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Oh Rose, reading this is just like my mother. In oct I went down to see her and my family and I stayed with mum for about 5 days out of 11.

Stuck in her ways, refuses to pay direct debit. Insists on drawing out all her pension. getting pound coins and 50ps, puts in it various labelled jars each week til the bill arrives, then carts all these coins to the post office!!!!

Will only go out on certain days, only buys certains brands of food. only does her washing on 2 days a week. I explained that dds would mean when its wet and cold she wouldn't need to trek to the po as the bank will pay it for her but NO, No. NO she wouldn't budge on it.

When she tells me on a sunday, I listen for 20 mins whilst she tells me everything shes done all week, whats shes watched on tv before saying, oh well better see to me lunch before I can say "yes thanks for asking, we r all fine"....lol She never asks for the children unless I tell her some news. Shes on her own and has become very selfish in a way and now only thinks of herself. She has 3 grandchildren who live 10 mins away and yet never sees them much and it doesn't seem to bother her.

She really annoys me more now and its hard to bite my tongue at times but shes 79 now and I suppose I should be more tolerant but its hard when u offer help and its thrown back.

So u are not alone with the friend u are talking about. I just hope as I become old, I don't turn into my mother....Thankfully, im more like my dad :-D :-

And no rant away, if u cant do that on here amongst friends, then where can you?

Florence
in the hebrides :-)

before she starts whinging, get in first and do some whinging of your own, asking her if she can help you sort it out

Sounds like she is an 'Energy Vampire'

I have a friend like that and I feel pretty much the same as you Rose!

Yes slashing down some weeds with a scythe, digging or some vicious hard pruning used to be good in times of stress DET. Can't do that today so I will walk up to the shop and hope the battle against the wind will do the trick :-)

Ooommmmmm ;-)

Never mind Rose; You're doing a sterling job letting her moan to you.

She's obviously one of those inward looking people who can't adapt to a changing world. If truth be told, we possibly all have some little quirk dating back to the way we've always done something.

Practise your Oooomms or take it out on the weeds! ;-)

sorry!

Every week for the the last 5 years I have had at least 2 often 3 or 4 phone calls from a friend of my mum ( mentioned before on here that her husband died 5 years ago) and every conversation is the same, the weather the cats, problems that she has ( what about mine!) .... but I am hitting a wall where my sympathy is overtaken by exasperation, and depression to be honest that the phone will ring and it leaves me drained and tense.

This is today's. She relies on someone to go and pay her bills, in this instance the gas and electric, fortnightly on a card, now she's just rec' a letter saying she has 'not paid', but it was paid, just probably a few days late, so the letter was automatically generated and sent. That's all sorted but I asked why when she has to rely on someone else to go and pay does she not either have a monthly direct debit, or switch to a quarterly bill.Then she would not have to rely on the person going to pay on time (plus I think she is paying way too much and needs to check her tariff)

Answer: "It's the way we've always done it" ......aaaahhhh!

We've had much the same conversation re all her bills at one time or another and nothing I suggest is ever taken up.

There is also a weekly drama about the 'shopping lady' who buys the 'wrong thing'. eg a 4 pack of toilet rolls instead of 2...and I fail to see that as a problem, they're going to be used aren't they.

Sorry for the rant, just had to vent a bit :-) and it's better to do it here than take it out on the doors..SLAM! lol.