General Chat

Well done Douglas. Nothing like having a drivers license to give you a nice bit of freedom.
Nice new car for EASTER Eileen...
Instead of a chocolate egg??? ha ha ha

Just dropped in and will be back later.
Sun has disappeared this afternoon.
Deanna XXXX

Well done Ben, how exciting to see a name that's "yours",.

Carole, Em is better thanks, made me laugh this morning, she came down to my flat to say good morning (which usually means she wants something), when I went in the bathroom a few minutes later, here was a plastic glass on the counter, with a small label stuck on the side, reading "TIPS". Apparently we should all put a few pennies in the glass when we use the bathroom. Novel way to raise funds for an I-Pod LOL.

I'm disappointed that one of my African violet leaves which I've been attempting to propagate (named 'Black Magic') has succumbed. Small issue, but I loved my previous AV collection and was devastated when 200 were lost, I treasure the process of watching them develop life. it's a sanity break for me LOL.

It's still pretty chilly but the sun is out today so I will get everyone outside this afternoon to pick up sticks and other oddments left from the winter, then fill the van and head to the "dump" aka 'tip'. Once the weather is nice I must refrain from spending hours on here !!

have a good day all,
Mary

Afternnon all,

Hav to mention my grandson Douglas, (the one who was operated on for appendicitis a couple of months ago) has passed his driving exam today, first go.We are in tow minds about this.One part is very pleased for him, the other a bit scared, because youngsters who just have their licence are the most reckless....

Ann, am very gradually getting there. it's going to be a VERY long haul, tht is clear as mud now.
I nearly always off to help with washing and other household things, when I see that my daughter is getting overwhelmed by it all. This is the one who suffered VERY bad PND after her last child. i will do anything humanly possible to help her avoid stress, as I would for my other children. How can you possibly think you are "rubbing salt into the wound", but mentioning walking.I am certain that no-one thinks that !!!!
Liz: Sleep and me don't go hand-in-hand, I have no idea what it's like to actually sleep more than about 3-4 hours per night.
What a lovely gesture of that woman to send you all those cards! My hair is a REAL mess. It has always been naturally light blond, so is turning a silver grey colour. Trouble is, it is as straight as dye.Had a daughter chop a lot off a couple of months ago, which was a success, asked her to do it again two weeks ago, but it looks a proper mess now, more like a t.v character (children's animation), Catweazel or such a name. Far too short and has great chunks out of it. I have never been any good at doing something with my hair, because it was always waist-length yonks ago.Now I wish I had gone to the hairdresser's to have it professionally cut.
Caz.: As I said in a p.m to you, Moving is one of the most stressful things in someone's life. Sorry to ask, but what is a "fire blanket".

Carole: I am still as nervous as a cat on hot coals, Stomach still heaving al the time, and fingernails getting sorter from trying to scratch my way up out of the black hole.Thanks for holding on to my fingers, which are continually slipping back down....

I also wish I would keep getting messages from GR and another site, asking if my father was a war hero. As IF, The b****R was a complete waste of space, and this is putting it lightly....I am still rather angry that I was never given the chance to confront him... still, I must concentrate on what i CAN do, not the past, which is beyond all of us.

Wishing you all a lovely few days of sunshine, as long as it lasts/

Love to all from Eileen xx

Hi

I am well pleased over the school registers. I was flicking through the name index at the front and saw a Coombs, Catherine so I went to the page that she was on and it was my great grandmother.

There are several forums that I am on which are very friendly. One forum wondered why I didnt post for 5 days but it was because I was away in London.

Ben

Hi, I am around, just going on a webanar for transcribing handwriting. Will be back after.

Have been checking up on you and reading, so have been around, just not posting.

Gail

?????? No peps been here since me last night?

I have to take the two new young lads to work today it's about 12 miles, but to me it might as well be 120mls. OMG I am so
frightened I'll have an accident
.
See you all tonight.

