General Chat

Morning everyone

I hope you have a nice day

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))

Gill

Just read all the posts since I went away and want you to know I am sending positive thoughts, hugs and love to everyone who is struggling, some doing better than others at the mo but we all know how there are highs and lows.
I start my counselling again next week but I haven't heard from the counsellor who said she would call before I went away about some cognitive behaviour therapy . I do feel she doesn't alway cope well with all she has to do so sometimes feel let down.
I have to say I was very good on holiday and hardly bought anything, or spent much, so haven't added too much clutter. Did buy some more flipflops, with sparkly bits on, just had to have those, and bought a couple of books but read them and left them at the cottage for others. I bought one remnant of fabric, another of my 'things', red voile with gold painted pattern on to cheer somewhere or something when I get my house straight or will make a nice stole on warm evenings. I got a lovely charcoal sketch in a frame, from a charity shop, of trees and ducks on water, which sort of sums up the area where we stayed, there is a big duck pond but the ducks wander all over the village, I followed one with her ducklings, they were so cute and waddled ahead of me along the pavement as I took photos. There are also lots of trees around, everywhere was very green and it is near the Norfolk Lavender fields and shop. I got a Chocolate Mint plant there like MaxiMary's, and also was given by someone I was talking to in the village, a dark maroonypurple Oxalis, so hope it won't die on me. O.h. bought me two terracotta hanging planters in different sizes, painted lilac so will put the new plants in them and hang them up.

Got taken out for dinner three times and two lots of fish and chips from the local chippy so not too bad. Did get away a couple of times to meet with people off here and had the afternoon to myself today, Weds,after I had packed all my things into the car ready for home. As we took two cars, he went earlier with a lot of things as he had to go into work at 2, we stayed an extra night at no cost, as the weather was still nice but it is cold and dull now in Norfolk, yes I know it is night, but not been such a warm day and forecast not so good.
I was hoping to have the w/e to myself while he went to his son's 40 odd miles away for Father's Day but he is saying he is too tired to get ready and get the train etc on Sat morning. I keep telling him his son will be sooo disappointed lol, and so will I if he stays home lol
Will catch up with you all tomorrow, still haven't unpacked everything from the car and washing etc to do tomorrow.
love
Lizxx

Hi Kathy, sorry I have probably missed you.
I am trying to catch up with all that has gone on in the past 12 days since I went on holiday, the days went be very fast and sadly the weather didn't perk up till this last Sunday when I met up with Muffy, and we nattered for a couple of hours at a cafe by the beach. Have you managed to get to your beach yet?
I didn't realise how warm it was and got really sunburned in a few places, so have been bright red since then and didn't help it any when I sat out on a sunlounger on Monday afternoon - completely private garden so I bared more than I usually do and got those bits red too lol Not painful tho and I do have some colour now, but I know it isn't the sensible way to tan, even tho it isn't a good idea to tan anyway but with fake stuff lol

Sue M, I can understand your shock and dismay at being told this latest info (well, Nov 06 is not latest ) but I am glad you can keep a sense of humour and put the possibility to the back of your mind. I too struggle with finding the right word now and then, more and more really, but put mine down to age and tiredness from the fm etc. I can only suggest continuing to eat healthily and to keep your brain exercised with puzzle mags etc as apparently this helps keep the mind stimulated and on track. A big hug for you anyway for telling us about what is happening to you, or what might happen. I think there is no use stressing yourself about it as that will just make things worse so treating it as you are doing, with humour, is the best way forward.
Lots of luck to you,
Missed everyone on the threads while I was away but did meet some nice people during my stay on the coast.
Love
Lizxxx

Hi all
Been busy in the garden as usual.

Sue M welcome and glad you got the courage to post . This is the place to write your worries / feelings knowing you are among friends . We are all odd balls in a nice way so glad you have joined the gang.
Tina sorry to hear of your problems .I can relate as I had to share the house with my ex for 2 years ( solicitors advised us both not to move out ) .It was hell but at the end of it we parted not exactly friends but we were not enemies any more . Hope things work out for you .
Christine sorry your counsellor was not any use . Have you thought of any other treatments?
Waveyone it is early days .You have done so well and you know he is now out of pain .Try to remember the good times and know that he is never far from you even though you can't see him xxx
whitenancy welcome . You are worrying and doubting yourself .We have all been there and it is understandable .We are all here for you and we will try to help with the confidence issue .
Just noticed how late it is and cinderella DOES need her beauty sleep so I wish you all a good day tomorrow
love
Kathy xxx

Ok courage in both hands. I have deliberately avoided this board debating whether I should reveal something or not.

I have told one person on here recently and I don't want sympathy just acceptance.

I was told in November 2006 that I have clinical symptoms which relate to early onset dementia. There are large areas in my brain which are dead as they have been starved of blood. I was having headaches and had an MRI and was told after the films had been studied. It came as a bit of a shock.

