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Talking of the 1911 I need to view more of my Essex bunch.

Doubt is part of OCD. It is one of the main symptoms.

Btw anyone on here a fan of Emmerdale? I am doing a 3D computer graphics simulation of the Emmerdale village on Google SketchUp.

Ben

Oh Deanna, I missed you again. But it is so good to see you on here. I haven't bought any credits for the 1911 as i can't think they will help me, most of that era I know about. however, a second cousin of my OH has bought credits for his Grandfather's census and I was amazed to see that his poor grandmother had had 18 children born alive. Only 13 seem to have survived though. 18!!!! And i assume there will have been miscarriages as well. No wonder granddad looks so smug in his photo!!

Ann
Glos

Hi Liz, I have been trying to e-mail you but the mails keep coming back.
I just wanted you to know that I have been trying.
see you tomorrow on here.
Goodnight.... to all of you too.
Deanna XXX

Morning all, taking a minute to pop in and say hello. Absolutely frigid here - current temperature is minus11C, with a "wind-chill factor" of minus 17C. perishing cold. I had to fill the car gastank last evening and was so cold I only half-filled it so I could get back into the van. I have wire-rimmed specs, the metal frame gets so cold so quickly, it gives one a headache. Had one child home sick the past 2 days and again today.
When I went to pick the children up from school on Monday, I was hauled into the principal's office as Em (age 8) had apparently threatened to stab a boy if he didn't stop teasing her. Great, looks like we may have a budding juvenile delinquent. He had told her she was an alien because her initials are ET, and had told her that her lunch looked "yucky", so she had not eaten anything at her lunch break. The same boy managed to hit her in the face with a soccer ball during their outdoor break (and I am supposed the think there is no connection between the 3 incidents, when the same boy was involved) I had trouble keeping a straight face when she was receiving her lecture from the principal, and he was doing his best to sound stern. She's standing there, long straight,blonde hair, big blue eyes, a single tear running down her cheek and her lower lip quivering. She had to write an explanation of the happening, and ended it by saying she thought that she had made God sad because he doesn't like his friends to be angry! I was shaken out of my amusement when he told her that if she were 4 years older and had said the same thing, he would have been obliged to call the police and have her charged with threatening. Then I was able to assume the stern grandmother role.

I'm dropping off 2 big bags of clothing etc today, for the benevolent shop. Inch by inch I am finding the walls of my house. How in the world do we accumulate so much "stuff"?

Sending hugs to all those who nned them, nice to see you here Elaine, Colin, Dutch. Thinking of those in pain and/or distress - I won't try to list you all, but am sending positive thoughts over the pond.
Mary

Ben I just never thought about DOUBT being a sign of OCD.
That took me by surprise. My husband, a really nice caring giving man is like that. It annoys me, but now I will be able to see that he cannot help it.
If he asks me something and I know the answer.... he will look it up to make sure!
I could go on, but I am sure that you understand what I mean.
VERY annoying and it often causes arguments because I get angry and hurt but now I can understand and let it go.

Liz.... no darling you are not allowed to hit him with a shovel.
You can dream about it... no punishment for that. ;-0)

Hope you are all doing well and that you enjoy the new census. It will not help me... no Scottish records on it and I'm finnished with the English side for that era.

love to all of you,
Deanna XXX

That is OK then.

hi Cinders.

Ann x

Hi

Yes I know that I am right. Virtually everyone agrees with me. I was just stating that jealousy breeds contempt. It is nothing to worry about at all.

Ben

hello all

I hope you all start feeling better soon.

Just keep on knowing that you are right Ben. It really does not matter at all what other people say about your research.

Ann

Hi

Thanks. Us sufferers look for cast iron proof to abolish these doubts. It is only the things that we really care about that OCD likes to make us doubt. It makes us doubt the undoubtable. W need to realise that.

And lot of people are jealous and jealousy breeds contempt and when you have the ability to prove something, that can irritate others and they ridicule it. And they make up things to try and win the argument.

If like many of us find the father of an illegitimate child or the biological parents of say a foundling ancestor, other people get envious because they probably have illegitimates or foundlings and have not found any bioligical parentage so they have to ridicule it and pick holes in our successes by saying that what you found is still inconclusive and say things like "Oh no they pretended to be the real parents". What a load of codswallop.

They know the evidence is cast iron but they like to ridicule it as they long to be in your position. They havent had your success or they havent got the ability to prove such things. Also some people argue just for the sake of it.

Ben

Hi Ben - good that you are realising the doubts are just that and your work is true when you have checked it over.

I read the other day that another name for ocd translates as 'the doubting disease' so there you go, explains it all.

take care
Lizx

Hi

Back again after the new years breaks.

How is everyone? I see that more 1911 counties have been added but not Durham yet which is what I am waiting for. My great grandfather and his family were there.

