General Chat

So happy you are feeling better Carole.

Liz, THIS IS MY SUPPORT NETWORK. did not mean to shout, We used to have mental health call to my area once a week, that has now be cut out. We have lost so many services over the last 2 years it is difficult to get any help mental or health wise. Yet the area is growing.

Feeling much better today and more under control. If you were woken through the night with and earth quake, it was only me blasting the solicitor again. Had so much fun, and I did not lose my cool either, so proud of that.

Gail

Hi Lily, and all, there is a thread called 'Dutch and Caz 'or vice versa lol that I put up a while back and that's usually updated by whoever has been in contact with one or the other.

My doctor was running late as usual, having been out on an emergency call, but I don't mind. The only thing was all the magazines had been removed from the surgery also the childrens toy box, apparently a directive from somewhere so that swine flu germs aren't passed on through the items mentioned. There was a chap came in while I was waiting who is involved through his job with arranging the distribution of swine flu jabs etc and it was interesting talking to him. He got it months ago when they weren't sure what strain of flu he had to start with so knows all about it.

Doctor wants me to have more blood tests, as it's six months since the last ones, which I can hardly believe. She is asking for various tests to be done on the blood, I think the hospital will have more blood than I carry, the amount of tests I have had over the years. I will get them done at the same hospital where I have my apptmt on Thursday at the oral health clinic, altho feel a bit of a fraud as the lump has virtually disappeared now from inside my mouth.

I was reading the paper this evening and saw that a support worker who had a long history of mental health problems, took his own life recently. He was only 52 but suffered with anxiety and ocd. He lived only a few miles from here, apparently he wrote some notes for his family, placed his personal belongings neatly into boxes on the kitchen floor and did the deed. How sad that there was not enough help for him to prevent this happening. In the same paper was a report about a local MInd Mental Health centre closing down soon, it was where various mental health sufferers could access different therapy groups etc and they supported one another. Now it is to be closed with most people only being offered care in mainstream services or on an individual basis. It is often the case that people with m.h. issues can't easily relate to ordinary folk and are more comfortable with other sufferers who support each other, and now that lifeline is being taken away from them. Another case of if it ain't broke, why fix it? When will these idiotic people in control of services realise that the changes they propose aren't always for the best.


O.h.'s nephew's Dad's funeral at midday on Weds so I will have to be up early, o.h. doesn't want to go to the 'wake' afterwards, he won't say why but I think that would give him the opportunity to speak to his nephew and offer support at future times if needed, and I would like to offer my support to my friend and her husband who have lost their b.i.l. and brother, they already lost their son, a friend of my lad's when he died alone after an epileptic fit in the night, when staying at his Nan's. Trouble is with only one car on the road now, it will be awkward as a sister is catering for everyone and I am not sure how far away she is, and o.h. has to get to work later on. He wants me to go to the wake after I have taken him home to prepare for work, but that would be about an hour and it seems rude to me, to turn up that late.
Oh well, suppose it will work out somehow...

Lizx

Hi Carole glad to see you have perked up to-night, glad to see your dad has too. They may do keyhole surgery for them maybe?.
Liz i hope that your visit to the Dr. went well. Talk soon.
David i did my will about 3 years ago when my 40 year old sister was killed in an accident, dragged my o.h. even though he did not want to go. All signed, sealed and locked up in a fire and floodproof box in Solicitors office.Grave expences and graveyard also fixed just songs and headstone and lettering to be arranged now, then i can relax. lol.
Eileen, Claire and anyone that needs hugs or positive thoughts sending them to you all.
Does anyone know how Dutch and YCaz are? has anyone heard from them and Rachel.Talk soon,
Lily.

Pleased to hear that you are feeling better tonight Carole and that your Dad was more alert too. Will they do anything about his gallstones, I believe that is quite painful so that must be what he was complaining about. I do hope they manage to get him sorted out soon.

Take car
Love
Ann

I feel better tonight after visiting Dad. He was more alert and trying to talk a lot. Trying to ask questions, which I tried to work out what he was saying. Night mare! Mum is visiting tomorrow a neighbour is taking her. She went with my sister today and they were told Dad has gall stones, by a Dr. ( So forget the urinary tract infection and the colon infection!) Hope they can make up their minds soon. Dad asked for a news paper tonight for the first time.

