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Hi all, well what a lovely surprise, o.h. decided he would go to the ball after all lol - it's actually a 50th birthday party for one of his mate's wives, a mate he lodged with years ago before he got this wife no 2. I have met them and the crowd they go around with, K only sees them when there is a party on and they bore me rigid going on about what they all used to get up to at other parties!!! Then they usually go back to one of their homes and roll joints, like they are all trying to be young again. I had said I didn't want to go, and he couldn't decide, he made up his mind about 8pm, asked me to pick him out something to wear and ring him a taxi, I couldn't wait! He was off about 9.15 so I have had a pleasantly peaceful evening and might even have an early night. He won't be home till at least midnight and even later if I am lucky, he will come through the door with a silly smirk on his face, and sit in the chair and fall asleep. I have put clean bed linen on the bed so might take advantage and get in first for a change lol

Haven't heard anything from Liz's family which probably means she is still hanging on, I called yesterday and her s.i.l. said she was peaceful, sedated so minimum pain, and no food or drink, no line in so they are waiting for her body to shut down. It sounds so awful. It was her 59th birthday on Wednesday and altho before then, Liz couldn't raise her head, open her eyes or speak, she could still hear so had her cards read out to her. We all phoned with messages for her too.
I told her s.i.l. yesterday that we wouldn't bother them again with calls, there is a houseful of family members and carers, her Dad is 86 and must be hating all the carers there as he is a very quiet and private man. We will wait now for the inevitable news and remember Liz as she was before this awful illness took hold.
Thanks for all your support, and hope you all are coping with all life throws at you.
Take care,
Lizxxxx

Thanks for pm's.

Just been to see a work friend who is off after having an op. I told her about B. She understands how I feel. B has said some horrible things to her before. Supervisors don't say anything.
As this woman is 72 I think she thinks she can say what she wants, and expects us to not retaliate. My days of saying nothing are coming to an end. I'm not going to feel bad cos I didn't answer back even if I feel bed cos I did. LOL

Sending caring thoughts to Liz x

Clair my mum has also symptoms of Narcissism Iike I told you before. I can't do right. My sister isn't very good at reading and writing but she is the golden child. So funny and entertaining to others (not to me though, I get fed up with her stupidness, the things she says, and does are so silly and she knows it, but it gets too much after a while, others don't have a life time of it), very like mum in many ways, no wonder mum thinks the sun shines from behind her. A copy of her own image.

Sent out some facebook invites, anyone I haven't sent one to I haven't got your email address. If you want to join let me know.

xxxx

Gail
Even if i could fly to Mars im sure i would do it wrong lol i was never the golden child and since i openly admit to having a learning disability that makes me even more of a reject so to speak.

My love to everyone,

Caz xxxx

Ladies and gents a few of us appear to be really bogged down at the moment.

Carole, I would be upset with this horrible person. You have done nothing wrong. Do not know how you manage to work with someone so uncaring.

Whitenancy, You have your hands full. Your mother sure sounds like a narcissistic. I do not know what she expects you to do, perhaps fly to Mars and back.

Love to every one.

Gail

Ann
I am more than ever convinced that she has Narcissistic personality disorder She fit the criteria perfectly which of course means in her eyes she has done nothing wrong and it is everyone else's fault.

At least my sister has developed a bit of a backbone and apparently gave it to mother with both barrels last night.

We are going to take her back next weekend no matter what i have got her a new bed through freecycle. Will try again for fridge etc although i am quite sure it wont be up to mother exacting standards but she has a choice use it or have to sleep in spare bed.

I am going to take mother out for a bit tomorrow to give my sister a break she says its like living with a particularly demanding child.

