General Chat

Yes Joy, you are so right I agree with you.

Actually what I stated was a fact, or are you saying that she did say unpleasant things? No of course you aren't because we and you know she didn't. And I am saying she would be mortified from the many many PMs and e mails I exchanged with BC in which she told me many times how she felt about things said by people about other people on the boards. Just because you have met her and some of us haven't doesn't make her any less our friend, any less mourned by us so please do not presume to tell us differently.

No one is saying that sylvia stop trying to twist things.

she was a beautiful lovely person even nicer in real life
Who tolerated many people

but not fools she saw right through them

and she never kicked anybody when they where down :-( :-(

Joy


we are not implying .....................

I at least am saying that the impression I got from the contacts I had with BC led me to believe she was a certain kind of person



was I wrong?


was she a completely different person off the Boards form the one she portrayed on here??

No im saying its rude to assume, what someone would say or think when they cant say for themselves

What Stray is saying you lot are implying when you don't know :-( :-(

Jumping on someone in an over-emotional rant for making a suggestion isn't nice, either - and Shirley is still with us :-(

I think that AnninG made a fair comment ..................... about what she, and many of us, saw on the Boards, and what we believed BC to be like


are you trying to say that BC was a different person than she portrayed to the general group of members who post on here?



surely that is insulting BC!

Again please dont assume you know what Bc would think, and try and use it as a means to get your point across, its not nice,

I totally agree AnninGlos - some might even go so far as to say that is shows a total lack of respect by some members.

You know I never, ever saw BC make nasty comments about anybody on these boards. whatever she thought about people she kept to herself, or to private PMs. I am sure she would be mortified by this.

I feel extremely sorry for Shirley


There is no way that she deserved the kind of comments that were directed at her yesterday


A complete lack of respect for someone who merely voiced an opinion and asked for input ......................



Everyone has the right to their opinion

No-one has the right to be shouted down and insulted ................... that is denial of free speech


No-one has the right to impose their will on others ............ yet that attempt is being made on here.



and I have no patience with the idiot who RR'd the OP




I hope you all realise that GR is being driven into the ground ................... that is plain by the lack of attention paid by the staff to the Boards.

RR'd posts regularly remain as such for days on end .................. they used to be reviewed by noon of the day after being RR'd

we hardly ever see any comments by GR staff

emails to Support get the usual "it must be your browser" blah response



The response to the very reasoned OP on this thread will be just one more reason to drive newcomers away ..................... and another aid to any request by BS to dissolve GR or roll it into FMP.

I too feel sorry for Shirley....it was a suggestion as this is supposed to be a chat board.
I don't normally take part in controversial threads,but this is an angry one.
We are all upset by members passing ...and have seen a few over the 10 years I have been a member.
I agree that there should be a memorial board...... I go on a site dedicated to Jazz and have got to correspond with musicians From my past...and of course we notice more and more that we are all getting older and we are losing old friends .

We have an. In Memory board... and after a death has been announced on the main board it is transferred to this ...and regularly added to with any one wants to look up...What happened to....or just add a little quote.

I don't believe anyone is being disrespectful.
I believe Shirley added this as there are now 4 stickies and we all grieve,but there is a place to put all our memories.

If anyone deserves an apology on here, Shirley does.

There was absolutely no need for her to be subjected to such an outburst as she has been, it was most unwarranted.

Most of us realise that Shirley is dealing enough problems in her life without being vilified for a very reasonable and well thought out suggestion - a suggestion with which many of us agreed.

Her thread was neither disrespectful nor insensitive nor did it lack compassion. It was, in fact very well phrased and said what many of us were already thinking.


Cx :-)

Very well said, Tabitha.

For goodness sake – i have never seen so many people make such a fuss over a comment

Everyone has a right to their own opinion & no one should be shouted down or reviewed

I think there should be a separate Memoriam board -
the individual thread headings can have that person’s name on it

Then if people want to visit it they can & no-one can stop them and also add their own thoughts

This way people do not have to see the same heading day in & day out

Those that want to share their grief can do so together others can just get on with life such as it is

This did not need to be reported it was just an idea & the poor person who started it has done nothing wrong

The memoriam board should have been set up a very long time ago

I haven't seen much lack of compassion, actually, Mummo.

People have apologised if others were upset.
Not sure what else you expect them to do.

No one intended any disrespect as has been made clear.

Please can you all have some compassion, Hayley is still grieving and a thread like this probably hurts her more than we all imagine.
As others have said it not that we didn't no that it would be unpinned but it would be up to GR to decide when the time is right.

Sympathy to Hayley, Joy & Stray <3

Omg no one is saying it shouldn't be unpinned
The problem is peoples requesting it, we feel it's disrespectful!
Just because you say no offence intended doesn't mean it won't offend, people, and just because it doesn't offend a group of people doesn't meAn it doesn't offend some