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Hi

If I did give up my hobbies, that would be giving into the OCD. Why would I want to give up genealogy just for a few OCD doubts?

Do any of you create imaginary people in your head at all? I do as In my mind, I make up this imaginary character and because she is only in my mind, she is my dream girl. She is 25, wears designer tracksuits (not the cheap baggy ones) mainly and jeans when she goes shopping, has straight brown hair, and his quite well built, and she has a boyfriend and 8 year old daughter but I have grown quite bonded with this imaginary character. I am creative. Also this character has emotions and feelings. I try to be as realistic as possible. But OCD does try and get in the way, and someone said shelve the mind character if she is only in the mind. No way, just for a few OCD thoughts? Why should I give up an imaginary creation which I like. I just have to alleviate the thoughts. Another OCD sufferer reckons that is creative and I should put the imaginary person to paper. It is just OCD getting in the way of things I enjoy. I am not in any rush to have a girlfriend and this imaginary girl is something I enjoy creating instead which I am happy with.

It gets in the way of genealogy. I wont shelve that just because of ocd.

Ben

Hi Everyone. Mary, how lovely to see you. Could just imagine Grandson hurtling across the stage and losing his pants!!! and good that the people were understanding about Sarah. I find it very difficult when out and young children are behaving badly. I try to be tolerant and think that maybe they are suffering with autism or the many other things that seem to be sent to try them nowadays. But I have no way of knowing if they are just badly behaved. have to give them all the benefit of the doubt.

Gail, nice chatting to you in PMs

Wendy (Cornish penguin) like the new name!!!! Hope all goes well with all the things you have going on and good that your daughter is getting somewhere bigger to live, bet she is excited.

Caroline, nice to see you, keep in touch.

Carole, Hi, does your hair look good now.

everyone else love and((((hugs))))

Ann
Glos

Hi everyone, it's waveyone, everything in my life seems to be changeing(some good some not so good) so I thought I would change my name . My son moves to Lincoln in 2 weeks time and I going to miss him deadfully.... .... the good news is that finally my daughter has found a house to rent and will be moving in October .... they have been living in a very tiny 1 bedroomed flat for years and with a 2 year old its not been easy..... I am looking forward to my brothers visit sometime in September.... I also have several more hospital appointments over the next few weeks...... I just hope I can deal with everything as there seems to be so much going on, it frightens me a little >>dont like change in my life ....

Hello extended family.

Mary wish I was there with you, sounds like you had a great time. And, aren't children just wonderful.

Pets are great for anyone, I have several, and can do amazing things when people are down.

Hopefully can come on tomorrow, will depend on OH, who is off work till Monday next, because of OP. I know he will be okay, still worry though. Just a pile up of things lately.

Ben, do not give up your hobbies, it is a good way to steer OCD. Especially if working with your hands. Mine got worse after I stopped working and could not do my hobbies any more. It took awhile to get motivated and find other things to occupy my mind. I do lots of puzzles now and love Su du ko, and doing my family tree. You can get through this, you are a good lad.

Carole how is your dad doing, is coming home any closer. Do not tire yourself out too much, we tend to do that when parents are not well.

Jeni-Rose, hope everything goes okay at the doctors.

Hi Liz, thank you for your support, helped me no end.

Carolina, love and hugs back

Christine, hope your visit with mum kept you busy.

Eileen, chin up. havnt seen you for a bit.

Where is Irene?? Busy working, let us know how you are.

Ann in glos (thank you for the PM's) you helped keep me sane over a bad period.

Betty, Yorkshire Caz, Cumbria Caz, Deanna, Betty, and any one I may have missed.

Love and hugs

Gail

Mary how very nice to see you. Such a funny story
about your grandkids. And your friend getting the dog, what a turn around.

Ben keep intouch with us. You are doing so well. Face the thoughts and challenge them, nothing will happen if you tell yourself you are not going to do what the thoughts are telling you. The more you face them and nothing happens you will see they are harmless.

Christine lovely to see you

My sister's birthday today.

Must get ready for work will be back much later as hair dresser is coming tonight

Love to you all

Well hello there all my cyber friends. Just popping in for a couple of minutes at work.
Should have the computer back by Sept 3rd or so, the monitor is fried, to top everything off, so waiting for a replacement as it's under warranty.
Life remains quite chaotic here, this weekend we had to go for my granddaughter Emlyn's pageant. She was doing modelling, demonstrating as a "TV personality" and dancing for her talent part. miniMary also participated in modelling (she won't be going into it professionally LOL) and talent (she wore her Tai Kwon Do outfit and broke some boards with her hand, elbow and foot for her 'talent'). very chuffed with herself.
The organiser asked my daughter to put wee Gareth (hell on wheels) in the pageant also as "he's a handsome little man". So reluctantly she did. While MiniMary was on stage with her group, all in their pretty dresses, her Mum was taking a photo and I was supposed to be holding Gareth in place in the audience. Doesn't he slip out of my grasp, and crawl quickly under the chair in front of me , bounced up and ran across the stage in front of the girls. As his Mum chased him (I was in disgrace for letting go of him), he, in his 3 piece suit, throws off his jacket, his suspenders are flying behind him and his pants fall down to his ankles. I was in trouble again because I couldn't stop laughing.

