General Chat

Hi Irene, glad things are looking good for you and nice to see you on here.

Gail. As usual Liz has said it for me and as usual she talks a lot of sense. Please do not take on the guilt of your siblings. They feel guilty because theyw ork and feel they can't look after your Dad so their solution is to shift the guilt onto you. Please put your own health first and, do as Liz says. write and explain how bad your disability is and how doing too much will make it worse. How selfish people can be, they have possibly put this into your Dad's head so he thinks he should come first before everything with you because you don't work and they do. What would they do if you were suddenly able to work I wonder?

Betty, So sad isn't it when we almost expect people to take out belongings? Sorry you didn't get your purse back, just hope the money was spent on food not drink/drugs.

Ann
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hi everyone i've been gone for awhile getting on with life as they say glad to see the support is still going strong. been following a dream of mine may have just got myself a job at a local stable and a traineeship at 45 its going to be a big change. I just have to wait an see if it all turn out now Love and hugs to all chin's up everyone and remember everydays a new start Irene

Hi Gail, just want to say sorry that you are being blamed for things out of your control, and not to feel bad cos you have your own family to consider as well as your Dad, much as you want to help him.

Hard as it is, you have to put your foot down with a firm hand and tell your siblings you are not physically able to take on all the responsibility and they have to help too. Maybe write them all a letter and keep yourself a copy so you know what you wrote, write the same to all of them, and then instead of not really listening if you say stuff on the phone, they will read and re read and discuss between themselves.
What would happen if you had to go and help your daughter again or even just wanted to visit. You cannot and should not be held to ransom like this, so dry those tears and tell those lot to get off their butts and do their share.
Big hugs to you,
Lizxx


Positive thoughts and hugs for all, I am to muddle headed to reply to everyone, I am sorry.

Carole, I will say that I don't know if fm can cause dizziness and faint feelings but used to have one arm go into spasm sometimes and my fingers would sort of stick out and be rigid, only for a few seconds and then ok. Haven't had it happen for ages tho and didn't know why.

Lizxx

Thank you for your support.

Rach, I too had a day of tears, just fed up.

Had over ten phone calls yesterday, telling me I must do this and must do that for my dad, also was away too long when dad was ill. Must visit him every day. Nobody has suggest how I am to do this.

Dad kept checking himself out of hospital as wanted to be at home. By doing this they could not get his pain levels under control. I did get aged care involved and organised respite care for him. I think he is angry because of this. I looked after him for a week, and it was exhausting as 24 hour job. The respite is a brand new, state of art facility and very home like. They are getting him back on his feet as well.

And yes, I now agree, he is behaving very child like. Now that I am home again it has all been dumped back onto me and I know I should not, but feel resentful, I have 3 siblings, who are all able bodied. Their excuse is that they all work and I don't. They all knew I was going away, I had my mobile with me, but when I arrived home there were 6 messages on my home phone, for when I got back. GRRRR.

I am thinking of you all, but having a very bad time.

Yorkshire Caz, my heart goes out to you and your family. At times like these it is difficult to put into words and very hard to say what you feel. But we are all here for you and thinking of you. Bless lovely lady.

Love and hugs to all

Will try and read back a few pages after visiting dad today, so I can catch up a bit.

Take care

Gail

goodnight Rach. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

Ann
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I am really unhappy and tearful today but I had to come and say goodnight to all you lovely people sleep well and may all your dreams be happy ones
Rachxxxxxxx

Hi Ben, so good to see you. Best thing you did then to block her wasn't it. You don't need her input. It is your research, you do it the way you want and don't let others so doubt in your mind.

Haven't seen you on here for a while so it is good that you popped in.

Ann
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Hi

I am not feeling too bad at the minute. I have had a few ruminations. I did join another genealogy forum but then left because some member was constantly nitpicking at a family history finding and picking holes. I then blocked her as that was enhancing doubting with my OCD and I think she wondered why I blocked her. I am a member of several FT forums and have asked for others opinions and they all reckon it is all very liekly and so does a distant cousin. It is just horrible when some know all picks away at the smallest of holes and tries to argue constantly. This is not good for my OCD. Some of her friends were backing her up but only because they are her chums.

