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I loved the person who would have been my mother in law, I stayed with her and OH's father a couple of times before we were married but she died when I was only 17, three years before we were married.

I had a very good relationship with our son in law who sadly died last December. I also have a good relationship with our son's wife. And to add to it further being a Grandmother in law, I have a good relationship with the wives of the two grandsons who are married. And I think they would say the same if you asked them.

What about nightmare daughters in law? Lord help the woman who marries my ex daughter in laws only son.

OH's mother has never been here. She lives three miles away and I have seen and spoken to her no more than three times in the last fifteen years.

He is free to go there and I have taken him there and dropped him off for Christmas but I don't like her and don't want anything to do with her.

My Mother-in-law was lovely it was her son that was the problem. Did not get married to second husband till after his mother died but had met her and knew she would have been a problem one of the times I went to see when her son was out of the room she was talking about his first wife then she came right up to my nose with her finger and said "if you ever hurt my son you'll have me to answer to" he was her only son she also had a daughter

Oh dear, there are some really nightmare mothers-in-law.

No complaints from me...... I loved my mother-in-law very much, she was a wonderful lady, and like a second mother to me. We lost her in February 2 years ago, and I miss her every day.

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I never got on with my Mother in law .my oh was an only son ..she was just an old misery .I got on well with F I L . think that was the problem .I use to bake & take stuff for them .always had them Christmas .& Children`s Birthdays ..they would just turn up :-( I could write a book . :-) best way is ask your hubby to be firm but fair with her .you have been together a long time .don't fall out .just stand up to her you are all adults .don't worry about it life`s to short .be a better person than her .Good luck Barbra x

my mother in law was a down and out bitch to me - my husband was one of eight children, four boys and four girls - the daughter in laws were never in favour for one reason or another but I was the one towards which she showed the most hatred - I never ever was disrespectful to her - I found out from my brother in law years later that the reason she didn't like me - father in law as well - was that I was snooty and standoffish!!! I was gobsmacked as I have never had any reason to be snooty and most certainly am not standoffish

It's really up to your OH to stand up to her. It can be done gently but persistently. If you had a big row with her, it will only make things worse & your OH will be torn between the 2 of you.
After 32 years, she's not likely to change now :-0

She has my sister in law living just down the road from them The staff told us on Monday that my husband dad he feeling his age but if we are need they will ring us.

She just likes to be in control i am not having it

Not an easy situation for you Sandra. I assume they are elderly and live in sheltered accommodation? She sounds very bitter. Is your husband her only son? If she has staff (carers) on site to look after them, the next time she makes a fuss why doesn't your son contact the staff to ask if theya re OK? that might save you a 4 hour journey there and back. Why is the house you are building your husband's and nothing to do with you?

It sounds as if she is lonely and misses her son but as he has been married for 32 years she (and he) should be used to it by now. Really it is up to your sone to tell her that it is not your fault he is often unavailable.

Mothers in law can be a big problem but I am glad your sons in law are ok with you. And, yes we all get things wrong sometimes but not all the time I hope. :-)

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Does anyone have the same problem as me ? My mother in laws still thinks her on is a little boy. When she ring she will not speak to anyone but him. We are building a house and it is his nothing to do we me., but this week i have had it with her. My husband did nights over last weekend finished them on Sunday , but because of all the upset she made like saying i was keeping her son from her and other things we had to drove 4 hours on Monday and then drove 4 hours back on Tuesday only to find there was nothing the matter when we got to her and her husband. When she rung last night and i told her she could not talk to her son he was in bed i got told that is all down to me making him drove down to her and she thinks that they should came before my grandchildren as some are you know my grandsons have health needs and schooling needs I do not think she i on the plant. My sister in laws and her family lives by them and they have there own flat but they are staff on site to look after them some folk do not know how well of they are .f i have had i will go to war with her if that what it takes after 32 years i think it is time to stand up to her . I did ask my son in laws what i am like as a mother in law and he reply your are good, sometime you get it wrong but not a lot of the time ,so please about that.