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Carole LOL, I'd like my kitchen to look nice and tidy too, my sink IS clean and shiny, but tidy - well I don't know where all the stuff comes from, especially when I've decluttered heaps already.
I LOVE being in the kitchen, not sure why, if it's satisfaction from successful experiments, or the aroma of food cooking, or pleasure of providing for my family OR is it just the freedom to cook what I want, when I want to, with nobody standing over me , telling me I'm doing it the wrong way. The other aspect I suppose goes back to WWII when I was but a child, nothing could be thrown away, every bit of the rations must be used to benefit the whole family (except when my brother threw a bucket of coal dust in the cake batter). I also love going downstairs, seeing rows of canning to get my family through the next year, to open the freezer and find suppers put together, ready to throw in the slow cooker . Make a lot of mess one day and have 10 suppers prepared in bags, then when it's time to cook, there's no mess.
Dear Louise I hope your spirits will lift a bit, an inch at a time, with a lot of support from this thread.
Gill, you really got me thinking, girl . . . .
Ben congrats on your research and excellent summary, nice to have a mystery solved.
Now if someone could figure out why my great grandmother changed her surname, and that of her 3 sons, and why her brother also changed his name, I'd be a happy woman LOL.
Deanna, sending hugs to you and Allen.
Caz hope you're feeling a bit better.
Liz tell your OH to get out of your way when you soak your feet, it's your right to pamper yourself. my ex wouldn't "let" me paint my nails in the house, now I'm big and strong I wouldn't let him push me around, but that was then. My "kids" still cheer when I cook rice successfuklly, because for 10 years I lost the ability to cook it, because of his harrassment.
Sharron you are doing a wonderful job with your Dad, loving him, providing challenges, giving him freedom to putter in the garden, my Dad died when I was 30, I've been without him more than 1/2 my life. Although (because I work with Alzheimers and other forms of dementia) I've often felt gratitude that he didn't have to suffer the indignity of dementia, I'd give anything to have him puttering beside me in the garden, trimming my hedges so "expertly" that they had to be dug up and replaced, to give him moments of happiness. Give your Dad a hug for me.
Today's project is baking all the shredded zucchini into choc cake or cupcakes for the childrens lunches.
Carole I admit I love being in the kitchen, but you are right, it would look better without the tomato juice on the cupboard fronts and the floor, another project . . . . I've rationalised that if I wash the ceramic tile floor, it will be slippery and, with the speed I move at times, a safety risk. I can't slip if it's sticky !!! Haven't got time for a fall . . . .
Back to work on the zucchini, I am so loving being home during the week,while Colleen is away,only working every second w/e till the end of October then back to full-time till the end of December. Then In January I start a lovely part-time schedule, 3 days on, a week off, then 4 days on and another week off.
Seems the pumpkin farm trip is cancelled today because it's going to rain, and no point in spending the money and only having an hour or so. Suddenly quite cool. problem with this area, there is No spring, minimal autumn, we seem to go striaght from hot to cold. Stop complaining, I have a house I love, everyone is happy, well-fed and cared-for, even the cat has mellowed out recently.
Hugs to all, sorry to ramble,someone has thrown away the key for my on-switch LOL.
MAry
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I have realized that most of my problems come from my situation and I am trying my very best to alter that.
Now that six transit loads of my mother's treasures have been assigned to the tip I feel a lot more motivated and sussing out what the other half was doing with the money made a big difference too.
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It could be....I don't know but I have stopped looking for reason and more of ways to control it....its not like having a bad head or abroken leg at times you are unaware that you are acting differantly...I used to blame it on PMT all sorts...
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Do you think it could be a kind of delayed unhappiness? No time to deal with the situation at the time but later, when you are quite unawares and unprepared,out it pops to bite you.
I had to develope copping strategies to deal with the constant unbearable stress of living with a mad woman. Now I find myself sliding into those strategies because that is what I always did.
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Claire It's a pleasure to remember you when sending pm's! I know its very hard to join in somewhere when
everyone seems to know each other, but you are always welcome and so is anyone else who might be wanting to post here, but worries like you do about making that first move.
It's been a very busy time for us all on here, seems a few of our friends are having a bad time for one reason or another. So it's up to the rest of us to
let them know they are with friends here. Trust is a big thing when you feel fragile!!
Claire if you want to send a pm with your email address we can swap photos. xxx
Do you want to talk about your problems with any of us? Tell us about your son maybe? xxx
Hi Caz C nice to see you. Hows it all going?
Hi ~~~ Hayley
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Ohhh Sharon that hook things on too....I totally agree with that....I have nothing to feel depressed about...I always try to think possitive try to think there is a logical expernation for everything....
About 8 years ago I suffered one of the worst bouts of drepression ever...My OH dragged and I mean dragged me off to our GP...I lied through my teeth why I was there I felt so a shamed...in the end I agreed to take medication and speak with another DR...I couldnt stand anyone else that my OH and children in the house but once they got through the door I was ok...I didnt want to see anyone but didnt want tobe alone...I couldnt even hang my washing out.....I spoke with the DR and couldnt belive the nonsense that I was talking...stuff about my childhood...my Dad dying at such an early age and really not been able to greive for him I know understand that my Mum wanted us to move forward and think positive..my mum suffers very badly with depression which at times went untreated...but 8 years ago I had nothing to worry about ...money health nothing...and at times of a family crisis I am a pillar of strength ...so I stopped hooking the reasons for my condation on to things...and just accepted its just who I am...
