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Being a bit depressed maybe but I sometimes think I am just ticking over !!

I am ok but seem to be in limbo

I was born 1937 Into a lovely family with parents who absolutely loved each another and I had 7 siblings
We lost dad In 1975 and mum was devastated
She joined him in 1980

Have lost siblings too

So losing hubby in 2015 really has lost me
His sister is still alive and we talk often. She lost her hubby in 2014!

My feeling of not knowing me is overwhelming at times

I often feel I am just ticking over to be with him BUT I am shit scared of not being here anymore either

<3 <3 <3 <3 for you Shirley

Aw, Shirley.
You’ve coming such a long way since Michael, the love of your life, died. If you’d have looked into the future from then, you’d have never believed you’d achieve so much.
No one, including yourself, would expect or want you to dismiss those numerous happy years you had together.

In the meantime, you’ve joined a social group, made a friend to visit the cinema with, and supported your family with ‘child caring’ activities. That’s not including the cafe conversations you’ve had with other people in a similar situation!

Sometimes we are too influenced by what we see on TV. They seem to imply everyone should be constantly happy & fulfilled with their lives. That’s not real life. We all have hiatus were we think ‘there’s more to life than this’, then something happens & we’re off again.

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Shirley, you're doing better than you know <3 <3 <3

<3 to Shirley

"Well, I came upon a child of God
He was walking along the road
And I asked him, Tell me, where are you going
This he told me
Said, I'm going down to Yasgur's Farm
Gonna join in a rock and roll band
Got to get back to the land and set my soul free
We are stardust, we are golden
We are billion year old carbon
And we got to get ourselves back to the garden
Well, then can I roam beside you?
I have come to lose the smog,
And I feel myself a cog in somethin' turning
And maybe it's the time of year
Yes and maybe it's the time of man
And I don't know who I am
But life is for learning
We are stardust, we are golden
We are billion year old carbon
And we got to get ourselves back to the garden
"

Crosby Stills and Nash

Shirley <3 <3

All very true

Thank you all

xxx

Shirley,I think’ we all get our lonely periods.
It will be 7 years on 21st Aug since I lost my husband,and though everyone thinks I am quite happy go lucky,The loneliness at times when you live alone is indescribable,
especially when retired ad you don’t have the social side you get when going out to work
.I do try to get out as you do and have little meet ups with friends,and I am playing the piano a.bit more these days.
I have to have my gall bladder removed soon and have had periods of pain ,and my family all live away in Oz and Guernsey .apart from my daughter who lives 90miles away
So I do understand you and can identify that there are periods when the loneliness gets to you.
Thinking of you and you never know what’s round the corner! Xx <3

Shirley it's feeling the loss of your future that makes you feel like you are ticking over and don't know yourself. I think a lot of people feel the same too when they split from a partner, even when they know it is for the best. I know I did when I split from my first husband after 21 years. I felt like I was treading water for several years. I felt stuck in a rut as I really wasn't sure what I wanted or which path to take. I think these things just take time till you find your own way and some days you can feel very alone with these low feelings. Just keep doing things and meeting people . Often one friend will lead to another, or to something interesting to do. <3

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