Ben

Hi gill, what wars are you fighting?

Hope you are keeping OK now you are off the medication.
thanks for the (((hugs)))

Here is one back to you (((((hug))))))

Ann
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Thanks for the hugs Gill.. here is one for you too (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) you can of course share them if you want. lol

Yes Ann, it was Liz.. sorry for telling you off ;-0) She let me know anyway.

Missed that this morning about Betty's purse. It is awful when we lose a purse.
Apart from the money which may have been in it, if you are anything like me Betty you carry around all you 'heart' in it.
I carry little pictures, little keepsakes, little religious medals and prayers which my friend Mary is constantly saying for us.
I have more things I love in my purse than in my handbag.
I hope you get it back Betty and I hope that an honest person finds it.

Off again... see you tomorrow, unless I get lonely and need a chat... ha ha ha

Good night... I think ;-0)

Love Deanna XXX

Deanna, thoughts for your friend Jiill.
Although I have read the island, and excellent book, I think it was Liz who told you about it!

Liz I can empathise re the HRT, that w as what made me put on weight. Even though the Drs deny it happens - what do they know if they don't take it?

Rach, sorry you are still under par. I also think it is the weather. In the paper today is a piece about how people are suffering from the equivalent of SADS, which is normally only suffered in the winter months, because we have not had any sun this summer.

Gail, your Dad is acting like a big kid and sulking as only elderly parents can do. Ignore it and hopefully he will come round.

Carole you are talking yourself into toilet problems on Monday. Enjoy your weekend, try and forget what you are doing Monday. Take an imodium and you will be OK.

Elaine, hope all well with hubby.

Betty any sign of your lost purse?

Ann
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Elaine.... a sign from above for your husband??
Looks like it to me love.
Men don't take infirmity well but you should try and look after YOU too.
He will be well. If they wanted to keep him in for a day or two, you should have let them.
You are going to be exhausted looking after him and worrying as you do. x

Carole I hope your head is a bit better by now.
How do you manage yo keep everyone in mind like that... you are amazing.
I have had a couple up quite *iffy* days, today so far has been good, so as usual I decide to do a job I am not really able for!
Job done, but I did suffer for about an hour. x

Jeannie, Carole is right... yoghurt.... better than any medication you can buy.
Cools burns too. x

Ann.... have I told you before to stop telling me about good books??
I'm behind already.
Was it you who told me about *The Island* by Victoria Hislop?
I bought it, and it is sitting waiting for ME to finish my current read.. the hard backed one.. but I am nearly finished it.
A brilliant read. Birds Without Wings, by Louis de Bernieres... x

Gail... I am with Carole in this one... your dad is punishing you. You know what they say, we become our children's CHILD! Don't you give it a second thought. Just hang on to the knowledge that you are a good daughter. x

THANKS LIZ....... yet another book to look for!! The Butterfly Box.... will you stop giving me ideas.... I'm running out of money... there's a *squeeze* on you know.. ;-0) x

Hope you are feeling a little better now Rach. It does take time to get over an illness doesn't it? x

Carole... take the Imodium the day before you have to go. If you are not confident, take one today, and then again tomorrow.

Right... to Betty, Easter Bunny, and anyone else that I have not spoken to I have to go as I have just been told that my coffee is ready... so I'm off.xx

Before I go I have to say that my friend Jill I told you of is in hospital. I phoned today to see how she is (she had a bad fall) and her husband told me that they had taken her in.
So a few thoughts for Jill please??
Thank you.
Love to all
Deanna XXX

and I have a head ache!! Will get some tablets after I've done this.