Paula I'm so sorry to hear of your brothers troubles. I remember my sil going missing, and how worried I was, lying there in the dark thinking of her, I couldn't sleep. She turned up well and had been hiding out at the sea side for three days (she was only 14). I think it gets to a point where you have to think of yourself, you can do no more to help some people. That said it isn't any easier for you to accept this is his choice. There must be something going on in his head that he can not cope with when sober. The system fails people like this. Paula try to relax and let him go. You can't help him sadly.

Mary, Clair told me about the boy falling into the Falls. The article he sent says that people who jump in can be thrown about under the water for days in the current. Hope Em is soon feeling better.

Eileen how are you doing? I have hold of your fingers and will not let go xxx

Caz any idea when you will move into the new flat?
Do you all know we are going to have a cyber house warming? As soon as Caz has the internet installed!! Just wipe your feeet going in, she has new carpets throughout! xx

Deanna, Sharron, Allison, Gail, Liz, Ann, thinking of you all xx

I know from my thread a few days ago that many of you have had to practise tough love in the past.I refused to let my 45 yr old alcoholic brother stay at mine any more as did others(friends and family).He is now so low that he is homeless but still refusing to take professional help.He has 70% liver failure.
Anyway a mate of his found him mortal drunk on saturday and left him in the town centre outside a B and B and told him to book himself in there untill monday,then go to the council and declare himself homeless.Whether he did or not no-one knows as he hasnt been seen since.He also left behind the mobile phone I gave him which had numbers programmed into it for turning point etc,who would help him detox and be rehabilitated.
I know I had to be tough this time and I know he cant be helped till he wants to be but I cant sleep for wondering where he is.Doctor isnt pleased with me because my blood pressure was over 200.Got more tablets and have to go back in a couple of weeks.
When my brother was here ,I was having panic attacks again,so I know I can't cope with him.Plus dont feel its right when we have the grandchildren here.Oldest is 4 and lives with us.Youngest is 2 and I mind her most days.He was like a down and out,filthy and stinking.Had nothing but what he stood up in.Got him cleaned up,shave,haircut and some clean clothes .I have pleaded,shouted,cried,sat up listening to him blaming everyone and everything but himself for the way he is.
within a couple of days he was back to his dishevelled state.Professional advice was to give him no money and turn him away as only when he had exhausted every avenue,would he perhaps seek the help he needs.AND yet still I feel guity I couldnt help him .I feel as if I'm going to be sick when I think he might be sleeping on the streets.Each time the phone rings I wonder if they are calling to let me know he has been found dead.I know this might seem irrational but my anxiety problems always make me imagine the worst possible scenario.
I also feel so angry with him for getting to this point.He had a good job as a policeman and his own home and family but lost everything to his refusal to stop drinking.
Sorry for rambling on but I feel better for getting it off my chest
Paula

Carole that's true, it was a suicide attempt, but he is safely in psych hospital now for treatment. No idea how he survived, seems 'his time wasn't up'. There was also an article last week from Roger Woodward who survived a trip over the Falls in July 1960, as a 7 year old child , wearing only a life jacket and swim suit, after a boating mishap up-river.
You've seen the power of the water at Niagara, unbelievable anyone could survive.

Have an unwell little girl (Em) here this morning, her cough is a bark, plus fever and sore throat. We'll keep her quiet for the day, that will make me do some clean up in the house, when I am itching to get going outside.

My tree is now a very slow process, with so many interruptions to distract me. Seems I'm specialising in brick walls.
Duty calls, catch you all later, send some sunshine please, what a dreary day.
Mary

Well done Clair's daughter..
I do remember those days when Mine were at school.

Ben... I had such a find last evening!!
Searching for one member of my family.. direct line... I found so much about her and also a list of her children.
ALL on her death certificate.
I could not believe it.
The only thing is, I still don't know Where in Ireland they come from.
I think that the scribes just did not know the size of Ireland or perhaps did not understand the accents.. Whatever the reason, I am still searching for a place to start.