I'll see how I feel at the end of the week when I have days off work and time to go to the Drs if I need to. But I feel more relaxed tonight.

Thanks to you all for your lovely messages. It really is nice to feel the support from you all.

Mummo I'm so plesed your mum and oh are getting better. And glad you feel I helped you when you needed it.

Gail I know you understand how I feel. It's still fresh your own dad loosing his life. And your feelings of worry over him, and your brothers lack of communication with you ect.xx

I can't mention you all but please know I feel so lucky to have you all there to listen and answer with advice that is given with understanding. xxxx

Seen too much unpleasantness following deaths in the past not to leave a will.

My will is in my solicitors vaults.


My brother Ralph is half way through his chemotherapy. He is tired, nauseous and depressed.

Hi folks, been off for a couple of days.... and I missed you all.

Thanks to those of you who are not 'cruel' and 'dising' my jokes.

been quite ill really, but don't ask me what was wrong... I could not say.
Much better today, abut now I have to play 'catch up'.
E-mails, washing, hoovering and dusting,which I did this morning.. and tomorrow the washing.
The e-mails take longer as they continue to come as I am answering them!!
Ah well, I am not complaining, I LOVE my e-mails.

I have skimmed through the messages, but too many to read thoroughly.
I hope you are all well, and those of you with troubles, I hope you get well soon.
Carole, sorry about your dad love.... thinking of him, bless him.
Mummo, your mum okay?
Well, I better go before I have an accident..... no, not falling off the chair!! ;-0(
See you all tomorrow.
Lovbe to all,
Deanna XXX

Seems like many of us struggling at the mo, I do hope we can all find light at the end of the tunnel in whatever way suits us best.
I am feeling panicky, have a busy week and just so fed up, bored, tired, stressed etc etc O.h. doesn't help, he had to have a couple of pints of Guiness while he waited for me yesterday, such a small village he couldn't help but go near the pub as he walked round. I know I sort of dumped him while I went off on my quest for the Landgirls etc but it was only 50 minutes. He did hold back from having a further half of g. when I reminded him he was driving, I wasn't feeling up to it, but would have had to if I thought he was not ok to drive but I couldn't relax on the way back and I suppose with two pints and not a lot of food inside him during the day, he was probably over the limit and I should have driven myself. Later on he slumped in the chair asleep but woke up to eat his dinner, then was acting stupid till he went to bed. Stresses me out for the rest of the evening then!

Carole, I do hope your Dad is better soon and they don't have to operate. He doesn't need that to cope with, bless him.

Off to Docs in a while so better get off here and get ready

love to all
Lizxxx

Oh and David, well done for sorting out your will, everyone should do it, saves so much worry for your family in future. Do leave a clear indication where it is tho, o.h.'s young nephew is still searching through his Dad's stuff for a will if he made one, and the funeral is Wednesday so if there were special instructions, it will be too late by the time anything is found.

Carole, i second gail, Sharron has given you excellent advice., please look after yourself, the hospital and staff will look after your dad.

Mummo, so pleased that your Mum is getting better, a determined lady by the sound of it, so well done your Mum.

Gail, I hope you managed to get your anger under control, if not your brother!!! And that you get a good nights sleep.

Ann
Glos xxx

Mummo so glad thing are getting better for you. Do not forget to also look after yourself as well.

Carole, as usual Sharron's advice is spot on.