Rach I didn't know you had the flu, hope you are soon better. Take it easy for a few days xxx

Snow White slap some natural yogurt on it!! That's what my friend used to do. But really you can get some over the counter stuff for thrush now. Hope you feel okay at the birthday party. Happy birthday to your little granddaughter xxx

Liz my friend at work just found she has FM. Do you know if it can cause you to feel dizzy and faint? This happened to her at work last week, she said she couldn't move her arm, but it started to move on it's own, and when she felt better said it looked like a 3d hand moving in front of her. She always has pains mostly in her legs at the moment. Love to you xxx

Betty no wonder you are tired. You have a lot going on in your life. Leave some house work for a while I'll give you time off lol xxx

Gail your dad is sulking for you leaving him. Old bug*** . He'll come round, don't worry. Forget it, you had a lovely time and deserved it. I know it's annoying that he doesn't seem interested in X but that's him being silly. He is missing out on a beautiful baby xx

Elaine how strange about the bracelet.
Your hubby is being another silly Bug***! What a worry for you. How did you cope with your surprise trip to hospital ? xx

Well off to get some tablets my head feels very strange. I have a very long journey to work Monday so am worried about that! Wonder if I should take a couple of imodiun which I haven't taken for 10 months. Have to travel with two women and a man.
He said we can stop for the loo any time , but there are no toilets any time!! See you all later xxxx

Morning everyone haven't been about to much had the flu for starters and I am really struggling to feel "happy" and some days I wonder what life is all about! Its difficult to be positive at all at the moment
Hope you are all well
Love and hugs
Rachx

Gunna have a winge now.

Got to visit my dad yesterday and show him new picks of his great grandson. Dad is in respite care for another couple of weeks.

He looks really well and I am happy with that. But he was not interested in the photos or grandson and would hardly talk to me. Then said had to go and eat so you'd better go now. I feel very hurt. I kept in touch by phone when away and he was okay then.

Is he punishing me for going away??

I feel like a bad daughter just now.

Gail

Hi Betty, hope you will get some rest tomorrow as you don't have to go in to work.
No news of the purse I suppose?

You take care, try and make some time for yourself.
love and hugs
Lizxx

Elaine, that's kind of spooky about the bracelet.
Hope your hubby will be ok, stubborn man lol

Carole, great minds think alike eh? lol

Ann, I have turned into my Mum and her sisters lol but also the weight piled on when I went on hrt and now I have fm and cfs I can't move about fast.
Before I had fm etc I was always on the go and all my neighbours and friends used to say they couldn't understand why I was gaining weight when I never stopped dashing about on errands or working as a cleaner/carer and childminder as well as walking the dog, shopping using a tartan trolley lol as no car for several years and other stuff.

Lizxx

afternoon all well we went docs and she ended up sending us straight to the hospital were weve spent most of the day hubbys had ecg ,and xrays done his heart is still in af even though while he was having valves replaced he also had af ablation done his bp is also low they put a wrist band on him and one of the nurses said they might keep him in but he told them no way so he bk at home they told me to ring them straight away if theres a problem ,well did you all read about my dream this morning well another thing has happend when walking to docs i found a childs silver bangle and on it its got twinkle twinkle little star engraved on it well how strange look at my name on here ,odd or what hugs to all elaine

morning everyone.
Betty so sorry about your purse, but do try the police station to see if it was found! Miracles do still happen. Hope your meeting with the man today brings you some help with your mission! Can't wait to hear what he tells you. Exciting.

Liz when ever I read a post you leave I think I'd put that, but you already said it! ( ie mommylonglegs)

Thinking of Jules and her family, such a sad situation. xx

Kathy how are you getting on having those men in the house with you? xx

Elaine hope he goes to doctors today. Love to you and oh xx

Gail you're never too old to swing! Sounds relaxing
xx

Carolina how are you and your family? xx

Gill hope you are okay xx

Caz Y sending you love to help you get through xx

Deanna, haven't heard much from you this week.
Love to you xx

Christine hope you have a good time with your mum xx

Ann G good luck with your diet. xx

Snow White how are you? xx

Liz, I wonder if your inability to lose weight is to do with your lifestyle:- That is sleeping in the day and being up in the night. I have read that people who work nights have weight problems, something to do with when they eat their meals, can't remember exactly (what is new?). do you eat at odd times as well as sleep at odd times?

all of the books I have mentioned have time shifts in them with a connection between the eras. I have seen Labrynth in charity shops. the last two mentioned -Sepulchre and Forgotten garden will be reviewed on 24 July on the greaders thread.

Ann
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