General Chat

Hi everyone. I have to talk about me. I have had the worse night for ages. Waking up feeling sick with worry about leaving home and traveling to work, (four days this week). Three longer journeys. I felt like my pulse was racing in every part of me, and fear panic attacs are starting to come back, after a few years without them. My limbs just ache with tension. I could cry.
I really don't want to go to work but have too! I'm so tired this morning. My mind is spinning with worry about the usual problem. CBT why aren't you working?!

Love to you all hope you are feeling better than me :o))

Over the years we modify our feelings. Lust becomes love, love becomes respect with love etc.

We have fanciful notions occaisionally but don't entertain them; they might lead to depression / anxiety

Ann he surely is a gem. We leave on Friday morning, hopefully. The biggest job getting ready to go, is the animals. Kennel for pooch is organised and people to collect the mail and feed the chickens and the cats has now been organised. I am exhausted already, and still have not packed.

Poor cats will be sleeping in the shed while we are away, plenty of beds and bedding organised. They usually sleep in the shed in summer, they will miss the fire for a week poor things. They will all rush to the back door as soon as the car comes back through the driveway. Nice to know you will be missed.

Gail

David, you and your OH are lucky to have each other, glad you were able to stay together, now you must cherish each other.

gail, I thought you were going on holiday? When is that? Your OH is obviously a gem to be cherished too.

Ann
Glos

David you are so lucky to have stayed together in such adversity, or should I say you have both worked very hard to stay together.

When I went to rehabilitation and pain management, there were ten of us in my group, there were only two of us that still had our OH with us and stuck by us. I am sure my OH could have walked out many times, I was a prize bitch and tried to push him away. I am so glad he stuck with me. Life has improved for both of us.

Gail

Myself and OH are much closer these days than we were say 15-20 years ago.
We have both nursed each other through sickness more than once and we both have lost our parents and some relatives.
We survived a financial crisis of night mare proportions without apparent friends.
All these things survived help draw you closer.

Trying to catch up on some H/W, plenty of dust around, joys of a wood fire.

Carole thanks for the comment on F/B, we have an acre of land, mostly dedicated to plants.

Hope you are all well.

Gail

Hi, evening to all...
I still look in on here ,It does me good,as when I come away from the computer..I tend not to feel so sorry for my self.
Yorkshire Caz..I think of you often,
Love and thoughts to you all
From Christine xxxxxxxx

Thought I had better post something to stop poor Deanna thinking she is talking to herself!!!
glad you were feeling a bit better Deanna, but poor Alan leaving him to sing on his own, you could have had a duet.
YCaz, you ought to eat at least something to keep your strength up. Easier said than done if you have no appetite but i suspect it is a vicious circle.

Eileen, so pleased that you enjoyed the company of the little one, they can be very funny can't they? Sometimes I think it is easier to form relationships with grandchildren when the parents are not around.

clare, enjoy your 2 days in Ireland, it will be a nice break for you.

Ann
Glos

Oh Eileen, what kind of doctor is that you have??
There are so many stories about inefficient doctors, it worries me a lot.
I never went to the doctors with my children's head lice though. I cleaned them up myself and then went up to the school to tell them, the ALWAYS knew where they had come from.
Poor children. They were seen to in the end though bless them, they are not supposed to look after themselves are they?

Have a lovely couple of days Clare.
Will be thinking of you.... something on the lines of...... WHY CAN'T I GO TO DUBLIN?
ha ha ha .... kidding love, Tony and Allan are always planning trips for me, but I WONT GO!
Still. I have Lisa's wedding to look forward to.
Well.... to worry about really.
What shall I wear?
Can I sit close to the toilets?
Will I spill soup down my dress? ;-0)
I am planning to buy a bib for the bridegroom and me, we are both a bit dangerous with soup. ;-0)
I never was before, but then I was never a geriatric *dribbler* before either. ha ha ha
So. What is the bridegroom's excuse?

Well here I am again, talking to myself... WHERE ARE YOU ALL?
Bye everyone, have a good weekend.
and to those who feel that I am ignoring them, please don't think that, it is just too much trouble to type all your names... sorry.
Deanna XXX

My warmest thanks/greetings to those who are so kind as to mention me and send their good wishes etc.i.e Claire,Ann in Glos,Liz, Carole, Gail,Caz,Joyce, Colin.By the way Colin, we are off to Dublin in another month's time.....am looking forward to this.

