General Chat

I used to add to more threads during my nightly sojourns here and then find new threads had started up in the mornings and no one read my new thread or answered my comment, as if they had started a fresh 'page' and I was invisible.

Over the past months I have had a lot going on so haven't had as much time to be here during the night and find I can't keep up with all the regular threads, so just add to a few that catch my eye.

It's not cos I don't care any more, just need more hours in the day (or night)

Lizx

I'm often awake but whereas in the past I was in a bungalow and could wander back to the pc when i couldn't sleep now it means coming downstairs and disturbing the cat :-D

Tell you what Sylvia......you start up another Nighthawks thread......you remember?.....like the one that anyone who was awake could come on and chat....even if no-one else was about....a thread to hold the night time people together :-D

I am sure there are still many people who cannot sleep this side of the pond who would like to see if anyone else was awake.....take the loneliness off the night, so to speak ..

I think that I do know the thread that upset littlelegs ........

........... and it was more a case of someone being exasperated by another free offer on another site when the site was barely capable of handling the members, let alone hundreds of free trials ........ as demonstrated only a few weeks before.

that exasperation was expressed ....... and caused some upset.


there was actually something to be said for both sides.



plus ......... let's think twice before posting. :-)

Because I'm around more in the UK evening and night ............ I find I more often than not post, but get very little acknowledgement

That's OK

it happens


In fact, it's happened to me almost the whole time I've been on GR ............. although there did used to be far more people around in the middle of the night.

There are almost no overseas people posting now :-(



as far as rudery ....................... I think on many occasions, it isn't actually someone being rude, as the fact that the written word sometimes sounds more stern and rude than when someone speaks the same words


in other words .............. the internet is missing those cues that we get from facial and bodily expressions



plus, I think that sometimes people are being more "delicate" .......... they're taking offense where no offense is meant!

I remember When Daff, Michelle long clouds and myself used to have a thread.....Michelle was from NZ, Daff went to bed before 11 and I was awake half the night, so we all posted, mostly at different times..Oh yes, Liz popped on sometimes too...Well....Not one of us acknowledged much of what the other wrote.....we were deliberately ignorant and if anyone read the thread I am sure they must have thought we were mad.....in fact many a person popped on and we all ignored each other together......I miss my mate Daff She was as daft as a brush and I don't think I have ever laughed like a drain since :-(

cant remember which board it was
but i was quite upset about it

but do you know what i dont care what people think or say now

i like to come on here so i will and to those who are rude :-P

Susan sometimes ignores me ( edit which is fine I don't take it personally ;-) ) I sometimes don't post on Susan's threads:-) For one thing I can't do the late nights I used to somehow, I remember still being on here till 2 or 3 in the mornings about 6 years ago :-0

Another thing is of course that ALL the boards are quieter than they used to be, newbies who might have found their way to General from FA etc in the past, as I did, are now in short supply.

Was that the chat board or the other ones?

helloooooooo all

i really do like the boards most of the time


but


now and again some people are very rude when sometimes you are only asking a question

and it does put people off

happened to me not long ago and was thinking of leaving gr i think if it wasnt for mersey i would of done

thanks mersey :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D <3

Susan with numbers it was not said for you at all !! :-D :-D

Edit...people hurt in different ways, mainly because we are all different people ;-)

I have to say Mersey.....I find what you are saying very hurtful if you are referring to me ;-)....Just goes to show though......everyone can hurt whether they mean to or not.......don't you think?........I have seen many a nasty retort from some who profess to be so nice.....but maybe they didn't mean it either.......don't you think?....Oh my....I am feeling rather harassed by such negative vibes....I think I must go and lie down before I get more upset :-D


Ah!....that thread Wend.....I will root it out again and see what I can see......that's if I can see through the tears being as I am so upset now :-D......by the way.....you. May or may not have noticed but I haven't been on here since before the weekend....been to a dog show

Ah well - at least I found my earring - no thanks to you or Lady Scozz, who had me cleaning out the rubbish beneath my kitchen cupboards for hours. :-P (that's for Lady Scozz btw!)

It had fallen down the back of a chair on the landing upstairs - keep trying Lady Scozz ;-) :-D

If im honest I dont get bothered by the ignoring or even the missed post here and there.......by anybody :-D :-D

It is the hurtful comments that upset me, but as a whole whoever says them no matter who they are should have a think and a re read before they post and see how things may come across......an apology makes a difference and moving on is even better

I have no quips or anomosity to anyone here, different boards for different people.....

A thread is put up surely for others to enjoy and not a selected few, it just depends if one wants to post .......

I've been thinking ( I know, I know, time to go and do something more interesting while that pain Rose pontificates ;-) ) but I do think it is partly down to nothing more than boredom with saying much the same things over a period of years. I sometimes think I will post and then realise I have said it all before lol.

For me personally, I'm afraid I find most of the jokes too juvenile for my taste ( I'm not a teenager and I don't particularly find 'teenage' humour funny any more lol) , I don't 'do' fluffy 'always look on the bright side' threads because life isn't like that tbh ( not for me at the moment anyway) and I can't fake it lol.

I do find the constant belittling of the sometimes genuine RRers off putting, it may not suit people to have their posts reported ( I don't like it when mine are!) but I think more often than not there IS a genuine reason ( it's the difference between me watching a tv programme like the big bang theory and my auntie watching, she would be genuinely affronted by some things that I find funny on it...she is not sad or pathetic or irritating, she is of an age not to be 'comfortable' with sexual matters being discussed for instance).

and lastly, I love that people join in on the long running threads like the Aus' one, but I am in and out of here and whilst I don't feel like I would be intruding, I also don't feel I have the time to contribute properly to them, I prefer a 'topic' thread that I can add to but don't have to commit to being on if i don't have time (or inclination to depress everyone lol).

and lastly again !some of the people who I clicked with have gone, they are irreplaceable in some ways. That's not to say that the people here are not lovely, just that neither they nor I have connected in the way that makes the leap from friendly acquaintance to 'friend' :-)

I don't think any of us can really know the answer Island...so my guess is as good as any other

wasn't deliberate Wend......Now and again I have to apologise to people as when I look back I can see that someone else has posted and it looks as if I have ignored them.....I have great admiration for anyone who can keep a thread going and chat to everyone on there.....I am rubbish at it......For instance.....the people on the longer running threads...Suemaid.... Auntie wot sit .....and others......they chat away days later and have something to say to all who have added......now me!......I am an off the cuff person and get in a right muddle if I have to think too much about which thread I was last on.....I do realise that sometimes I come across as rude by seemingly ignoring....but I honestly don't....I also write stuff then go off and do something else for days......so maybe the last person on my thread won't get answered

I posted on a thread of yours which amused me not long ago Susan, and I received no response from you whatsoever.

It must have been rubbish!

Blimey Wend, when did that happen? :-0

I'm always amused by the 'non paying members' line. It's like blaming the office cleaners. ;-)

Ah.....but maybe they are being viewed by non members.......If no-one posts on my threads I at least know they have been viewed and maybe someone has either been entertained or learned something.......I never post on a thread that seems as if it is a private chat thread any more.....one doesn't want to go where one is not wanted ;-)

if no-one posts on my threads I also think that perhaps they have nothing to say.....after all....it would be adding rubbish to rubbish :-D....If anyone would like to know why I really don't post much.....feel free to ask but do expect to hear the truth :-D and please don't start with the snidey remarks if I am not agreed with. it is a personal choice :-)