General Chat

Morning everyone,

The sun is shining, quite warm outside.I agree with Gail, the pains and aches are less when the weather is so mild & dry.

Gillie, it is very hard to let go, have been there so understand.It was more difficult when my youngest left to go to uni, just before her 18th birthday.She was soooo lost for the first 6 months or so.My son was also studying at the same uni, so it reassured me to know he was there to help her out.
Ann, your news was very, very sad.That poor young mother, she will always feel guilty, although she was in no way to blame, God bless her.How many of us have taken our babies into our beds? The last time was when my yougest stayed here with her two little ones.Anna, the baby born on Easter sunday, cried a lot, so I had her in my bed half way the night,every night, to give her mum some rest.Mind you, I hardly dared to sleep, was too scared she would suffocate under the duvet.
Will make some cakes later today.
Hope you all have a peaceful day.

Eileen x

PS to Fran, I have also found a few of mine the married and the other half had not passed away or divorced.

I think it was a lot easier to get away with then.

Gail

Evening to everyone, off to watch a movie the night night.

Gillie, my children kept moving back home for years, so never really get the empty nest feeling. Trouble is they do not stay away long enough to miss.:>))) Sorry very tongue in cheek there, yes I so miss them.

Ache are probably your winter approaching, I am always worse in cold weather. Love the warm and hot weather as can get around more.

Catch up tomorrow.

Luv and hugs

Gail

Morning everyone, I hope you are all coping ok? the sun is shining here this morning after yesterdays miserable day.

I've had a terrible night, I hardly slept, I watched a lot of TV and drank too much tea.
I have been up a while and put a chocolate cake in the oven for my sons lunch box this week, he will be back here later to collect it, he and his g/friend are house sitting this week, so now it's just me and hubby here, I saw my youngest son yesterday, he came in to print off some copies of his CV, so I know he is ok, but I still miss him like mad, it's like they've both flown the nest this week, I don't think I was like this when my daughter left, but then I still had 2 small boys to take my mind off things and I was working as well.
I never thought I'd feel this horrible empty nest syndrome, it feels like when my youngest lad went missing at 9 yrs old, he went missing on his way to school,I was frantic with worry and scared to death about what would or could happen to him, pleased to say he was found.
Perhaps thats why I still have that sort of feeling now he has left home.

I have had a letter back from DLA, they are going to contact my GP even though I sent a letter with my forms from my rheumatologist, I hope I don't get turned down this time, fingers crossed.
I have got really aching and painful knees and thighs today, plus the usual aches and pains.

Love Gillie XXXX

Plenty of that went on Fran.

Glad you thinks you've cheered up.

Nite nite

xx

i THINK i've cheered up!

my great great grandad appears to have been a bigamist!

well put it like this, Jacob Card married Emily Davey in sevenoaks kent, 1857. a year later jacob card marries ann kenway in kensington, BUT i cant find a death for poor Emily

Soz Fran. was taking the tabs.

Listen to me girl, I NEVER KNEW, my mother had an older sister who died before she was born, and that another two siblings died in the one year. I only found out a few months ago when a distant relation on my grandmothers side (mums mum) who was born and lives in Oz sent me copies of all the details of B.D.M.

Try that for size. Nobody in mums family I can ask. lol

Don't cry hun, it's a waste of loo roll wiping up the tears xx

dont be like that Vods or I shall cry

lol

just getting frustrated with lack of help from family y'know, even my mother in law was open about her affair with a married man in 1965 (well my husband was the result!) but the rest of them either dont know or dont care!

I'm stuck on Coltons, Lancasters, Olivers, Sweeneys, in fact, the Kenways i dont wanna know about! i got them back to 16something!

OMG Who you lost now?? lol

I'm not a naughty parent! that was my first night out since end of August.

The only thing depressing me right now is peope who should be on the census NOT being on it! grrrr..

Hi all. Hope you are all feeling well this evening.
Welcome aboard Judith and Claire.

Gail, you're soooo lucky Halloween not caught on.
It's just a ploy to get money from the daft b@€€$*s who buy all the stuff for it. Says me, who paid £2.45 for 6 fancy iced fairy cakes in a certain chainstore bakers. My grandsons had a halloween party yesterday, and after it finished my daughter had an egg thrown at her window.

Just as well the hail and sleet would wash it off lol

Well, I had a c@~p night with pain and after a lot of painkiller I eventually fell asleep.

Wishing you all a good night.

Fran. You naughty parent pmsl

xx

Oooooo Sorry not been on, I went out last night to escape the constant doorbell!