Liz... I have made many a journey using that philosophy... one foot in front of the other... tiring but worth the struggle. ;-0)

Well Love you and all that... but I must go back to my growing tree... ;-0)
Have a lovely day all of you.
The sun is shinning and it is even quite warm today, or am I just on a 'high' ? ha ha ha

Deanna XXX

Carole, do you mean jumped as in wanted to commit suicide? Or jumped in for a dare. Loads of people have done all sorts of things in the falls there, riding over in barrels etc, not all survived.

Ann
Glos

Mary, Clair (remember my cousins husband who you met) sent me a newspaper cutting, about that man who jumped into the Falls at Horse Shoe Falls on Wednesday. How on earth did he survive that!!?

Good for your daughter, Claire, hope she continues to do her best and make you proud, as well as make herself happy and proud too.

Hi everyone, keep putting one foot in front of the other lol and take care,
must get to bed.

Lizxxx

Deanna, you are doing wonderfully, stop knocking yourself love.

Good for her, Claire, nothing like the feeling of maternal pride rising . . .
HUgs
Mary

Hi

Yes that is a godsend. They are very informative.

I have just left a website where someone was niggling away at a finding to do with a Coombs relative and one of the mods was backing her up and I tried to prove my point later on by starting a new post, then I got a PM from a mod saying that multiple posts arent allowed so I told them that I will be deleting my account by using that account option. I think a lot of mods on forums like to show their little bit of power they have.

Ben

Ben that must have been lovely being able to search real records.
I would really love that, but I can't so I have to make do with the web... boo hoo ;-0)
Still I have had a good week with my searches. Hope you found loads of interesting family history.
Are you feeling better these days?

Liz I slowed down to an absolute snails pace after the stroke, but I am doing quite well now as you must see by the length of my messages these days.
I am doing great but I don't think I will ever be as fast as I was.... I still have days when I am searching for the letters and dare not submit anything until I have first checked it.
I am not complaining though. I am still able, so how could I complain?

And Caz.... We have to be smart about our energy... so don't over do it.
Didn't we have this conversation before?? ;-0)

Well everyone I must go and see if I have the energy to....
a) wash
b)dress
c) come back on here.... ha ha ha
I deserve it, I worked hard yesterday...

So All of you take care and I will be back to read all your messages.
Bye for now
love Deanna XXXX

HI Ben how nice to have seen those records. Bet you are panning another trip now!

Caz bet the flat smells lovely of new carpets and paint. You better get in there fast or you might find I have moved in!

Liz good to see all your news

Rushing this morning!! bye xx

Hi Ben, nice to see you back with us. I've always wanted to see my grandmas school registers and reports, I supose one day I will.
Ann I was glad they voted Colleen off, she's a lovely person but can't skate and some good skaters have had to go before her. I like Jessica and hope she wins but I think Ray will do it, the cocky little creep, he is a dancer anyway and I heard he used to skate so has he had an advantage? I don't think this series has been as good as the others though.

Deanna I know what it is like, doing one job then having to sit down exhausted, different reasons, same result.
Liz I always pay £6 for my hair cut every six weeks, she comes to my house and is a friend but I don't get anything off for that, she said last week that it is going up at Easter 20 pence, it always does at Easter and by the same rate.

Can't type anymore,my fingers are bad with arthritis again so better keep it short. By the way, the carpets are lovely, they threw in the bathroom one for free as they had some offcuts and it is the best match for the wall colour, my sister was very impressed, I must have got something right at last. Her house always seems perfect to me down to the last detail.

Love and hugs to all
Caz xx

Hi Benjamin, that must have been an interesting trip, did you have some time off work or go at the weekend? How is work now?


Lizx

Hi

I just got back a couple of days ago from a genealogy trip where I found out my great grandmothers school registers at Winchester Street School, Islington, now Winton School.

Ben