Gail

Carole, l really do know how you feel, do you remember a few weeks ago when my mum was in hospital and OH had his heart attack you really were a big help to me when l was going all through these things you mentioned, l really hope things get sorted with your dad and am thinking of you and sending you a gentle {{{{{hug}}}}}
Good morning all, just updating you...........OH is really doing well and he is on day 3 without a cigarette, he is really determined to stop smoking and l'm so proud of him.
Went to see my mum yesterday, bless her heart she doesn't usually get up till late but when we got to my brothers at 9.45am she was already up and had had some toast but was still in her nightie and dressing gown but l told her so what and she said she does get dressed everyday and does her hair as she so glad to be home, she was walking a lot better and was managing without the zimmer frame but just taking it slowly, she told me she had peeled the potatoes and prepared the veg as she likes to do a little each day (well done mum) she did say her toe nails were giving her jip so had a look at them they did need cuttting and she said she couldn't bend to cut them so l told her that wasn't a problem and l would do them, gosh what tough nails in the end bowl of water with fabric softner in,lol, and then easy to cut. All in all had a good day with her except sitting on the M4 for ages on the way home but was worth it.
Hope you all have a good week and will speak to you all soon, xx
PS. l do go on don't l. lol.

Carole,they know he is on Warfarin but it won't do them any harm to remind them.

You have to remember that this is everyday stuff for the hospital,it is what they are trained to do.You haven't had to deal with it before so it is strange and frightening and you can't know all the options available to them.

As for spending more time with your mother,just don't.You have had the punishment,you can commit the crime with impunity

You just get on with looking after yourself.Dad's treatment really isn't your problem,they know what they are doing.Caroles health is..

Dear Carole, please see your doctor. I think this would be a good move for starters. I do know how you feel, you of all people know that. If you need to go back on the pills for a while, then you need to go back on them. No shame. I have to take them every day or I would not get through. I hope your dad is improving. MIL also takes Wharfrin, cannot even have a tooth pulled till she is off them for a week, has to take other stuff and for a week after has injections every day, so doctor has to be asked these questions.

I have been so angry today I have had the shakes, and yes it is to do with Brother again. I have to calm myself down or wont sleep tonight.

Love and hugs

Gail

Just popped in to see how Caroles dad is doing, sending positive thoughts for him .
Thinking of you Mary, it is always a bad time for me as well.
pm'd you Carole.

Caz xx

Carole - I'm sending you gentle thoughts and hugs, is the Dr even aware you went off your pills? you don't have to suffer through massive panic attacks, you deserve some help at the moment. Please look after you, we care. The Dr should already be aware of what meds your Dad is on, and be adjustiung them accordingly, but there's no harm in stressing it to those in charge. FYI where I work, if there is any change in medication or it's dosage, or new med is added or stopped, next-of-kin MUST be notified if the patient is unable to decide for themself.. You are your Dad's advocate, they must inform you, in order to make informed decisions.
Good luck, please be good to yourself.
Hugs
Mary

Hi Carole, i have just seen your post, i hope that you are feeling a little more relaxed now. I can understand a little of how you are feeling maybe it would do no harm if you could get the G.P. to give you some anti-depressants for awhile even until they do the tests on your dad, like Liz says tell them about the Warfarin as i think that he would need to be off it for a few days at least before they can do anything, i hope that he gets better soon and can have something to eat soon again. Take care and i will be thinking of you both.
Everyone else i send you all positive thoughts and maybe back on later.
Lily.

I am so stressed. I have been awake since 4:45 this morning. I feel sick and the panic is also sending me mad. You know the feeling when your head is going to explode with fear. Been up to the loo about five times this morning. I was just beginning to feel I was getting that under control. I wonder if I should go see my Dr get back on the anti depressants to help me through this. The thought of having to spend more time with Mum is a huge black cloud over me. Thanks for listening xx

Hi Carole, maybe it is time you phoned the hospital and asked to speak to the surgeon, and to remind the Ward Sister your Dad is on Warfarin. It must be such a worry for you all and especially for your poor Dad if he can't put into words when is wrong.

Will be thinking about him, and you.

Lizxx


love and hugs to everyone who needs a hug, I have such a busy week and still lots of pms and emails to catch up with.

My sister went to see Dad today and asked why he was nil by mouth? She was told the Dr wanted the surgeon to see him, as they think he has a colon infection. Now Dad is on warfrin, so surly they would have to stop that if he needs any internal inspection? Poor Dad. All sorts going through my head, hard to sleep at the moment. What if he needs a colonoscopy? He could die, bleed to death. Looking forward to all this being over.

Sending lots of thoughts to your Dad Carole, hope they can find the cause of his pain.
Thinking of you today Mary. xx

Ann x