bring joy into the world He is getting old to came out with that bless him. I feel sorry for them that do not have family on hand to be there for them