General Chat

Take good care of yourself Liz Christmas is just another 24 hour day when your health isn't tip top (I know), before we can all turn round folk will be planning Easter etc.

Different matter if you have young children I know but when it's only adults and health not good look after yourself.

Merry Christmas to one and all. :-D <3

Frances xx

<3 <3 Stressful for you too Liz

Take good care of yourself......... everyone else needs you! Who will take care of you?


<3 <3

Poor OH such a lot of stress all at once and the irregular hours can't help his diabetes. and poor you because you are first in the line of fire. can only say, get as much rest yourself as you can and hope things improve for you. sorry to hear about your cancelled holiday too.

<3 <3 to you and yours Liz

oh, Liz


I am sorry to hear about all the stress OH is under.

Do please take care ............ and take great care of yourself xxx

I have several messages asking where I am, well, I am still around but very stressed out!

About a month ago, I was quite poorly with a dreadful cough that kept me awake but as I got better o.h. developed the same cough. He had been working several weeks of 12 hr shifts due to the new worker who covered holidays and sick leave etc not turning up! It means 12 hr days which creases him, and means I have had to cook regular meals suited to his diabetic needs every day instead of having a few evenings a fortnight to myself, to meet with my son, or cook my preferred meals when I got back from going out, if he left me the car and bussed to work. It also meant him using the car daily as there is no bus early enough to get him in for 6am, so I was stuck for getting out and about much.

Just as the regular shifts of 6am to 2pm or 2pm to 10pm started again, one colleague's mother was rushed into hospital and has since died bless her, so that upset things again. O.h. had some holiday to use up so we booked this week at Sheringham in a house we have used before, we should have gone on Sat 5th and were looking forward to the break.

Then on Saturday Nov.28th while o.h. was at work (he works 12 hr shifts every Sat to catch up on maintenance work) we got a message to say his 84 yr old father had been rushed to hospital. He has had a major stroke losing all feeling down his left side. He had been driving his car the day before! Luckily he is still fairly with-it and can still speak but can't have solid food. He will,of course, be in hospital for a long time and probably won't get to live at his house again, it only has an outside loo downstairs and his wife is very frail, suffering from severe osteoarthritis and very fragile bones, she has shrunk to only 4'8" and mustn't lift anything, she can't hoover etc or do much at all. Our holiday had to be cancelled and o.h. is visiting as often as he can, all last week he got permission to visit in the mornings before going on to work. He and his two sisters are not doing very well at planning visiting so it's all or nothing, and they don't like stepmum altho she has been that for 40 years so it's a difficult state of affairs all round.

Obviously I am bearing the brunt of o.h's emotions, frustrations and tiredness so I can't think about Christmas much, hard to get in the mood! Next thing, I think o.h.will be ill, the pressure will be too much for him I think, and with him having had a bleed on the brain in 2008 I am concerned for him. His son came up from Essex on Friday to visit his Grandfather but the son in N. Y. hasn't even made contact.

Oh ain't life great, never rains but it pours!

Happy Christmas all

Lizx