General Chat

Neither incident was recent but I just happened to think about it.

One was a woman I had worked with in a factory and she did think she was a bit of a queen bee there. I spoke to her in a shop and she kind of sneered when she said a very
off-hand,don't bother me kind of hello. She later turned up at a family funeral with her very friendly mother and thought she should be pally with me.

The other was a bloke from my village with whom I had worked and laughed and joked over the years.

He was in a shop with a woman who was not his wife but I was in there with a man who was not my partner. I saw nothing strange in his being there but he was evidently playing away, I wasn't. This man pretended he didn't know me when I spoke to him.

He later brought Fred home from hospital (his job) and thought I should be chatty and friendly.

What really annoys me is the idea that, because it was some time ago that they affronted me and that they were big and important enough to have forgotten something so insignificant,then I should have forgotten being affronted because it doesn't suit them for me not to have done.

No, if I am not worth their politeness when it doesn't suit then I am not going to require it at a time that does.

As for the guy in the garden centre, that would have been for show.I certainly have not grown more kissable over the years!

When I was a lot younger (in school) I purposely went out one afternoon to meet my mum from work.

Stood on the corner of East Street for over an hour, she never turned up!!!!

Got home, only to find Mum there. Told her where I had been, she said 'Yes, I saw you standing there, said Hello and you ignored me'

I was so intent on meeting her I completely missed her.

What you call a snub, could just be preoccupation on the other persons part.

You have had a bad time, but then again so does everyone else, you do not know what they were thinking about or doing at the time they 'snubbed' you. You should be less judgemental of what others do around you.

It is very easy when you are feeling low to feel that the world is against you, I know I have been there. You see people constantly watching you, when all they are doing is staring out a window near you, talking about you when they are not.

I found out the hard way that I had been suffering from depression and this was one of the awful side effects.

Am well over all that now, and if you continue to feel this way, please go to your Doctors, they will help with this.

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I've walked past family never mind friends lol, being out is for many people the only time they may have to think, I was always deep in thought and it was 'me' time even if it was only for ten minutes going to the shops, I really didn't have 'time' to stop and talk because if I did it was just a bit less time for me, and I didn't have much. So it may be that they also had things on their mind, places to be, worries that prevented them from thinking about conversation with someone else.

I remember the time, even though it's years ago, when someone I don't think I knew ( though they may have recognised me from somewhere) passed me in the street and smiled and said "cheer up it may never happen"...well it HAD happened and being told to "cheer up" was not a help lol.

Maybe the garden centre chap was just in a good mood and felt like expressing it
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I suppose I had let it go, and them.

Sharron if it was only the once then they might genuinely not have noticed you. I know I have walked right past friends of mine because I was in a day dream and they were out of context.

Agreed if it was a genuine snub then an apology isn´t hard x

Don´t know what to say about the garden center chap :-S :-D

Its all water under the bridge - let it go. There is no point dwelling on a 'slight'. If they can't remember the incident, they can't really apologise, can they?

Be courteous if you bump into them, but don't expect to resume a meaningful relationship xx

It was before Fred died.

If they were to apologize for having snubbed me in the first place I would be fine but I don't like them trying to make it look like I am bearing a grudge for a long time.

I am not. I have just accepted that they don't want to know me and arranged my life around that.

It is not so very hard to apologize.

They might have been pre-occupied or in a rush. Not everyone has time to stand and chat.

If you hadn't seen the garden centre guy since Fred died, it might have been his clumsy way of showing you support. Come to think of it, many people don't know how to acknowledge or express sympathy to some one recently bereaved. They'd rather cross the road or ignore the relative.

Give them a second chance

Once or twice I have met people I know in the street and they have been very off-hand and not wanted to know me or treated me like I was beneath them and they really could not be bothered with me.

Fine, I know where I stand, they don't want to know me, I can live with it. I don't bother with them any more.

Then, later, in some different situation, they wonder why I can't be bothered with them and ask me why I have not acknowledged them.

When I tell them it is because they originally did not want to know me, they ask me how long ago hat was.

Now, as far as I am concerned, time is not in the equasion. If you don't want to know me, then you don't, full stop!

Likewise, a bloke I have known all my life but have not had much to do with, bumped into me in the garden centre. He wanted to kiss me. Well, he never showed any desire to kiss me before so why would I want him to now?