General Chat

Under duress, we had OH's mother round for tea a while ago. She asked for another plate and said she didn't want to waste them so she put her carrots and parsnip on it.

Every month we have a friend out of her nursing home to have tea with us and go to the club quiz. She is eighty and has brought up five children. She won't eat carrots, parsnips, peaches, cabbage, blackberries.

These are the very women who made us eat what we were given, including carrots, turnips, cabbage, parsnip!

Ah, but money was a lot tighter in those day, at least for most of that generation. They'd grown up during rationing and had to eat what was available or starve. Now they’ve the confidence to throw off the shackles and are live disgracefully. :-D

I had to eat everything that was on my plate - but rarely did.
On a few occasions, I was given what I'd left for my next meal.
I still didn't eat it - so they gave up. But I would eat a few sprouts.
When my elder brother was home, he would eat my food for me :-D

My younger daughter didn't like anything with tomatoes from a very early age - and still doesn't! Neither does she like sauces, like tomato sauce, mayonnaise etc.
Or sprouts.
She had to eat one sprout at Christmas :-D

Elder daughter loves sprouts - her children don't.
They have to eat one sprout at Christmas too :-D

Elder daughter is a bit evil.
One boxing day, she told her children it was home made pizza for lunch - and she served up a sprout pizza!! . :-D :-D :-D :-D
It was lovely, crispy cheese covered sprouts - yummy!!

(she'd made a 'nice' one just for them, too)

They made our generation eat whatever they had cobbled up and cremated, under all sorts of threats, we bided our time and now we can see them for what they are.

We know why they are devoid of curly hair and strong teeth now don't we?

Of course, we could never be as hard as they were. We let them have pudding and everything, even if they hadn't eaten their firsts!

One of ours refused to eat their crusts - they didn't want curly hair like their sibling :-D

Although soft or hard tooth enamel is partly genetic, a good diet in the teeth's formative years does have a part to play. MiL is upset that one of her remaining teeth has broken. After 91 years minus when ever her adult teeth came through, its just plain worn out!

It must have been hard for them to do what they thought was best for their children. Eat what is in season, or not at all.

Look, I was kind enough not to make them sit at the table until they had eaten all their nice dinner that people in some distant land the location of which I neither knew nor cared about were more than welcome to. I don't want to hear their side of it.

I spent many years waiting for the time I could make one of them have to eat their greens and now I have relented and let them get away with it!

yeah, but these old bids aren't your children Sharron. It just doesn't and shouldn't work the other way round.

They should have thought of that at the time!

To be honest, I really don't care about the condition of OH's mothers hair, teeth or other parts but I would love to make our mate sit at the table until she had finished.

She called me every old cow and lady dog she could think of because I wouldn't letter have a fourth double whiskey last month. (Her daughter tells us most months that she is only to have one single and I am not to buy her any more so I don't but I am not in charge of her. If she gets others to go to the bar for her it is up to her.).

The joy making her eat her carrots would give me is beyond belief!

Is it a desperate inbuilt hate of carrots - like my youngest, and anything to do with tomatoes, or not liking the way they're done?

I prefer carrot sticks to sliced carrots.

No, it just that awkward old witch coming it.

:-D :-D :-D :-D

I feel the empathy (not!) :-D :-D :-D

So really, its not pay-back to all parents of that generation, just those that have 'wronged' you?

Your MiL, we can understand; what's the 80 year old done to you? If you feel that way, why invite her to tea? :-S

Awkward old witches together!

We (me and 4 brothers) had to eat everything on our plates, or we were given it at the next meal.

:-(

I didn't realise until I was about 20 that anything dad didn't like wasn't put on his plate!



I still hate liver :-(

I was an only child brought up during the war,and believe me ,had to eat whatever I was given.think that's why I loathe waste and when my grand,and great grandchildren won't eat their crusts,or leave good food on their plates does make you realise how they have things so much more relaxed today.

I do think that at her age she is given a concession.as when she was a child she had to eat everything up even though she didn't like.
As I am around her age ,I find that some things don't taste as good as they did either and you can be over faced with the food on your plate,so only want to eat the food you fancy.

At least she put the food on her extra plate before she started her meal so they could be used again! :-)

Oh yes, the second plate scenario. That was attention seeking because I know that woman eats like a hippopotamus and, indeed, did so the next night at his sister's house!

All I was pointing out really was that the very same people who made us eat what we were given are now turning the tables and refusing the boring bits. Neither of them have ever refused a sweet.

Avoid reckless irreverence towards our elders.

'Eat all your cabbage' was a regular instruction at our youthful dinner table. I did!

I think you need to get some positives going on in your life Sharron, you're coming across as an awkward old witch yourself.

I was a very fussy eater in my extreme youth but nobody made a big fuss about it. If I didn't eat it, I went hungry! Luckily I liked most of Mum's home cooking. I am not fussy now, I draw the line at a few things, but will have a go at most.

Mum has got 'fussier' in her old age, but hey! She's put up with a lot in her 92 years so she can have what she likes :-)

Working on it Island, working on it. (Not the positives you understand.)