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Minutes earlier I deleted the name and phone number from the memory of my phone for two lovely friends in their 80s who will never be in contact - with anyone - again!

Last Monday I noted I went to the Celebration of Life for Dear Mary, 82, who finally - and thankfully - passed into eternal peace from her cancers.
This leaves her husband in a home (18 months) with dementia / Alzheimer's who stares at the wall, recognises no one, and is totally oblivious to everything.

How sad is this continuous routine for suffers like him?

Knowing I shall never have a conversation with either of them again, and today, reluctantly deleting their phone number after several years of friendship, brings it home that we are only on Mother Earth for so long.

Let us enjoy it!

If I may say to you good folks on GR ... have a lovely weekend.

Take care.

Barry

Barry such a sad time for you.

It's very sad
I still have on various sites our nephew who passed away 3 years ago from cancer

I see his name and it's often in my contacts to send nudges on some games sites and I have to remember to untick before sending

Wouldn't want to upset his family but am reluctant to delete him .

I do know he has passed but seeing him is somehow comforting

I can't delete the email address of my cousin who I met for the first time 6 years ago. He passed away 3 months before we were to travel to the UK again. He was very much looking forward to seeing me again.

I'm not ready yet to delete my mums land line or mobile number from my phone. She passed away very suddenly in February and I just can't bring myself to do it.

Chris

So sad for you Barry, but comforting to know that Mary is free at last from her suffering, she must have fretted about her husband too, bless him. At least he won't feel the grief if he is so confused and maybe soon Mary will come to fetch him from his existence so they can be together again.

I still have our Deanna and Caz's numbers in my phone, can't bear to delete them.

Lizx

Same here. I cant delete my friends number, and my Dads who passed away last month.

I have 3 'friends' on FB who have passed away.
My sister and I have discussed deleting our mother's account, but can't be bothered to work out how. One day we'll ask one of our brothers to do it,

Still have mum's mobile number - she never had the phone on when she was alive - so no difference there!!

I asked GR to delete my late BiL's account on here - it could be frustrating for others with an inactive tree..
Just realised my mum possibly had a tree on here.

edit: No, she didn't!

My cousin died 2 years ago from a brain tumour aged 44. I still have his mobile number saved in my phone and just cannot bring myself to delete it.

Strange isn't it, this reluctance to delete friends and family who have gone before us? I recently deleted two good friends from my mobile who passed away three years ago.
Sad for you Barry especially with your friend in the home. <3 <3

We lost our brother at the end of August

His wife still has his PAYG mobile and sometimes uses it .

She Is going to keep it going as he has his recorded message on there saying not here leave a message

I have found myself phoning it just to hear his voice again

Thank you for your replies and kind words, ladies. I am sorry to learn of your sad loss.
Soon after I created this thread I went away to Mary's town - and later to her birth town.
A last look back, so to speak.

I have chatted with friends about my deed.
I always stress to everyone that we are individuals - and thus we have different views on this and, indeed, any subject.
In retrospect, while I am sad, I do feel 'comfortable' with my decision and action in this instance to delete Mary's name.

This said, however, since my late Margaret's late sister (19 months) passed away, I have still not deleted her entry from the phone. Strange of me, perhaps?
I know she can never call me again and her husband won't call me or anyone else. (We are on very good terms although I have to initiate contact.)
I said he will never call me - yet inexplicably I will not feel comfortable deleting S-i-L's entry.
As they say in Yorkshire - 'there's now't so queer as folk'.

Lastly, I find it interesting ladies only have replied to this thread.
Thanks for your time,
Barry

I have bought a new line land phone because on the old one I had my friends voice on it we had be friends for 55 years still upsets me to think she will not ring anymore

It´s always difficult to delete anything of friends that have moved on.

Some do it some don´t .. I am grateful that my best mates partner didn´t close his FB account as myself, his children and several friends still visit it and leave comments.
after saying that I left another friends phone number on my phone and almost freaked when I got a call from dead friend. Pure fluke that it was a mis-dialed number from my friends number that had been re-allocated. Had a great conversation with the new owner and we still occasionally chat. I still don´t delete numbers.

It´s an each to their own as to how and when they remove. The main thing to remember is that no removal of numbers or anything else can remove the memories that you have They are always there <3