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just poped in to say im realy on a downer its all caught up with me i think and i just want him home and wana be with him not at home alone had lots of tears today im leaving in a min to go see him a houirs drive away im getting better at traveling though so thats ok ,here we go again tears rolling catch you all later when i get back hugs to all elaine x

Hi Elaine, well hope you got some rest and can keep getting a breather during your trips to the hospital. I hope your hubby makes a great recovery now he has got the anaesthetic out of his system, so that you will be less worried.
Carole, and Mary, thanks for your lovely thoughts, I don't quite know how to get out of this feeling but I expect it will pass, been this road before. All quietish on the home front at the mo, I spent most of the afternoon on the sunlounger outside as such a lovely day, kept waking myself up with a snort lol.
Watered all the pots and tubs later and then got a meal, o.h. was tired so went to bed before 10pm, he is on early shift and hates being in a hot factory in this weather. My friend from Germany phoned as he went up, so I was able to have a natter with her, she has fm diagnosed last year, altho 12 yrs younger than me and now she has r.a. as well as o.a. so not happy, but in Germany she gets offered lots of drugs to help her illness, not like here where they don't seem to care what or if they give you anything.
I have known her for nearly 40 yrs so we are good pals, altho we don't see each other often cos she has lived abroad a lot.
I didn't get to London to see Ros as I couldn't face travelling in the heat, and coping with London when it was hot, Ros said it was roasting when she got there on Monday. I do feel I let her down tho.
My cousin is pressurising me to say when I will visit her for a week or so, she doesn't understand how tired I get and when I go she thinks she can just tell me to change my ways and it will happen, ie. I can sleep when she sleeps and get up when she does, she is a lark and I am an owl so it is difficult, also she doesn't realise that the drive there tires me and with the fm and cfs, it takes me a day to recover.
I don't have the money for the petrol at the mo either, as she doesn't drive, never has, and expects me to take her here there and everywhere when I visit, which I don't mind if I feel ok and can get the petrol. I like to pay her towards the food etc too so have to wait till I can afford to go - wish she would understand.
Catch you all tomorrow maybe, thanks for support and sending love to all.
Lizxx

hi everyone a big thank you for all your kind wishes ,well ,its been a horrible week ive only just got back from stoke hospital and feel so guilty to leave hubby there , well here goes a update he was took down to theatre last week on thursday morning a four hour opp turned into a 6 1/2 hours then into icu were he remaind unconcious and on a ventilator for 5 days as he wasnt responding to any thing when they to him of sadation was a frightning sight i tell you then becauce he wasnt responding they took him for a ct scan on sunday dinner time to see if he had had a stroke or a bleed into brain i was at my worst that day i tell you ,but got all clear on ct so surgion said it was just the anestitic taking longer to come out of his system ,last night he finaly woke up a little so now he in hdu ward he is talking a little ,i didnt want to come home and leave him there on his own i feel so guilty but i no i hato have a breather from the hospital as ive been there since last week me an daughter sat buy his side every day xxelaine xxam so tired

HI everyone
I hope some of you got to enjoy the sunshine today in the Uk, a little bit of sun always lifts my spirits a little.
I enjoyed my daughters sports day she really enjoyed it, still a little tearful today had a little argument on the way home from school with my little girl, a battle of wills with a seven year old can be a little distressing, especially when she is as stubborn as I am, I suppose she has to have some of my traits! We are friends again made up over a hug and a bowl of hagen das! What better way to make up!
Take care everyone!
x
lou

I'm here Mary.

I had planned on coming here today and having a good chat with everyone... the road to **** is paved with good intentions, as they say.

I answered my e-mails, and then went to have a quick look at the G board. spent ages reading the ridiculous messages from one particular lady on the subject of a child's birthday invitations!!
I could not believe my eyes.... I may be wrong of course... I very often am, 9 out of 10 times actually.... but that is a form of bullying.

Never mind... all gone now.

I have had such a good time.. mentally and physically just lately... and as usual, I decided that I was getting better.
Slept like a log last night for about 10 hours... could not wake up, and when Allan woke me, I was shocked to see how ill I felt!
It is such a dreadful feeling when you have yet one more 'slump' isn't it?
I am always so upset by it... I should try and be prepared for it. It happens all the time.

Has anyone heard of Elaine and her man yet?
My Tony is also down, but then he has reason to be. Bless him.

Do any of you get upset at really STUPID things?
I do and it makes me feel like a child. I can't help it, it just affects me worse than ever it could in my life.
I know all about mountains and mole hills... but it doesn't help, does it?
I also know that I will get over it. but that is no help either.

Coming on here when I feel like this is such a help to me... thank you all.

Puss, I know you have been worried about David, but I have not been able to find anywhere, why you are worried.
He was doing so well wasn't he?
Bless him, it is always one thing after the other.
Whatever it is love, I just hope that David and you will be okay... in fact... I KNOW YOU WILL. XX
Just read a bit that made me understand Puss.
You did well, and David will be fine.XX

Lou, hope you enjoyed your daughters sports day. I love those memories, and I should realise , when I'm being down, that I am so lucky to have them. X

Well tea is almost ready, and I will have to close down.
You will think I am stupid.... but a good chat on here gives me a great feeling.
I think that is what your councillor is doing wrong 'telling you what to talk about'.
I always understood that you did your own talking and found your own answers by doing so!
Am I wrong again? SO... who is surprised?

well everyone, thank you for being there.

