General Chat

Cyn .............

guess there was a minor aberration involved :-D

Without facebook I would not have half the contact I do have with the younger members of my family, Son is not on there but daughter is, and Grandchildren, sister, Great nieces etc. I also have friends who are ex GR who I would not speak to otherwise. There are posts I don't like but those are easily ignored, we can't all have the same views on any subject. It is also useful for the local groups, there is one on our village and the next one devoted to keeping them safer. So warnings about burglaries, wandering white van men etc. then there is the nostalgia group from my home town, and one full of photographs past and present of the same town. There is so much good on there. But I am aware that there can be a lot that is not good. sorry your son has been affected Ann.

:-D :-D :-D

Thanks Rosie........you will get a message from me later. Funnily enough, I have one vicar and one Archdeacon on my friends list :-D

I love Facebook but can understand why people get upset when it is used wrongly.

Now that my social life is extremely limited because of my husband's health, I find it keeps me in touch with what's going on here and there, as well as being part of a couple of odd, crazy, weirdo genealogical groups.. :-D

Cynthia, I can see the pics you have used for your cover and profile pics, and that we have 5 mutual friends...guess who lol. There's no reason why you're not also my 'friend' on there and you're welcome to be anytime :-) blink and you'd miss what I post on my own timeline, it's usually photos of flowers or cats with some photos of ancestors and the odd 'political' post or petition ;-)

Generally I don't look at other people's timelines, except family, unless something they've posted comes up on my newsfeed. I potter around between GRA etc and Ancestry and FMP.

Of my friends, 3 are cousins, 3 closer family, 1 vicar and most from here lol.

Annin Glos, I am careful not to comment on family's timeline if they are going away, just in case, as i don't know what their security settings are.

AnnC there are a lot of odd people out there who enjoy making truly awful comments.

Sometimes it's a fine line what I post on my timeline, there are friends there with quite opposite views, eg one cousin is a liberal like myself and one, related to us both ...is not :-) That has led to more than one heated debate between them both( and with one myself on Irish/English family history) on the back of a very innocuous comment :-)

I hate facebook - my son has suffered dreadfully because of facebook - thankfully after seven months anguish it's coming to an end - he never goes on it now

The ones who concern me are the ones like my sister who often post when they are away and when they are returning. she used to have her privacy set to 'friends' and friends of friends' I pointed out that that could go on ad infinitum, so she did at least change that.

Rosie, you and I are in one of the genealogy groups but we are not 'friends' . However I have just checked and I can see your time line and your photos - lovely one of the grocer's shop :-D

I see that we share 5 mutual friends and then that is all I can see. I'm not sure what you can see of mine but, to be honest, it doesn't bother me overmuch as I only post what I am happy to post. If I had a secret or somesuch, it wouldn't go public on FB.

I've just put one on my wall of my beautiful granddaughter. It was on her page and, as she has over 1,000 'friends' (shakes head in bewilderment) and is very open about things, I simply shared it to my own page.

I don't accept all friend requests either - I am careful about whom I accept and have about 60 at the moment. (Mind you, I do have that there Sylvia as a friend.......must have been a slip of the finger :-D )

My son and I manage a page about climbing the Three Peaks in aid of Parkinson's disease research. We are constantly hoping to attract more interest by sharing what we are doing (preparation walks) and what it is like to be a carer (bad nights etc) - all in the hope of raising awareness.

I think it boils down to a couple of things :

There are people who don't really understand about security levels, and there are those who are quite happy for their posts to be seen. Each to their own I guess. :-)

I think many people are completely unaware that FB is so public

I shudder when I see my friends posting photos of their children, no matter their age, and giving out all kinds of personal information.

My daughters ex has (obviously) deleted my daughter and me, but the plonker is still 'friends' with my sister and nephew!!!
Does he think we don't talk???

I've suggested they delete him, but my sister knows he's a nasty piece of work, and can see when he's disrespectful about my daughter.

What it does mean though, is my sister & nephew NEVER 'like' or comment on anything concerning my daughter - unless it's good news and will pee him off!! :-D :-D

I am reading a murder story, centred around Twitter, which I don't use ( LOL can you imagine me usingg anything that requires using so few words ;-) ), and pondering generally on internet security and privacy, so was somewhat concerned to read a few things that popped up on my news feed today on FB.

For instance, I have my privacy setting such that only 'friends' can see what I post ( at least I assume that's so!) as opposed to open to everyone or 'friends of friends'. But what I am seeing is where a friend of mine has commented on a ( presumably) friend of hers post, which contains quite personal info which I assume (?) the original poster does not realise is ending up being viewed by a stranger, ie me?

I know you can then opt to not see posts from that original poster, which I have done, but it rather begs the question as to how much info is out there without people realising and how it could be used to cause trouble.