General Chat

By our own experience we have been equipped to see through the sweetness.

What I want to do is to turn our suffering into a positive gift to make others aware of what narcissism is really about.

Narcissism is very difficult for a child to see. and also for others Wend can tell you what a beautiful lovely woman my mother was, she can also tell you what a bitch she was to me, Like Wend I would be there if I saw another child suffering, but who would believe that charming, adorable lady. could be a bitch

Should we not be the people to make the condition public.

I have seen a child suffer as I did and not known what to do.

Those who have not been the victim of a narcissist have no concept of the situation. You couldn't imagine it if you had not lived it.

We have to make it kown because we are old enough and articulate enough as adults to explain the reality.

Indeed we should Sharron. I would be there like a shot if I knew of any child suffering as I did. Unfortunately, speaking from my experience, nobody else knows. The narcissist can be very charming and amusing when the necessity arises (speaking from experience!)

But Wend,what about all children living through it now? You might have noticed that I didn't actually mention my own situation here.

Yes, we have survived but are we not the ones who are best equipped to make things better for the children to come?

Should we not be turning our negative into a positive for them?

I was brought up by a narcissistic woman (as was her daughter) and I came through it. I don't dwell on it - I only feel sympathy for her. She too was brought up by a narcissistic woman. I felt all those feelings you illustrate in the second paragraph of your OP when I was a child.

I think (and hope) I learned from it and have thankfully moved on to become a loving and caring mother.

I lost the narcissistic woman's daughter, my mother, when she committed suicide in her 40's.

The child victim of the narcissistic parent slips under the radar again then.

Whether King or commoner, we should be responsible for the child we have produced.

Sometimes evil & depravity masquerade within human beings. And it's often difficult to pontificate on strange family issues we don't really understand.

We have had the Pride of Britain awards again and there have been several children who have, quite correctly, given awards for the things they have achieved with the support of their parents and families.

In my opinion, the children of courage in this world are also the poor little children of narcissistic parents who, daily, have the bewilderment of dealing with the behaviour of a sick mind who has charge of their lives and who have nowhere to turn for support.