General Chat

Shirley,,,I go along with the others ...if he is coping with it leave it be...maybe try some low fat food as Jax suggests...but it depends whether he tells you when he is in pain!

I do feel for you as an ex carer,though my OH didn't have dementia which must be frustrating,but all you want for them is to be comfortable and as happy as possible.

We all need someone to talk to and release tension ...and family don't always understand...so come on here .There is always someone to help...as I have found .

Brenda xx

When I had gall stones 18 years ago.... The sickness was triggered by what I ate..... Sausages was the main culprit

Before the op which was keyhole I had to stick to a low fat diet

Well, Shirley. His life won't get any better and neither will the gallstones.

At the moment his life is alright and the gallstones are a bit of an inconvenience.

Leave it be for now because it is not so bad but, later, when the balance has changed, have another look at the situation.

I did think that things would be best left as they are for now, Shirley, so long as hubby and you can cope with his nausea etc.

There may come a time when his needs change but for now, take each day as it comes.

Well done to him for making you the flower arrangement, enjoy it.

Lizxx

Shirley, is it possible that he can have some anti sickness medication
If he is not in any pain and the sickness can be relieved it would make things easier. <3

I had mine removed by keyhole surgery and it is a much less invasive operation then it used to be so he may well not be under the anaesthetic for too long...the pain of gallstones is unbearable so he may well be better off having surgery when he reaches that stage :-)

Shirley, best leave alone until he is actually in griping pain..

Let him enjoy life as much as he can.and put the worry t the bac of your mind..

Enjoy yourselves and live life to the fullest you can..

Hugs for you and congratulations to your hubby for the flower arrangement. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

Surgery ? Gallstones even quite large ones can be removed using shock waves.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2197834/Gallstones-I-hardly-pain-shockwaves-shattered-gallstones.html

Thanks JOY our posts crossed

I am really thinking let things lie until maybe a decision has to be made

Thanks Margee

Your experience with your mum echos hubbys . I am thinking too if they dont give him problems then let well alone

at least I know so can monitor him


Bless him he went to his Day Centre today and they did flower arrangements

i have a beautiful flower arrangement on oasis now sitting on the sideboard

its very professional looking too!!..I have done a course on it and I couldnt have done better
:-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

what a awful worry you must have on your mind Shirley
cant they blast the stones much less risky
mind a gall stone op in nowhere near as bad as it used to be
its usually key hole surgery now
if I had to decide it would depend on how much discomfort he gets when they play up

but at his age I can understand how difficult this must be to you
I am sure what ever you decide will be the best decision as you know him best :-(

My opinion would be to say no to surgery unless of course he has unbearable pain from the gallstones. I have been told that most people over a certain age have gallstones and most people live with them with only an occasional bout of sickness. My mother was diagnosed with them but the doctor didn't want to operate because of her very serious heart problems, he thought she might not survive the anaesthetic. Well, she lived with her gallstones and had no problems with them. She died many years later during heart surgery.

Thanks Liz
No we don't have to make a decision at the mo cos he isn't in distress with pain with them but it does explain why he has the occasional problems
I would love to say take the gall bladder out and let him get on with his life But??? could his body cope with anaesthetic at his age

My initial thoughts are if it don't worry him then why put him through an operation.


As his carer the docs says my input is the deciding voice

Oh Shirley, my heart goes out to you.

I hope you have family support to help with this difficult decision. Only those closest to your husband can know which way to go. I assume you don't have to rush into an immediate decision.

Will be thinking about you ,


Lizxx

OH is wandering along on his own sweet way!!

He has his medical problems at 81 with alzheimer affecting his word recall with associated Lewy Body Dementia

Been worried about him as he has several bouts of sickness and throwing up in the mid evenings

we went for our annual MOTS in march and I voiced my concerns for OH and my worry of cancer as his mum and grandad had bowel cancer, OH too has problems in that area

Doc didnt want to do invasive tests cos of his age .81< so we opted for a scan like the ladies have for pregnancy

WELL he does have a liver cyst , BUT more important he has gall stones .They dont give him much problems apart from the occasional bout of wanting to throw up.

SO was told the only way is surgery to remove his gall bladder BUT at 81 the risks of anesthesia isnt good

The decision is up to me as his carer

OMG I dont know what I should opt for .I would be mortified if he died on the operating table like his younger brother whose heart gave out and couldn't be restored