Carole, who knows everyone and what to say.
Mary Lou, Mary, Carolina, both Caz's, Lorraine.... keep smiling love, Paula, Jules, Nancy, Joyce where are you lately, hope you are well. Rach and Kathy, Angela, hope you are getting better love.
Ben Malc, and anyone else that I may have missed.

Look after yourselves, and I'll be back.... did that depress you all?? ;-0)

Good night all,
lots of love,
Deanna XXX

Morning all, sorry everyone seems to be having a bad day.
Carole enjoy your day, you're a strong lady, you'll do well.
Liz I wish I could pick you up, lift you out of the situation. How can we help, don't want to harass you but neither do we want you to be 'down' on your own.
Puss I hope you've been able to get some much-needed sleep,knowing David is safe.
Angela, hope you are also getting some rest.
Carolina {{{hugs}}} hope you are doing OK.
Caz hoping for pain relief for you.
Deanna, where are you?
It is a beautiful day here, clear blue skies, sunny but not excessively hot. heading to the garden soon.
The cat has been vet-checked and declared healthy, she's being very cuddly..
Megan's mood has improved thank goodness, so the whole house is calmer (and cleaner LOL, when she's 'up' , she cleans everything in sight ).
There should be fireworks displays tonight for Canada Day so we'll take the kids to watch them.
Good day all, hope those who are down can absorb some of the sunshine I am sending your way.
Mary

got busy day off to a dyspraxia meeting today. The thought of the drive there terrifies me and am quietly panicking that i wont find anywhere to park /end up horrendously late etc etc.

Love and ((((((hugs))))) to all those having a bad day.

Claire

Morning, are we all having a downer? Liz hold my hand we'll get through this. xx
Kathy I know it's painful I'm going through it myself.
Please try to keep it up. You will get stronger after it. All the things you told me, can't you print it out and take that with you? xx
Carolina hope things are getting better for you soon xx
Loraine hope you had a good nights relaxing sleep xx
Caz Y sending you healing thoughts xx
Caz C how are you these days? xx
Lou have a really good cry, let the tension out. Do you try relaxation when you are on your own? xx
Well I hardly slept last night today is a long journey to work. I have thought about ringing in sick, but darne't as I had four months off last year due to my problem and the side affects of it.
Better get ready to go. Love to all those I haven't mentioned this morning xx

Just want to say that things are difficult again, and I am so tired, I can't write much individually. I feel so bad that I don't even get round to replying to your pms and emails so please do forgive me, my head is all over the place. I am not purposely ignoring you, I just can't keep up with everything.
love to all,
Lizxxxx

Good luck for tomorrow Kathy
love and hugs
Rachx

Hi all

My thoughts go out to all of you having difficult times .

I have got an appointment tomorrow that I am not looking forward to . I have been asked to rate my most difficult experiences in order . I have gone over this for a week now and they are all horrible how can you rate one more than another ? .Just thinking back on them has been horrible so I don't think I will carry on with this therapy as I have not felt any different probably more anxious if any thing . Who want's to remember bad things

Love and hugs to you all

Kathy xxx

love and positive thoughts to all and a big (((hug))) for Puss
Rachxxxxx

HI everyone!
So many of you have got so much to deal with at the moment my thoughts go to you all!
A bit tearful at the moment so reading this thread has made me grab for the kleenex for the 5th time today, I even cried at an episode of a chidrens cartoon, what the hell is wrong with me? Need to get a grip!
Had a weekend all to myself, hubby went away mountain climbing and my daughter stayed at her grans, thought it would be a break for me but rattling around the house for two days gave me plenty of time to 'think' but in the negative sense, tried to keep busy, the house has never been so clean! It would be lovely to be able to turn it off.
Ah feel a bit better having a rant, still on my waiting list for a councillor but not holding my breath for anything soon.
I will have to put my happy hat on tommorrow, its my daughters sports day, may need to take some tissues something else will probably set me off! lol
Take care

lou
x

Love to everyone here, you are all stars xxxxxxxxxx

Just reading what you have all put today. Thinking of you all. I'm so tired, so off to bed early. Tomorrow is a bad day for traveling so I don't think I'll get much sleep. Been a funny smell tonight in lounge, just realised it's my slippers!!!

hi all sorry i haven't added to the thread but i have been reading it sending my love and hugs to all that need them at the moment


carolina xx

puss
i have pm you with lots of info about being a carer info that someone should have given you long ago.
Hope some of it helps and let me know if there is anything else i can do.

Chin up

wanted to come on here and thankyou lovely people for your support david has been placed in a safe home until the weekend with hopefull proper care , your support really helped me thnkyou i will always read on hear and offer my support xxxx

Dear Lorraine, we are with you, trusting David will get the help he needs.
You are showing 'tough love', doing what is in his best interests, no matter how much it hurts.
Hugs
Mary

Puss I have been thinking of you all morning, I'm sending prayers and positive thoughts to you to make the right decision, which I know you will for Davids sake. Everyone who has read the thread this morning will be with you at 11.

Thanks Paula it has eased a bit but made my eyes water, got a bit scared actually and got stuck in the kitchen as I daren't move. I'll be in danger of overdosing on painkillers at this rate so am not doing anything else today.

Caz xx