Hi folks
Just popping in quickly at work, very busy evening so only have a sec.
All is really quite well, I am gradually coming out of the fog created by my mis-management of the Celexa. Actually feeling VERY much better.
Got a surprise today, apparently somehow I qualified at the bank, of all places, to receive an ASUS EeePC, tiny laptop. Not sure how it will be, but hey, it's free . . .
Colleen leaves on Monday for Kingston and the kids and I will have to care for each other in her absence. Now I'm becoming nervous.
I just got my monitor back today (at least, I received a replacement one from HP) and hopefully should be online again by next mid-week. I'm off work for the next week so won't be able to check in until I am connected at home.
If I may, I'd like to ask you to remember a friend of mine, someone with whom I work, whose son was killed last week. Sadly he was with the 'wrong crowd', and was shot in the head, age 19. His body had to go to the forensic lab and was just released yesterday to the family. Please remember his mother who is in total denial, doing his laundry so it will be fresh when he comes home etc. Her sisters are coming from Angola and her husband from Portugal. her grief is shared by all those who know her; sad enough that a mother has lost her child, but she has all the additional emotions of anger, guilt, shame etc to exacerbate her profound grief. They emigrated for "a better life". I refuse to discuss the circumstances of his death, at present his mother is the victim and needs our support.
Have a good and healthy weekend everyone, hugs to those who need them today, look forward to being back among you all.
Love
MAry

ohh dear Claire, sounds like you have a big problem on your hands. You and your sister will have to put your foot down with her. It's her fault not yours.

Do you all remember the woman at my work having a go at me for being late? I told them at work I would not travel with her again. Wednesday when the supervisor was doing travel arrangements for next week, she said she would pick me and another up then go for the woman I had the do with. So I thought I can sit here and not say anything, or I can speak up for myself. So I said I would travel on my own that day. Supervisor asked why. So I said it was because I would not travel with B. B said are you still stewing over that? I said no but I would have trouble that morning worrying about being late. B said weren't you listening? Supervisor was driving not you. I said you don't understand anxiety I would worry, and that would make it more likely I would be late. So she said that's because you are stupid. I said it's because of idiots like you that makes it harder for me. I walked away. Then she got me again in the staff room. I tried to stay calm and talk but she just didn't get why I had a problem. I said why do you think I am seeing a psychologist, I am trying to get better. I was so upset and nearly in tears, so had to go outside for a walk to calm down.
Now I'm worried I am making a bad atmosphere at work. I feel bad about myself for acting this way

Whose fault does she think it is then Whitenancy? If she wont let people like the British Legion help her who does she think is going to supply replacement furniture. I suggest your sister tells her she has to go back to her home because she can't stay there for ever as there is not room. Or would she rather go into a residential home? she sounds as if she is being very manipulative

ann
glos

Now she is say she cant go back to Norfolk because everyone will know how she lived and she can never hold her head up in public again.

Can she not understand that she has brought the shame on herself and there is only one person to blame in all this and that is herself.

Had a good 2nd day at work came home feeling very positive as they have offered me extra hours for the next 2 weeks as another staff member is on holidays.

Rang my sister and suddenly i dont feel so good mother refused to ring the British Legion apparently we have have destroyed her and my dads service record is too long ago and too embarrassing (who was never good enough and def not her intellectual equal(spot the narcissism)).

She hasnt had a bath for 2 week now and according to my sister is slightly incontinent but trying to hide it

Hi everyone, just poped in to say I'm still around and thinking of you all.... got a lot going on in September , some of it good some not so good.................

afternoon everyone hope you all having a good day ,its been a long one for me and hubby well as you no he hato go to hospital this morning for a cardio rehab assesment for cardio gym after his heart opp 7 weeks ago well we was up early arrived on time then to start with when we went in they didnt have him in the book as coming today even though they sent us the letter so she hato do all the paperwork while we were there ,then asked alot of questions any way ,the outcome was they think he not well enough yet to start in gym doing cardio exersizes so she refured him to another person who will do a one to one with him at home ,instead of gym ,so we waiting for another call from her ,then to top it all he seen gp other night about these turns he is having and now he has wrote to another consultant hubby is under for a acustic nuroma ,to see him sooner for mri scan to cheak that it has not grown so all in all not a good day ,as we were coming home hubby said im another regect ,told him dont be silly you will improve but it will just take time so i hate to think what he is thinking or how he is really feeling as he is not one for opening up and saying ,hugs to all elaine

Hi Carol, not a ban (yet). we are going to Tenerife North for four weeks will be back on 27 September.