I have just realised that when I get unwanted doubts and question things that are right, I know that I have done this before with good things and that proves that it is only OCD and the doubts are untrue.

I have often doubted good things in my life but nothing has come of the doubts so I know that I am right.

Ben

Morning everyone:o))

Bloomin cold and frosty here this morning:o(( quite picturesque:o)

Hope everyone has a good day today. Positive thoughts to you all.

Take care

jude xx

up to date with you all but not had time to send pm's promised. (Colin). Will get to you but in a hury now to go see psychologist.
Think she will discharge me as she is leaving and says I have the tools it is up to me to use them! Cold out there. Colin where are you?

Elaine how lovely to see you back xxx
Love to all Carole xxx

Hello again all,
Having been through it for 20 plus years, I am currently well. OK, perhaps I'm in remission. But I am older, working with a nice bunch of people (mostly) and in a job with more variety and less stress. Besides, I don't hate my boss. Still taking a mood stabiliser, I tried coming off it last year but my girlfriend told me to go to the doctor as I was getting twitchy and irritable, so back on them. Stll free of the antidepressants, though.
I managed to get some cbt free through the district mental health centre about 10 years ago and it still helps.
I do struggle a bit at Christmas with family members missing, but as it's southern hemisphere summer here there's only the heat and humidity to get me down, not midwinter gloom, freezing cold, and this year many are virtually snowed in. I do struggle a little bit around mum's birthday and mother's day (same week) and our June long weekend, which coincides with her death.
I do know the the impenetrable fog and incredible lethargy of depression. I think it's worse because I live on my own. Has its advantages, but there is no one to prod me along when I am down.
But to be positive, I think we can sometimes do better than one day at a time. In the northern hemisphere days are getting longer, which helps. Being in a temperate latitude, I often wonder what it's like to have the sun set before 4 pm and be only just above the horizon even at midday, as it is in the UK in midwinter.
Kind regards to all, especially Carole, who started this thread a year ago. Colin

Evening all,

Have not been around much the last days.

Am sitting here stinking to the high heavens-COOKING smells, not from lack of washing, I haste to add.
Grandson Douglas cooked a lovely meal.In a way, nicer during a dull weekday.Mustard soup to start, large mixed salad with feta & mozerella, etc. lots of olive oil, salmon and tiny potatoes in a dressing I hadn't had before. He's a really good, imaginative cook.Will have to wash hair again tomorrow, because of the smells.

Snow is all gone, thank goodness.Must buy some salt soon, had to use the expensive Lo Salt on the front path, after daughter Eleanor had shoveled the snow away a couple of evenings ago.

Let's hope we all improve in both mind and body, once the weather improves.

Sleep well!

Love. Eileen xx

hi every one well ive not been on here for a while as for some reason my pc wouldnt let me on genes at all ,well just to hope you all well and doing good ,things have been a little better here and hubby seems to be doing good at the moment still alot of hospital appiontments one on friday for a ct scan so fingers crossed that tumoer hasnt grown ,as far as his heart surgury he doing well so im alot happier but still have few pan/anx days ,i do hope to catch you all soon hugs to all elaine

Hi Liz.spoke to Betty on last week but cant remember the day only that i forgot our time different and she was in bed,said id ring back but shed no its ok,she she seemed ok had cough,nice to talk to her
thank you MaxiMary for the lovely card and letter i shall write back to to you soon
Caz,i miss my mum to on 6feb shes been gone 34yrs but we never forget do we
Eileen,hope your feeling abit better of for my ct scan tomorrow fingers crossed its ok
Gail if your looking in hope your ok
Tinker bell ,hope your well
and to everyone i may have missed i wish you all better days,take care all
Dutchxx

P.S. I rang Kathy near the sea yesterday and she said to tell you all Hi and she has been having a love affair with her loo, her words, she has had the bug that's going round. J. is supposed to be starting exams today so hope he managed to get up and out, don't think she has seen much of him these past weeks, he has been living the same hours as me !
Kathy has been looking in a little bit but no energy to post and not much time spent on the computer, more in the w.c.

Hope our Betty is ok, haven't seen anything or heard from her since the phone call last week.

If Kathy or Betty is looking in, get well soon Kathy and hope you are ok now Betty, and that leg healed ok.

Lizx

A quick hallo to all, Caz, hope your doctor can help you somehow, so you feel a bit more like yourself, and hope the sky dish gets fixed ok.

I only came down for a cuppa, something woke me but couldn't resist coming on here and over an hour later, here I am still, only had 4 hrs sleep so must go back again in a mo, and it's chilly here too, no heating in kitchen. As I couldn't get on the site during my usual hours, thought I had better make sure everyone is ok and send you all my love, I too owe pms etc but couldn't send any last night with being shut out of site, thought for a mo I had been sent on holiday lol

take care, thinking about you all,
love and hugs
Lizx