About an hour later, Sarah was pacing as usual in front of our chairs (in the second row)singing to herself and waving a hanger, doesn't she suddenly start patting the heads of everyone in the first row !! I didn't know what to do, where to look. But mercifully every one of them was understanding. and when she did it again, nobody said a word. I thanked them for their understanding. They were all so nice I was floored, it's not usually the response we get when people don't understand Autism.

I have to get back to work, just thought I'd say a huge thank you for all the pm's and caring while I've been offline, I miss you all and hope to be back regularly in a couple of weeks.I won't try and mention names, sending hugs to those who are in need of one today. I really miss you, had a few 'down days' in the past few weeks, but anxiety is the big issue for me at present. Not sure HOW I am going to cope with 4 kids of the activity level these are, on my own for 8 weeks. Panic is setting in, I just hope the 2 older girls don't decide it's time to develop womanly things, while their mother is gone. Can you imagine me chasing Sarah to keep the 'equipment ' in place ????? Give me strength.
I've been spending some time recently, helping a friend who has deep-seated depression, almost housebound, morbidly obese and refused to get out of the house. She wanted a puppy and her husband refused as he thought he would end up responsible for its care.
I talked to him out of her hearing, someone was giving away a Shihtsu, 2 years old, fully trained and I suggested to him that as he is often away for work, it would be good company for her and maybe motivate her to get out of the house. Didn't I get the shock of my life last week when she walked the 6 blocks to my house with the dog. Grinning from ear to ear. I cried, I was so shocked.
Yesterday she wanted to go to Niagara Falls where there were several free concerts outside throughout the day. She was listening to a choir perform when she realised her sister was in the front row. They hadn't seen each other for 5 years. A 2 hour "reunion" followed. She would have never gone to a concert 2 months ago. What huge progress since she got the dog. The pills by them selves were no help because she had nobody to talk with.

My baby turns 34 tomorrow the 19th, I just cannot fathom how I could possibly have a baby that's 34 already. I'm much too young (in spots which are getting harder to find LOL).
Hugs to all, I shall return, again many thanks for the supportive pm's, i get PC access about
twice a week for a very short time.
Mary

just sending my love and hugs to all

carolina xx

Hi

I am not feeling too good at the minute. I have been having mental obsessions which I cant seem to get rid of and such.

I have a few hobbies but OCD can occasionally get in the way of them. Someone suggested I shelve them which is a stupid suggestion as on the whole I enjoy them. If I did shelve them, not only would that be giving into the OCD but my OCD would only get in the way of my new hobbies. That is why I am not happy at the minute as well.

Ben

Hello Carole,Hope your ok
Hi Gail,I have been thinking of youxx
Seems such along time since i have been able to come on here...Mum gone back home now,
I am exhausted ,but i miss her.
Love to all.
Christine xx

WOW EEEE,
We did the 4000, hows about that then?
I never thought we would make it this far, and used to worry about how we would manage without the thread!

Congratulations to us all.

I could not come on, I have not bee too great.
I find I can't eat grapes now either!!
Felt good enough this morning to put a wash in, and DUST.... now that is me feeling energetic.

Hi everyone, Betty Carole, Gail, Ann, Eileen, Elaine, Jenni- Rode, Maxi Mary... hope your PC gets better soon.
My son still away in France. Seems to be resting, hope it does him the world of good and comes home feeling relaxed.

well folks, see you all tomorrow hopefully.
Jill still not well, but I'm not phoning for a day or two. Bless them both.
Good night all.
lots of love my cyberpals,
Deanna XXX

Thanks Ann, I could have got a repeat prescription, but as too much time has elapsed they say I need to see GP...but thats not a bad thing..will let you know outcome..

Jenni-Rose x

that is good Jenni rose.

Ann
Glos

Gonna see my GP 2morrow..........

Jenni-Rose

If Eileen had not deleted I would have had it two up.

Had a lovely hot bath, OH is home early, which never ever happens. So am going to watch some TV with him for a change. He always works 2 pm to 12 am. Sometimes 3 am latest. So is a big change to have him home.

Love to all

Gail

Well done gail!

No but I am Ann in Glos.


4000 th.

Gail

DEANNA are you watching this!! you could add the 4000th post.

Ann
Glos

Hi all. Have been trying to get some family tree work done.

My husband has an operation on Thursday, day surgery, and as there is no one else I have to drive home. Very scared, know I will do it but the fear is still there.

Grandson has been having some tummy trouble, and now they think he is allergic to breast milk. Daughter is very upset just now, but told her not to worry until tests come back. It never rains but pours does it.

Will be back after dinner.

love and hugs

Gail

Ah, that explains why the numbers of the postings have gone up and down.
I am easily confused but was watching the numbers because of how close it is to 4000 and was sure that when i went to bed it was 3996, and then it was the same after two more postings in the night. Unfortunately it makes a nonsence of following threads, never mind.
Ann
Glos

Hello everyone.

Good to hear that you enjoyed yourself at the ballet Carole.It is ages since I went with my eldest daughter in London.

Have to leave here in another hour to help a daughter in Amsterdam.
This may sound strange, but I am going to delete several of my messages, because I would hate it if 'something happened to me', and my children would read just how bad I feel. Morbid or what?Hope you all understand what I mean.

Love to all from Eileen xx