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I have,in the past,suffered from awful depression and was on tranqus through a lot of my teens with recurring bouts after that.
Then,thirteen years ago,my mother died and magically,no more depression.
In retrospect I can see that I was actually behaving and reacting in a pretty normal way to a very unpleasant situation.
From the research I have carried out it seems that my mother was suffering from a personality disorder for which it would seem logical for her to receive treatment. She was a regular visitor to the doctor for everything she could think of. That was also my doctor.
That doctor was treating me for depression.Had he noticed there was something not quite right about my mother I would have thought he might have wondered if that was the cause of my problem.
I do wonder if the medical profession doesn't lump one or two things they can't quite suss out under the banner of depression,either in the patient themselves or those who are reacting to the pressure they are put under by that patient. I certainly feel that I was being given secondary treatment for somebody elses condition.
The odd thing after my mother died and I had had some hypnotherapy for stress was that I had the feelings that would lead to depression but no despair to hook them on to. Was my depression a kind of habit?
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I think I might have been born with it as my mum has it from time to time and my brother has it really bad but hes on medication at the mo so is doing ok
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Hello and love to everyone,
Caz xxxx
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David most people who suffer from depression/Anxiety wish they could just do something change something to make it go away its a horrible to condition to have and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy... I have part of a Chemical missing in my brain which causes depression I was born with it I can't help it I dont like and I dont want it...but tough all I can do it try my hardest to keep the chemical balanced..
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Dawn,it could just be that you have too much time.
Now that I don't really go to work I find that I don't accomplish much.No structure to the day any more.
Because there is plenty of time to cook the tea,sometimes the tea doesn't get cooked at all.Washing hangs about because there is plenty of time to do it and before you know it,no knickers again.
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Oh David didn't see you there! Yes thats right. Do something, or you just vegetate!
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Dawn straight to the doctors Monday morning!! Get yourself on anti depressants. Don't mess about with
St Johns Wort and all that rubbish it will not work. I think the fact that you have realised it is coming again is a good thing. So before it gets hold even stronger see your doc. You sound to have classic symptoms. Best thing is fight it. Not easy when you can't be bothered but you must. Set your self little goals and push to meet them.
We will all be here for you, and will come to the doctors with you Monday ( or as soon as you can, we can do anything in cyber world :o)), but being real people we can listen xxx
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As our mothers use to say
DO SOMETHING
Do something]
Change something
Make something better
xx
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hi everyone,
I have suffered with depression on and off since i can remember (im 33 now). the thing is i think its starting to come back again!
Ive had to take time off work due to ill health (nothing serious) you may have seen my coeliac thread...
But i now find myself sitting round the house doing nothing.
The house is a mess
I cant be bothered to go out
im sleeping in the day then up half the night
dont see anyone really
cant be bothered to tidy up
cant even be bothered to eat really!!!
I know if I dont sort it out soon im gonna be in a right state but how can I ?
All ideas welcome PLEASE..................
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Just popping in while my cuppa is brewing, neighbours are very noisy today and woke me up!
I noticed a message through the door and it told me the postie had listened to me earlier this week when I asked him to put a package I was expecting over the gate rather than wake me.
Thank you Dutch! You are a sweetie, not only the bath headrest, but some nice toiletries too, and some perfume samples that smell good. I figured out from the Dutch/German on two items that they are lavender foot treatments? Will enjoy using those next week when I can sit with my feet in a bowl (not the one I use for dishes lol) and then use them. O.h. takes the mickey if I soak my feet when he is around lol so next week when he is at work will be the time for r and r.
Thanks again Joyce, you are so caring.
Hope you all have a good day, it's bright and sunny here, my friend from Germany certainly brought some good weather with her, she and her husband have had a lovely week for travelling round the Norfolk coast, he is loving seeing all our seaside places, even tho she drags him into the charity shops at most places, as well as the beach!
love and hugs,
Lizxxxx
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Morning Gill. How are you? What have you been doing with yourself?
I just took my son and his mates into town, to get a train to Nottingham. Another friend of theirs is playing in his band at the castle there.
Sharron and Mary you put me to shame. I hate being in the kitchen. I like it to look nice and tidy, not like cooking is going on in there!
Kathy are you okay? Do you need to talk? xx
Deanna ~~~~~ mwah how are you? xx
Ben there you are! How are you doing ? xx
Gail have you been trying to go out more? xx
Dawn you too? xx
Ann G should be home soon shouldn't she? xx for Ann
Joyce things are getting better for me. I have never been out so much for years. Still not 100% but getting there. Just to be able to say to my son do you want a lift into town and take them. Couldn't have done that before. How are you and your family? xx
Eileen what are you doing today? xxx
Still have not done my jobs I keep saying I'll do xx
Louise ~~~~ hope you are settling in with us xxx
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Good to hear of somebody else who makes too much chutney etc. for the sake of making it. This year my preserving is quite special,and exhausting as I have my dad doing it and he is now talking about what to plant for next year,which he wasn't doing before.
When he first came home I bought a lot of huge flower pots and filled them with compost in the hope of re-awakening his interest in gardening but he had given up.
Now he can get up the garden on his own in the wheelchair he has been picking the runner beans and I think this has made him interested again.
I was wondering about deep beds for up the garden so that he can reach them from his wheelchair but I think they are expensive,especially if he won't use them!
Better get down there and get him pickling I suppose.
Get on with it woman!
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Good morning everyone
Hope you all have a nice day and without too much pain
((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
Gill
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