Ann
Glos

Good morning all.

We are off to Brittany at the crack of dawn tomorrow. Daughter and hubby should be here sometime in the early hours of tomorrow.Their 3rd child, Muelle, will be celebrating her 21st birthday (actually on 2nd sept.) tomorrow evening, boy, will WE feel up to it, after driving 11,500 kms.
Today is my daugher Sarah's son's 2nd birthday.Shame I can't be there.Floris is a lovely, funny little boy.

Am in bit of a muddle, will have to revise what I can take with me for a 12-day stay.Daughter mailed to say that their car is packed already...they flew out to their daughter Indra & co.bought a car to replace their ancient one, have drastically downsized, so it looks like a toothbrush and clean knickers will have to do...

Thank you for mentioning me, it is really nice to know that people care.

It is supposed to be sunny this weekend, so I hope you all can get out and about to enjoy it.

Take care everyone.

Eileen xx

Morning everyone

I still have a bit of a headache but not as bad as yesterday.

Hope everyone here has a friendly and happy day

(((((((((hugs to all )))))))))))

Gill

Ann going away for four weeks? Where you going?
Hope you have a lovely time and we will all miss you loads I'm sure xx Oh no it isn't a GR ban is it?

Gill how's the head this morning? xx

Liz any news about your friend? xx

Betty thanks for pm, can't wait for you to be back properly without using internet cafes. xx

Gail it must feel sad not to be able to feed a baby when it's something you realy wanted to do but I'm sure seeing him happy and content will help H feel happier herself. Will email you today if I have time to
get back on here. Son is off work so he hogs the puter xxx

Paula haven't seen you for a while xx

Don't think Dave will mind me telling you all he has a new job at the hotel he tried for earlier this year . Congratulations Dave x

Anyone seen any posts from Malc?

Jules do you still look in? Hope you are okay xx

Eileen how are you and the family ? x

Kathy is your kitchen back to normal now ? Hope you are okay xx

Elaine thinking of you and your oh xx

Deanna what are you doing this week end? x

Caz Y sending healing thoughts to you xx

Carolina how are you all x

Caz C thinking of you x

Anyone heard from Angela and Christina?

goodnight Gill Hope you wake with a clear head in the morning.

ann
Glos

hello everyone

My headache is just starting to lift but I am very tired and will go to bed now.

Hope you all have had a good day

(((((((((((((hugs to all )))))))))))))))))))

Gill

Whitenancy, but it is progress that they have replied and that they will be in contact once your Mum is home. Glad the job went OK. Not childcare but it is money coming in.

Gail, It is sad for your daughter that she wants to feed and can't and no doubt it is painful for her too. But when she sees how contented and pain free baby is I am sure she will feel she is doing the best thing for him.

Carole glad your Dad's pneumonia is better, even though you didn't know he had it!!

Gill hope you finally got rid of the headache.
Liz, it must be tiring for your OH having to cycle and then work long hours but he shouldn't take it out on you. Still thinking of your friend

I have a busy day tomorrow although will probably manage to squeeze in some time on here. Because the tomatoes have not ripened we have a glut of green ones so tomorrow I have the joy of making green tomato chutney. Not a job I enjoy, it makes the house smell and takes forever cooking them to a puree but we do enjoy the chutney so it has to be done. the tomatoes are beginning to go black because of the damp weather. Did pick a good pound of red ones today though. We go away on Sunday for 4 weeks so all these things have to be done immediately!

Ann
Glos