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I am feeling a little down in the dumps today, my house looks like the dust bunny dumped all the roads mess in it, but as I tried to sweep up I looked at all the dog hair and realised it wasn´t my Minx who shed every where but the precious we still have, so I sat on the floor and cried.

Now I have let the flood gates open I can´t seem to stop, gonna look a mess going to the shop later and that just makes me cry more.
I have so much to do and I can´t seem to find the energy or the will to do it, I know if I don´t I will only get annoyed at myself. Been a bit like that for the last few weeks, but I have managed to put off the drudge of every day living with other things.

In the last 4 weeks I have had the anniversary of both parents deaths, Mum on the 5th and Dad on the 11th, The loss of my beautiful furbaby Minx, the scare of Mini not being well.
We are still trying to get Minx´s urn out of customs, it cost me a lot of money to begin with but it was the one we both loved and what is money after all. I can joke that she is costing me more now than she did alive but my bank account is over a grand down. I thank Mum each and every day for the money she had because without it I couldn´t have even afforded the vet bill at the beginning. That is another story and a bone of contention.

I am not good at feeling useless and believe it or not I am not good at feeling sorry for myself, I did all that when I was younger, didn´t get the T´shirt but do have the scars. Not that this post disproves that.
So being so tearful and down in the dumps now is like asking me to stand on my head :-S, never could do that.

I don´t need replies to this but I will thank those that have read all the way through, once again I can only ask that you be patient with me. <3
A very disjointed post this is but I am a very disjointed person at the moment :-(

oh Uzzi - I do feel for you - you've been through dreadful times and they seem to be neverending - no one minds you coming on here and posting how you feel - we are all here for you <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

My thoughts are with you Uzzi. i had a final appointment to take my old lady to the vet's last week but i cancelled it at the last minute. Now every day i have this awful guilt feeling about her, she isn't really ill her eyes are bright but her rear end is going and the smell coming from her is almost unbearable at times.

The vet said not to worry , just to ring him when i feel i cannot cope anymore..what to do? she is not quite ready but i can't really cope with her.

Grief is an awful emotion and affects us all in different ways, i am sending you some love and a hug xx

u r brave
<3 <3 <3

Oh dear UzziWithTears, it is best to cry when you are hurting so much, and is it any wonder as you have so much on your plate right now.

It can, and will get better, but when life circumstances knock us down, we don't always have the energy or motivation needed to bounce back. Be kind to yourself today.
Sending a warm and gentle ((((hug)))) your way right now. xx

It is what this board is good at Uzzi, you are free to offload whenever you want, our shoulders are broad and hugs are many. You are grieving still so don't be surprised at the tears.

Are you still unable to retrieve the urn from customs?

Sending you lots of ((((((hugs)))))) <3 <3 <3

Share it with us anytime Uzzi, I am sure I speak for many in that we will all try and offer you a shoulder to cry on and a willing listening ear. Nothing wrong with feeling the way you do I have often felt that way myself,bigtime. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

Although I don't always add to threads you have
put up Uzzi, I read them all and my heart goes out
to you at this very sad and difficult time.<3 <3

Oh Uzzi................ we are all here for you and are thinking of you.

M. <3 <3 <3

Sending (((((((hugs))))))) and <3 <3 <3 Uzzi

Jem xx

Like Emma I don't often add to your threads but I do read them. Don't be hard on yourself, take your time to grieve and cry if you feel like crying. You have just lost a much loved family member, who was much more to you than "a pet" so it's not surprising if you are struggling to come to terms with the loss.

Be kind to yourself <3 <3

Uzzi, I think the loss of Minxie has opened the floodgates for all you have coped with over the last two or three years. You have had to deal with sorting out your Mum's home and possessions and moving house yourself as well as losing your Mum so soon after her moving in, so no opportunity to spend time with her and maybe change the dynamics of your relationship or get answers to questions.

Then you have had lots more contact with family, which altho enjoyable, can mix up emotions and memories. Your worries and heartbreak over your furbabies is the final straw so let the tears come, no more putting on a brave front, just let everything out and just do what you can, when you can.

Have been thinking about you, I know T will take good care of you and Mini and eventually you will be able to smile more and start to enjoy life again, even the (naughty word) .

Love
Lizxxx

Thank you all for your replies,
Ann no I still don´t have her urn, spent most of the day filling in forms just to be told not our department, Monday I am going to anger management classes :-D :-D

SuffolkVera I am coming to yours for dinner. but you can bin the piizza

:-D :-D

I will be fine, actually I am a tad shamed that I ran here crying, but I knew this was the place I could and be understood. <3

<3 <3 <3 <3 UzziI

Gracias