Go to the pub and it was dead, by 10 the place was HEAVING, got home at 2am to find my 16year old had been sat outside for an hour and a half waiting for us, in the frost.

Needless to say all were hungry so I ended up doing bacon and black pud sandwiches!

Hope you all have a Cheery November.

Evening all, I had to work this evening and about 830pm my family arrived, the kids all in costumes and the 2 dogs with pumpkin outfits!!
Some of the residents (I work in a home for the aged) were tickled to death with both the children and the 2 dogs. I thought I'd escaped the Halloween chaos, by having to work this pm.LOL.


Dear Ann, breaks ones heart to hear about the death of the little one, having lost an infant myself shortly after birth, and my sister in law lost a child at 12 months by accidental hanging, we share your sorrow.

off to bed, hopuing for some nice weather tomorrow so I can finish off the flower beds for the winter, which is fast approaching.

Mary XXX

Hi Everyone, hadn't realised it was a couple of days since I posted. Welcome to the thread to Judith and Claire. On this thread you can let out your frustrations and get unqualified support from everyone.

Claire, I am sure it must be difficult for you to build up trust in your OH again, but he is still with you so he must be happy to be so. Maybe a visit to your GP would help with the anxiety state.

I am feeling very sad this evening, if you have seen my post about my Gt gt Nephew you will know why.

Ann
Glos x

Since my dad is in a manual wheelchair at the moment and I am in complete charge of where he is,tee-hee,I thought I might sit him out the front with an empty beer can in the lead up to Guy Fawkes night.

Hi

Yes, I know what is correct in my family tree.

Someone said that the man the mother of the baby married could have just been her latest boyfriend. What a load of rubbish! If so, why did he baptise the child as his and say he was the father in censuses etc?. Also, there wouldnt have been enough time inbetween the birth and subsequent wedding for the mother to go out, get a job, and meet a new man, a complete stranger then move away with him and then wed him all in a couple of months. Not in the 1860s. Its obvious they were lovers before the babe was born and he admitted fatherhood to his baby after the birth. Also, the fathers wife had just died of a long illness only weeks before the mother gave birth, explaining the illegitimacy.

The mother had to wait until the fathers wife had died so she could marry him. Luckily for her she died just before the birth, meaning not too long in a delayed wedding.

Most people I have spoken to about this success story say that I have more than enough evidence, either datewise or paper to know that he was the father and the length of his wifes illness meant he probably needed a shoulder to cry on and from the info what I have said to them, it all fell into place to them as well. A mod on a forum said that she must have been his child as he probably wouldnt admit fatherhood asfter the birth if he wasnt. There are too many "coincidences" for it to not be true, ie the move to London just after the birth, and before with his wife being ill with TB while his future wife fell pregnant to a baby he admitted paternity to later on which at first was born baseborn because the father had just lost his wife weeks before.

Someone said that the illness she had would have increased her libido and made her want more passion and not be enough for the man to stray. How the hell can TB do that hey? She would have felt like rubbish, coughing up blood, flem and be totally germ full and would have to be isolated. Some people cannot seem to accept skeletons in either theirs or others family trees and make up stupid things like that to win the argument.

Ben

Liz, Halloween has never caught on in OZ. It looks great fun though. I would make a great Hunchback of Notre Dam. :0)

Welcome Claire, you will feel right at home here.

The only way to get through hard times is to talk.

Even though he was a naughty boy in the past, he is still with you, so must love you as still around.

Have you had a chat with your GP. It may go a bit deeper than you think and you may need councillor to help you move on.

If you do not want to chat on the boards send me a PM. I will listen.

Love and hugs

Gail

I hope Im not intruding here,,maybe im in the wrong place, ?
My husband had an affair a couple of years ago and now i have times when i get so anxious, I panic and bombard him with questions ,
Sometimes i think i will go mad..its not even 6-30 and iv had a few sips of wine this morning,, I cant eat and im constantly checking stuff on the internet,
He works away all week and comes home today..I want to be happy when he comes home but its so difficult,
Sorry everyone if Im intruding on your thread,,,iv got almost nobody to talk to about this,

Just that there had been nobody on for hours and hours. I was the last one before bed last night and slept for 10 hours ( yes was wonderful and badly needed) and got back on the arvo and nobody around for 14 hours. Usually I have lots to catch up on and today nothing.

Maybe that is a good sign that we are all feeling a bit better.

Yes Caz the lovely behinds.:0))

PS Chickens are doing well, with snake around have to watch them a lot more.