Headlice: Have had this condition twice since having g.children, both times it was waved away by a gp.The first time, my scalp was covered in scabs, neck and shoulder too...he didn't see it, nor did the dermatoligist I was refered to.Then a daughter had a really good look, could see the little b*****s actually crawling all over.Next time I just bought the stuff to get rid of them, but, I honestly didn't feel at all embarrassed or ashamed, knowing that lice prefer clean heads!!G.children got them from school.If that was the worse thing in life, I would be laughing.Itchy though.

My youngest child Sarah, was away with her partner for a few days last week.I had their son, who is normally extremely difficult, from thursday until sunday late afternoon.Their small daughter who was born on Easter sunday last year, was at a sister of partener for the duration. To be honest, I wasn't looking forward to this, because of how I feel/felt, but, I thoroughly enjoyed our few days together, wonderful to get to know how he SHOULD be. Have since mailed this daughter insisting she sends my heart back, which he stole whilst here....he is absolutely GORGEOUS, I didn'ty have even one moment when I thought "please mum and dad come back soon.He had me in stitches a lot, mostly with his clear judgement of things. I discovered that he is what is called 'very gifted' at a very young age, something that most parents don't want to experience for their children, as it can be a nightmare.Anyway, he and I were chatting (he talked almost non-stop when he wasn't alseep-soooo funny!) about this and that, when he said, "oma"(gran), I have been having some problems with my eyes lately", in Dutch of course.
Another time, I was telling him some rather funny tales about his mum and siblings, who tripped or fell hard, thus having scars from (bad) cuts etc. He took a long look at me, really going over my whole face, then said I must have fallen a lot on my face, because I had a lot of lines/scars...this still makes me giggle.Kids are sooo honest/unintentially brutal.
The thinning hair DOES bother me a lot, though, the wrinkles not at all.It is indeed probably a combination of factors, i.e stress and meds.Hopefully, the throid meds will be sorted soon, it is not easy even for the specialists to find the right balance....let alone the patient.

Anyway, thank you all for 'listening' to my whinging.

Hope you all have a good weekend.

Love. Eileen xx

Good Morning all
A quick hello from me, have sneaked on here while little man is watching tv. Not too bad here at the moment, still not sleeping very well but I have the tennis to keep me occupied in the day so I am happy.
I am off to Dublin ON MY OWN on thurs for 2 nights, really looking forward to it and hoping to meet a lovely lady off this thread whilst I am there.
Will try and pop back later. But wanted to send a big hug to Eileen, Gail and Deanna who seem to be having a rough time at the moment. Love to everyone else just havnt got time to mention everyone at the moment.
Take Care
Claire xx

Nice to see you Carole, I am off to bed now to finish my book.
Good night all and I hope to see you all tomorrow.
Carole TRY to eat something love, it is not good for you not to eat, it will help you to get better.
Gail have a good holiday...
And all the rest of you... be good and stay happy.... And as I said ,see you tomorrow.
love Deanna XXX

I'm here Deanna, hello. Just waiting for hubby to come home and make something to eat, don't know why he bothers with me because I never eat it, hardly eat anything these days. no appetite whatsoever. I can't cope with this heat it's awful, making me drip all the time.
Hope you have a good holiday Gail.

Love and hugs to all.

Caz xx

Well , here I am again, all alone.
Where are you all?
Lisa came down with the baby, Lewis, and brought us some of his birthday cake.
And a birthday present for Karen whose birthday is 15Th July while Lisa, Jon and the baby will be in Spain on holiday.
Allan's sister and her husband were here at the same time so she did not stay long. We will chat on the phone later, as we do EVERY NIGHT anyway.
Lovely seeing them. Sil brought me a book she has just finished, looks good, but I am not reading much these days.... can't keep my head in a story. Another part of depression which I truly hate.

Have a wonderful time away Gail.
And as for the rest of you..... PLEASE..... where are you? ;-0(

Deanna XXX

Thanks Ann, I got over it and felt a bit better rthis morning .... THEN had a *to do* with my husband....
News to date... I HATE HIM, AND WILL LEAVE HIM THE MINUTE I FIND THE ENERGY!!! Not to mention the help, the transport, the money.... ha ha ha .
I came in here to cool down, and he is sitting in the living room SINGING!
He always has a wee song if he is feeling miserable.... but who cares???