I am used to my body falling apart but this diagnosis was unexpected to say the least.

Strangely I rarely think about it. Only when I can't remember a word or what a plant is called or the name of an actor does it rear it's ugly head. That might be just a failing memory bank I don't know.

Anyway, if you notice me going gaga please tell me because I'll be the last to acknowledge it..lol
I still have a sense of humour.

Please don't label me I couldn't bear that.

Love to everyone who is suffering physically and mentally.

Sue xx



I have no idea if this will worsen and how quickly if it does.

Hello everyone,
I am reading this ,so much earlier tonight,I dont usually say much as i have learnt to keep everything to my self, its just the way i am.But here goes....Last year my Doctor booked me into councelling,It took months for my appointment,I did not know what to expect,I went twice.For me she was a waste of time,She did not get near to understanding what a state i was in.How could i go back to my Doctor and say that.There must be some fantastic ones out there,but my bad luck i had her.It must feel so good to sit down with someone,start at the begining...and get to today.I must sound awful, sorry i just wanted to say it.
MY love and thoughts to everyone on here,
Christine

That is very true Joyce, why didn't I think of that. whitenancy of course it is more of a challenge than a problem.

Ann
Glos

Whitenancy hi xx

Yes lass, all of us on this thread have worries and problems and each one is worthy of each others help and attention, that is why we exist as a 'family' thread, we care about you so please don't knock yourself xx.

Can I make a small suggestion, that you change the usage of the word 'problem' to 'challenge' in your situation, does it not conjure up the image of taking a step forward into the unknown just to see what lies ahead for you?..just remember lass, you have come this far so why not that step further.
I can imagine that you feel your future is an unknown entity and formidable and yes, possibly frightening but wow a 'challenge' indeed..you can do it lass and remember all of us will be here to assist you on your way.

Take care,

JoyceP xx

As has been said many times on here. Our worries are important to us, our pain is felt by us. We know your worries are important because they are your worries.

Ann
Glos

at the moment i dont feel like i am worth worrying about there seem to so many people who have real problems

Whitenancy
what are you apologising for? Of course you are allowed to be scared, and your worries are not trivial. When you are studying and at college youa re in a protected environment. It is scary tot hink of being out in the world looking for work. But you will be OK I promise. Once you find a job, you can see if you like it, then if you don't you look for something else. your studying will never be wasted.Come back on and talk to us. You will get a lot of support here.

When you get accepted for an interview come on here and talk and you will get lots of advice.

Ann
Glos

sorry

morning everyone im sorry il have to catch up with all your posts later as hubby ant been to good since lats night he asleep now so id thought id pop on here he very unbaanced and giddy (like he is drunk )but he isnt he managed to get up this morning and hasnt moved os sofa since he now asleep ,well as for me had my counciling yesterday went better than last time only cried once but have hato cancil next two visits with her as ill be at hospital with hubby then she away on her hols for another two weeks so carnt see haer again till middle of july so will you all take her place till then lol hugs to all xxxelaine xx

jeannie, thank you for the update. I hope your MiL continues to get better. Things will naturally take longer because of her age but it sounds as though she has a lot lof love and support around her.

Wavyone. We are all thinking of you as you reach this time of year again.

Whitenancy. Good luck with your job seeking. I am sure you will find what you are looking for. doesn't matter if it is not the first job you find, keep looking until you find what you want. these days jobs are not for life and nobody looks askance if you change jobs.

What would be your ideal job then?

Ann
Glos

My problems seem so trivial compared to some of the other problems people have, but i am getting really anxious. In just over 2 weeks i finish my college course and then have to start looking for a job but i am so scared that i wont be able to get the sort of job i want and will end up stacking shelves which would be a waste of a years hard work at college. I have never really had ambition until now and i know in my heart i can do it but the rest of me is running away scared to death of what the future holds the thought of applying for jobs and going for interviews makes me want to run away and hide.
sorry for running on

waveyone, you will never be alone on this thread. What an awful time you have coming up but you have got through a very rough year. Love and hugs to you
Janetx

Only a week to go until the aniversary of Dave's death, so not in a good mood at the moment, I keep reading all the threads and I know how other people are feeling and I know that I'm not alone....

Jeannie,
any news on your MiL? We are all thinking of her.

Ann
glos

Morning everyone

(((((((((((((((big hugs for EB))))))))))))))) positive thoughts for you hun

((((((((((((big hugs for Tina)))))))))))))) I am praying for you to gain strength and comfort hun

((((((((((((big hugs for Jeanie)))))))))))))) positive thought for you your MIL.

and to everyone else ((((((hugs)))))) I hope you have a good day.

Gill

(((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) for Jeannie
and ((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))) for Tina
thinking of you and praying for strength to cope for you both
Paula xxxx