General Chat

Michael loves classical music and still listens to it daily .well when he was home he did .

He can get quite emotional listening to it and I seen him him wipe away a tear when something has moved him .

H e is going to be in the lounge so he will be able to listen again although it wont be through his earphones as the lead wont stretch form the music center

Shirley, have you seen Sally Magnusson's website about music for dementia sufferers?

She wrote an excellent book about caring for her mother, who had dementia. She was very musical and Sally discovered that even after all other memories appeared to have gone, music still meant something and her mother could still sing along!

The book is called "Where Memories Go" and the website link is below. The idea is to create a personal CD for dementia sufferers, but I haven't looked at it in detail.

http://www.playlistforlife.org.uk/

You sound a truely amazing couple. <3 <3

I absolutely understand Shirley. He is your husband and the illness that takes away so much still leaves a bit of him inside.............I saw the Mum I knew in her smile or the touching of foreheads she did with me.

Gentle bullying is good for him and a sign of how much you love him <3 <3

Thank you all

I know its not going to be easy as have seen from others how stressful it can be even though we love our other halves

sometimes their illness makes it difficult to cope with on a daily basis BUT when we married it was for better and worse AND in sickness and in health and this could mean either of us
I love my hubby no matter what and don't want to lose him so we need each other.
he is my best friend as well as my hubby and my right hand so supporting him now he needs me is a not in question

I will be lost without him so not letting him go without a big fight. I admit I bully him gently to eat a bit more etc to try and spur him on

Rest while you can Shirley.......and fingers crossed he is home soon. XX

Hope your hubby is home with you soon. Please remember to take good care of yourself as well as him. You will need some 'me time' so make sure you take all the help you can have. Sending hugs to you both. <3 <3 <3

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQh04-STjmU
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Hope he gets home soon as pronised Shirley, it will be good for him to be able to look out on the garden. :-)

I hope the carers package will work well to provide the support that you both will need.

A challenging time ahead but good you have your wish to have your husband home.

Take things slowly, sending gentle ((((hugs)))) for you today. xxx

Well he isn't home yet .,

They move so slowly and just when you think it's all going smoothly then they say no he needs yet another professional involved ie he needs a care manger but no one had done anything about it .

I got a bit annoyed with them and then they suddenly got themselves moving and the bed was delivered and installed in the lounge yesterday so he can be in a bigger surrounding and look out into the garden . All of a sudden they are saying he is well and needs to come home ASAP because the longer he is in hospital the danger of him picking up an infection. Well that's what we have been pushing for for two plus weeks now .

So hopefully some time next week he will be home

My best wishes to you Shirley.....it is a blessing to have him home, but remember to have some time for yourself too.

The dementia road is a rough one to travel, but hand in hand you will be a great comfort to each other <3 <3

Hello Shirley .hope you & Hubby are alright & you have care in place .take care of yourself as well .best wishes Barbra <3

Shirley, I hope that everything has calmed down now so that your husband is able to relax and feel safe at home in familiar surroundings. I do hope that the care package is working out well enough to support the two of you. Try to get some rest if you can. xxx

<3 Shirley <3

Take some rest when you can, Shirley, and let things settle. Try not to stress the small stuff.

Thank you all

Hopefully I can get on here often as I usually am on my I pad not the PC so sit downstairs in the recliner . If I am not running around too much then I can still relax and do this .

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Dear Shirley.
I am sorry you and your husband have been having a hard time. You will be pleased to have him home again as he will be pleased to be home with you. As others have said, do take all the help you can . Maybe someone to sit with your hubby if you have to pop out for a little while even if it is just for a coffee and chat with a friend would be nice for you. I do think the baby alarm is a good idea. My Dad had one for my Mum.
Take care
Sylvia xx

Shirley, I am sorry the hospital stay has caused your poor hubby to become more dependent on care but hope once he is home he might improve a bit. It's great that you have care packages set up and I hope your friends and family will support you well too.

You might not have much time to come on here but try and keep in touch and feel free to offload to us when you need to.

Will be thinking of you

Lizxx