Right, that is me sorted for the time being... had a moan and will be back to normal in a short while.
His sister and her husband are coming over this afternoon so I will be back to normal then... ;-0)
I just 'adore' these couples who say "we have been married for X amount of years... and have NEVER had an argument!"
YEAH RIGHT!
Our marriage was based on arguments! ha ha ha

How are you all today?
Gail There is nothing dirty about you if you catch head lice.
They will leave a dirty head to go to a CLEAN HEAD.
So stop worrying about it.
When my children were at school, lice did their rounds as they always do and my youngest daughter NEVER caught any.
She did not catch 'Whooping cough' (a dreadful disease) when the other two caught it either. She and her younger sister had had the 'jab, but the baby had not had his yet. Quite a shock to find that one of my girls who had been vaccinated caught 'Whooping cough'... and badly too.
Just the luck of the draw isn't it?

Just had a phone call from Lisa, she is coming down later for a 10 minute visit... and she says it is POURING!!
I can't see a thing from in here. I have a couple of frosted glass windows, so all I get is the light.
Miss everything I do.
Our living room is to the back and so I miss everything which goes on in the street, although the street is very quiet and well behaved, but I like not knowing ANYTHING!
Allan is nosier than I am. Perhaps men are?

Well, gonna go now.
I do have e-mails to answer from some of you.
Please don't think I don't care about you, I will answer you all soon.
Lots of love
Deanna XXX

PS. Gail darling I only just saw the end bit of your message. You poor child.
God love you.
Deanna XXXX

Gail, I hope you have a lovely holiday, I too hate packing/thinking about what to pack and unpacking/sorting/washing etc. back from the Lake District last Sunday and more or less caught up with myself now.

Deanna. YCaz. Eileen and anyone else feeling particularly down at the moment, hope you will all soon feel healed by the sunshine. Please do pop on and tell us you are in need of a hug or else we don't know.

((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) for all of you.

It never quite leaves does it Gail? I didn't get the physical abuse,probably because I was bigger than her and gave as good as I got but the emotional was incessant. I gave back there as well,I know I never learned did I,but never could be as vile as she was.

I only remember there being headlice about twice in my school life but I have had them since.

We had other jolly things like the boy I sat next to developed T.B.Measles,mumps and squitters were all good for a bit of time off,nobody ever thought they were serious.

Mr Know it all is correct with the thyroid can cause hair loss. But so can stress, either way it is not pleasant. Remember though that baldness in men is acceptable, can be very attractive, so why do we women have to have a full head of hair.

My OH still has a full head of hair, he gets psoriasis badly, so he likes to keep it very short and in the summer shaved. It is the only way the ointment can be applied properly as well. He has a lovely shaped head though and it does really suit him, Telly Savalis eat your heart out.

You are correct also Colin, I did get them at school. Made very sure that none of my children received the same comments as I did, always told them that it was not their fault and they loved clean hair. I now also know that they can become rampant at certain times of the year and just one child not treated can spread it right through the schools. Knowing all of this does not stop me worrying about catching them again.

Child abuse! You are also correct. So was the jug or ironing cord, that left welts on my back and legs. Any wonder I would follow my dad around when he was home. Was constantly accused of being just like my father (a complement in my book). I was always safe when he was around. The torment was when he was not around to protect.

Been looking in all day hoping somebody would post, I forget at times that it is your bed time or early morning when I get on.

I am well on the road to recovery now, just working at getting mobile again.

Love and hugs to everyone

Gail

Hi, just a quick word from Mr know-it-all. I think this is worth checking, but I had heard that thinning hair in women could indeed be a sign of too little thyroid hormone. It also causes lethargy, tiredness and many other feelings. But if thyroid supplements are prescribed it is hard to get the dose right.
Nice to hear from you YCaz. It is hard when you are down, isn't it?
Gail, I never had head lice but my sisters did. In our day it was a pretty horrific experience. If you were told you were a dirty little girl because you had them, nowadays that would be called child abuse. You probably got them from one of the nice little girls in your class at school. That's where most people in our day caught them. Colin.