General Chat

if she goes back to court, she might want to tell the court how her ex was so busy with the pub that he could not see his sons for two months

and the court might wonder how he could be getting paid so little for doing so much!

I really think the court might look beyond the 'sweetheart deal' he may have with his new partner, where he works full time but only gets a part-time wage

there is also the fact that his partner the landlady obviously provides him with free lodgings :-)

so his expenses are not what an ordinary working person would have

his girlfriend is really acting as his 'bank', holding his money for him and paying his living expenses for him, that is, he is being paid 'in kind' rather than 'in cash'

a solicitor can advise her best

but agreeing not to get paid for work and saying you 'can't afford' child support, and instead having all your living expenses paid by the person you are working for, is not necessarily going to impress a court

He put his OH down as the landlord and the pub in her name so he doe not have to pay so much for his sons. He told my daughter to get a full time job to pay for the boys. she works 16 hours a week Every week one of the boy had a hospital appointment which she does He has never been to any. He told her that he know what he has done so what. She told him she will take him back to court , He reply do it and that she has not got the money to do it We will pay for her to go back to court.

Same as our daughter many years ago

He remarried to a very manipulative wife who also had been married before . Long story but she was very savvy on getting money. He had had an affiair with her which caused the divorce

Every time the CSA went after him. He gave up working ,so did she , she worked under the table so kept em going for a couple of months .

He had zero assessments for many years as she had her children living with them,none of whom were his but he surported them but not his own two children

When daughter was having behaviour problems with their son and needed his dad to talk to him , she would come in tow too with the attitude to our daughter of you are inferior and can't cope . She had done psychiatric nursing and thought she was mother superior

Daughter would tell the. CSA he is working and where but he hid behind his wife's apron strings for many years

They did get him in the end and back dated his assessment so he was in arrears which took him past the youngest 18th birthday to pay off

He and the second wife did eventually divorce .

Yes it i their money but to take it from his sons. He told her he know what he ha done is unfair but he will do what he wont. He does not care if his children go without as long as he is ok

Yes it i their money but to take it from his sons. He told her he know what he ha done is unfair but he will do what he wont. He does not care if his children go without as long as he is ok

Unfortunately as unfair as it seems, what he and his new partner spend their money on is not relevant in legal terms, if she is down as the main wage earner then it's 'her money'.

If he decides to break the visitation agreement without good reason then I imagine the court will change it, but it depends I suppose on how much your grandsons do want to see him and whether some contact is better from their point of view than none ( not knowing their ages).

It's always tempting to get rid permanently and as you say never see him again, but at some point in the future remember he might turn round and put all the blame for that on their mum. Let that be his decision.

last year my daughter had to go to family court over her ex walking back into his son lives. To cut a long story short the court told him what days he would see the boys and what he was to do about school and hospital appointments.

Well here we go again with him and CSA He and his girlfriend have decide to live together . He did not tell my daughter this and he did not tell her he was moving.

As they are now running a pub together he has put his girlfriend down as the main wage earner. He has gone from paying £400 a month to £80 a month for hi sons He and his girlfriend are going to the USA and are going to Disney for 3 weeks. He did not ask about his son if they wont to go (grandson 1 would have said no,) They are having a party because they have set the date Next year they are having a great big wedding. The CSA have said that it i not right but there is nothing to be done about him paying for hi sons.

My daughter has said to him that he is not doing right by his sons Hi reply is he need a holiday and he will have the wedding that they wont. He also inform her that he has a lot to do at his new pub so will not be seeing his sons for the next 2 months. Last night we got a phone call from him. He would like me to stop ringing him and he said i had been ringing him that night Well i could not believe it as we had been out to dinner with some friends, and when he rung they were sat in my kitchen having a glass of wine with us. I am going to see if EE will change my phone number.

I now think if you are a men and walk away from your children this government will let you get away with it. My daughter has said she will go back to court because last year he was told if he did not do what he agreed to do he would be in breach of the court order so here we go again.

At Christmas he did say to my daughter if she told CSA that they had reach a understanding he would get out of the boys lives for good He would never see them or pay for them. sometimes i just wish he would leave them to it or step up to the mark